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【Question】1: Teacher, I procrastinate with my studies and do not enjoy reading, often using busyness as an excuse to avoid learning.

Answer: People think reading is learning, and everything else is not. Or they think attending classes is learning, and everything else is not. This is actually a misconception. Any learning that is not aimed at solving problems will eventually fade away because we do not know what to do with what we have learned. If you encounter problems in life that bother you, you will learn with the aim of solving these problems.

For example, if you are poor, you will think about how to escape poverty and will not simply accept being poor and miserable. Or if people look down on you and you want them to respect you, you need to study how to solve this. Learning related to making a living is especially important. It is a tragedy if a person cannot make a living. If you are always busy with work but still cannot support yourself, can you take some time to figure out if you are doing the right kind of work and if your methods are effective? Therefore, if you think learning is just pretending to read a book, it will be difficult to persist.

Today, we must all understand why we need to read God's Word? It is still to solve problems. If you do not want to solve any problems, then you must continue to live that way and continue to suffer. So, active learning is about solving problems, while passive learning is about not wanting to solve any problems, or the solution is too far away, which is troublesome, and you cannot keep learning. For example, can a child's good schooling solve the problem of making a living in the future? This in itself is a question. Many people study for many years, obtain many degrees, but still struggle to make a living. It is better to first understand what we want to do, such as making a living. If we want to be an accountant, we need to pass the primary and intermediate accounting exams, or become a certified public accountant, or whatever else we need to figure out.

Procrastination is common. During my lectures, you need to develop a new habit, as habits determine destiny. Having a habit of procrastination means a life of procrastination, and you certainly do not want to live that kind of life. So, whether we are learning, reading, or doing anything else, as long as it is aimed at solving problems, it is powerful. I do not know if this answers your question. You can ask more questions if you have them.

【Question】2: While sorting out concepts, a question suddenly occurred to me: When establishing a belief system and wanting to understand the priorities on a cognitive level, where should I start and what should I study first?

Answer: I think you can start anywhere. Do not think that because you are busy, you only eat and do not drink water. Actually, when you are thirsty, you drink water; when you are hungry, you eat; when you are sleepy, you sleep. There is no priority; they are all about the same. Establishing a belief system must be a gradual process from simple to complex.

【Question】3: Teacher, I encounter some things at work that I do not understand. Others explain how they calculated it, but I still cannot wrap my head around it and cannot understand. I am okay with memorizing things, but I get a headache when it comes to number conversions.

Answer: Then start learning with simple numbers. Many people want to learn complex things right away and do not want to start from the basics, which will definitely confuse them. One child always thought that 2+3 equals 8. Finally, I taught him that 2+3 equals 5. Because I discovered that this child did not understand what 1 is, so he knew even less about other numbers. I explained to him that 1 is one 1, 2 is two 1s, and 3 is three 1s, and so on. After teaching him, he understood. Actually, he was confused by the teacher. So numbers always go from simple to complex. People have a bad habit of wanting to do deep, complex, and difficult things right away. I saw that you had this problem when you were in school. You liked to do difficult problems and ended up achieving nothing. Actually, all complex problems are combinations of simple problems. You may not learn it even after I finish explaining it this time because I need you to bring out the actual problem, and I will teach you based on your actual problem. The effect will definitely be better.

【Question】4: I find that I learn things very slowly, react sluggishly, and have difficulty thinking. Now I find that my son is the same way. Is this caused by long-term brain laziness or other reasons?

Answer: Some of this, I really have to say, is a spiritual constraint. Your sluggish reaction and difficulty thinking may be a lie or a constraint. Most of it may be a lie. We are just putting a hat on ourselves called slow to react or difficulty thinking. Actually, that may not be the case because I have tried this type of person. Do not think I am insulting you here; there is no insult at all. I held up one finger and asked him what number it was, and he said 1. See, that is a pretty fast reaction. You say you react slowly to other things, then start with simple things. We just do not want to do simple things, and when we do, we want to do difficult things. This kind of problem is quite common. I see that your child is also like this. When they see something is so simple, they do not bother with it. Actually, if you do not understand the simple things, you cannot do the complex things. So, I think we all have to change this habit today, otherwise, we will just put a random hat on ourselves and say that we are slow to react.

At the same time, we are not good at finding things that are suitable for us to learn. For example, if you read something and immediately get confused, then it is not suitable for you to read. If you think you can read children's books, then start with kindergarten children's books. You can catch up quickly. I think what people say about being slow to react and having difficulty thinking may be that we have instilled this concept in our children. Subconsciously saying that they are slow to react. Many children who are said to have learning disabilities by teachers, I find that they have no disabilities at all, just a little lazy.

Another situation is a constraint. I think you should feel uncomfortable when you encounter this situation, so start praying in tongues and praying in the spirit. After praying, then do it. Of course, you must read things that are suitable for you to read. Knowledge is accumulated in this way. Do not skip. Actually, you cannot skip anyway. Forcing yourself to skip will only result in you being miserable and then being labeled as slow to react and having difficulty thinking. Previously, we sent a person to an accounting firm. After a period of training, he found that he had no problems at all, just lazy.

【Question】5: My son learns quickly in improper matters but only does the bare minimum in proper matters. He is easily influenced by unorthodox things. What is the reason for this, and how can I guide him back?

Answer: This is human nature. Not just your son is like this; everyone's son is like this. My answer to you is to let children learn to be reverent from a young age. If that does not work, then discipline him. If you do not discipline him, how can he become an adult? Can everyone accept my logic? What do you mean by how to guide? You have been guiding him for a long time, and he is still like this. So, what is needed is not guidance but discipline.

【Question】6: Sometimes I study very smoothly and thoroughly, but sometimes I avoid studying and do not want to do anything. What is the reason? How can I persist in doing the right things?

Answer: I have already said that your intelligence is not bad. It is normal to have the feeling of not wanting to do anything; everyone has that time. Actually, not wanting to do anything and feeling very down and depressed is a very bad feeling. At this time, it is even more necessary to solve problems. Do not think that learning is simply learning; learning must start with solving problems.

Actually, sometimes I do not want to do anything either, but when I see that the house is messy, I quickly clean it up. This is something that can be done. What if it still cannot be cleaned up no matter how hard I try? Many things are piled up and start flowing down. Then I need to solve these problems. At this time, I need to see if I need to throw away some things or get a storage cabinet, and then how these things should be placed. This is all learning. See how other people organize things and then see how to arrange your own home. Many things are about solving problems in order to improve our quality of life or to improve comfort. You cannot say that I am doing this to learn from Lei Feng and only do it when I am interested and not do it when I am not interested. Even if you are emulating Lei Feng, you have to solve other people's problems.

【Question】7: I see that some people can ponder over problems, are very good at thinking, and create things. How should I learn to emulate these people and have the spirit of thinking and pondering over problems?

Answer: Then start with the problems in your life that you need to ponder over. There are definitely problems in your home. If they are not resolved, they will be like flies and mosquitoes surrounding you, and you will not be comfortable and well. So why do we not think and ponder over them? Maybe you do not have the resources and do not know what to do. That is why someone is giving you ideas. Shepherding is doing this.

【Question】8: My difficulty in learning is in reading books. I read very slowly, cannot read fast, and easily cannot remember if I read fast. I have to reread the table of contents and use the framework to remember a little, but the efficiency is still not high.

Answer: Reading slowly means you are reading it wrong. Find a book on How to Read Quickly and practice according to the methods it says. We also had a speed reading course before. Go and practice it. Do not think that you will become very fast after practicing it once. You have to keep practicing, and you will become faster as you practice. It is like a child growing taller. How can you not grow taller after eating one meal? It is the same as being hungry again this year after eating your fill last year. It is not that it will have an effect all at once.

【Question】9: Teacher, I am not very clear about the specific application of abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. Are these four steps for discovering the essence of a thing and summarizing logical laws? Or are they four methods? If they are four steps, what is the order of application? If they are four methods, how do I choose the appropriate method in different situations?

Answer: The order I teach is abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. You are not very clear about the specific applications because you have not used them yet. You will become clear as you use them.

The next few questions are quite deep. Actually, they are neither four steps nor four methods. All things require the use of abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. There is no order. When you apply them, you will find that these four aspects will enter your mind. When you see a book, you need to summarize and abstract it. When you see a phenomenon, you also need to summarize and abstract it. If it is messy, you need to organize it.

【Question】10: Teacher, every time I look for resources online, I have a confused and impatient situation where the more I look, the more confused I become, and I cannot solve the problem in the end. Please teach me the specific reasons.

Answer: Because there is too much garbage online. Just finding information itself requires learning. Your current situation is that you do not know how to find information, so you have to learn how to find information. You will not know if you do not learn. You first need to learn how to find information, mainly keywords. We must have a vision for the problems we encounter. It is not that we can find them immediately after searching. It takes time to find them. Including finding a suitable person for a company, it is also very difficult and cannot be found all at once. So, impatience is a problem, and not knowing how to do it is another problem. If you solve these two problems, you will know how to do it.

【Question】11: Teacher, talk about how to connect abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization when reading a book. Please give an example.

Answer: When you read books, especially classic books, you can ask your pastor to help you with abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. Classic books require a lot of abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. For example, marketing, human resources management, accounting, and projects all require learning. The process of learning is actually abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization. These are four important elements of active learning. The connection between the four parts is not that important. We often mix unrelated things together, which makes us very tired and ineffective.

【Question】12: Teacher, it seems that every day, my time is taken up by working, eating, doing chores, reading the Bible, and not enough time for prayer. It seems that I do not have time to read other books. I want to know how you arrange your time.

Answer: It seems that people's time is taken up by working, handling chores, and eating, but that is not the case. We always think that we need our brains when we are defecating, but the two are not connected. You can read something while you are defecating. Everyone definitely has the habit of watching Douyin when they are defecating. Do not think I do not know, because I do it myself. Actually, you do not need to be so focused when you are defecating. You can also think about and sort out things while commuting for 40 minutes, which does not conflict with taking the bus because you do not need to use your brain when taking the bus. Someone said that they had to drive from one city to another and spent two hours on the road. You can do a lot of things while driving for two hours. If you are taking the bus for two hours, you can do even more things.

We always feel that we do not have enough time, but time slips through our fingers. We think that sleeping is just sleeping, eating is just eating, and defecating is just defecating, but that is impossible. For example, cleaning, just a little thing at home. Some people wonder how I have so much time. I just think about my lectures while I am cleaning. What topics to talk about, what difficulties everyone encounters, which difficulties should be solved, and what small gifts I should prepare for everyone this Spring Festival. These are all things I think about in my mind. When you are doing something, do not think that you can only do that one thing and cannot do anything else.

One of our pastors had surgery on his buttocks and said that it hurt so much that he could not serve. I said that buttocks pain has nothing to do with the mouth, it is not mouth pain. I prayed for him, and I collapsed after praying for two days because he would not hurt when he fell asleep, but he would wake up when he hurt, so I had to pray for him over and over again for two days. I realized that this was not right, so I told him to serve the people he should serve. For example, you do not need to be so focused when you go to the barber. You are not a barber. Barbers cannot be distracted and turn people's hair disaster, turning the desert into rivers and opening roads in the wilderness, and making a hairstyle that you cannot look at. Thinking about it this way, you will have time. You watch Douyin when you cannot sleep at night, or you try to sleep hard, but the more you cannot sleep, the more irritable you become, and the more irritable you become, the more you cannot sleep, and you end up doing nothing. Now the time is back. You can find at least three hours of time a day, including bathing, showering, and washing clothes. These things do not require brains.

【Question】13: Teacher, hello. Every time I am with my elderly father, I feel very conflicted because I do not know how to convey the philosophy of Chinese Mingding Doctrine to him. My father was baptized and is 83 years old this year. His body is gradually declining, and his mind and actions are also gradually slowing down. Because he has a live-in nanny, he is lazy and does not move. When I talk to him about the gospel, he will listen quietly but will not take the initiative to mention it. When I am not around, he will not take the initiative to open his phone to listen to recordings. Actually, he has experienced healing. My small pastor prayed with him and healed his photophobia that had lasted for several years. Teacher, what should I do in this situation?

Answer: Do not do anything. Remember, when people get old and reach the age of decline, they can no longer remember the Creator. That is why I am a little anxious and hope that everyone will remember the Creator before the days of decline come.

【Question】14: Teacher, I am retired and do not have contact with society at home. I usually read the Bible, do homework, read some history books, make some video clips, and do housework. How should I train myself to grow in abstraction, summarization, induction, and organization?

Answer: Everything needs to be abstracted, summarized, inducted, and organized in everything you do at home, whether it is reading the Bible, doing homework, or reading some history books. If you are in your sixties and not old, and there is nothing wrong with your hands and feet or body, and you are just staying at home, did your pastor not kick you? Staying like this will make you stupid. Go and do something serious, even if it is just 3,000 to 5,000 a month, it is a benefit to help supplement the household expenses or save it up for your children. Actually, there is a lot of free time when you are at work. Even if you are almost seventy, you have to study. You not only have to learn but also have to think.

Also, there are many elderly people doing live broadcasts online. Doing live broadcasts requires collecting and organizing materials. If you do not have fans, do it slowly. You can always find some things to make yourself grow. I am a very good person to live with. Do not think that when people reach a certain age, they just eat, drink, and wait for death; that is called not knowing how to live. People who know how to live can create many things. Of course, you cannot be Deng Xiaoping, and they will not give you that qualification to do it. Deng Xiaoping was still carrying out reform and opening up at the age of seventy-six.

【Question】15: Teacher, I have never been successful in exams. I always mess up when I take exams. I have to retake everything before I can pass. As long as I do not take the exam, I can do well. My former teachers all thought I could pass, but I always get nervous when I take the exam and always have a feeling that I will not pass, and then I really do not pass. How should I change this situation?

Answer: Then what you need to learn is to do the things that you know how to do correctly. The exam is about you doing the things you know how to do correctly, not losing the points you should get, and not taking the points you should not get. The logic is that you should not lose points for the things you can do correctly. If you usually do well when practicing, there is nothing to be nervous about when you take the exam. You must be nervous because you are not prepared enough. Someone said that they did not pass the exam. I asked them how many points they got when they practiced. The exam is 90 points to pass, but they only got 92 or 93 points when they practiced, which is easy to fail. If you get 100 points every time you practice, you will pass the exam even if you miss 5 questions and get 95 points. If you only get 92 points, you are still lazy and feel like you are doing well.

【Question】16: Teacher, I really do not like to write, especially when the leader wants me to write articles about promotional information. The work that has not been done is just an idea plan, but the information has to be promoted first, which often belongs to closed-door construction. Then, after writing, it has to be approved or published by the superior leader, so I really do not enjoy writing. What should I do, teacher?

Answer: That is your job. There is no like or dislike, enjoy or not enjoy. We always pull these things together. What if a cleaner says they do not like cleaning? Or a cook says they do not like cooking? We have to cultivate a liking for what we do, no matter what it is, because we have to face it every day. If you do not like it every day and always make things difficult for yourself, you will make yourself very uncomfortable. So there is no like or dislike. Work is your responsibility. It is like me. Sometimes I get annoyed serving some people. Then I think that this is my work, this is my responsibility. If you do not do well the things God has given you, you will be disciplined. So, if you are faithful in small things, you will be faithful in great things. If you are faithful in other people's things, God will give you your own things. How well is this said?

【Question】17: Teacher, I would like to ask an off-topic question. My husband's elder brother smashes bowls and chopsticks when he drinks if a word doesn't suit him. He has to vent his anger. He always goes against people and cannot be spoken to or scolded. He even smashes things when eating at my house. He is incompetent but has a big temper. I can't say anything because my parents-in-law are there, and my sister-in-law is also a Christian. Is this a spirit of enmity? How should I deal with it?

Answer: Why does he come to your house to smash things? This kind of person is someone that no one can control; no one has ever disciplined him. If you can't discipline him, and he is too strong for you to handle, then stay away from him to avoid getting hurt. Why did you invite him in the first place? Don't include him in future gatherings. If he wants to come in, tell him beforehand that he can come in, but he has to smash things outside the door, not inside. Why do we encounter such problems, and why can we tolerate things developing this way? That should be a problem between you and your husband. This kind of person has no brotherly affection.

【Question】18: Teacher, I also have a headache when teaching my child. When teaching him the most basic phonics in Spanish, he just reads the letters and words randomly, and no amount of correction helps. Then he starts crying, and I scold him, and he doesn't want to learn anymore. Seeing that my friend's child, who is also 6 years old, can do addition and subtraction within 100 and is fluent in English and Spanish, I get anxious and can't control my temper.

Answer: Raising children is risky, indeed. It's truly hard work. I have encountered similar situations, such as teaching him crab five times, and he gets it, but when I ask him to spell it again, he spells it randomly. Such situations are common, not isolated cases. In such situations, you must not force him; it won't help at all. You need to take him to do some work and learn while working. Don't compare your child to others just because they can do addition and subtraction within 100 at six years old. Some people go to university at ten and get their doctorate at sixteen. We don't compare that way. I often tell everyone not to focus on these things because it's easy to spoil children.

Even if someone I taught can't spell crab properly, their mother still thinks they can get into 清华 or 北大. Having this kind of mother is a tragedy, very unrealistic. So what can you do? Can you find some chores or things that the child can do, some manual labor, and teach him some blue-collar skills? He probably hasn't done any housework; the people at home probably feel sorry for him and don't let him do it; otherwise, he wouldn't be so clumsy. We need to guide these children towards working and problem-solving. You must know that when children are like this, it's even more of a headache for their parents when they grow up. Learning practical skills is better. Don't teach him the wrong way from a young age. You are pushing him in the wrong direction now.

【Question】19: Teacher, I always feel conflicted when I am with my elderly father, who is 88 years old this year. After his lung cancer surgery in 2014, my aunt and I often prayed for him. My aunt was baptized, but later he not only stopped her from praying but also prevented me from sharing the truth with her. Teacher, what should I do in this situation?

Answer: There is nothing to do. What is there to do? The aunt is the aunt, and he is he. Can he dictate what she does? Many problems are caused by being spoiled, whether it's the elderly or children. The problem is that we don't realize this isn't an actual issue. The problem is that you react according to what your father does because of family affection, and this relationship often holds people captive. We don't need to worry about whether someone has been baptized or not. I don't even know what these things are. Some people are alive, but you don't even know if they're still your father. Many such things happens on the spiritual level. This has nothing to do with learning methods and is worth exploring. Before someone dies, they cease to be their old selves several years prior. You will find that they specifically torment their family members, but that may not be the person you know, but rather an evil spirit. If you recognize this situation, you must control this spirit. Otherwise, if you pity your father, are you pitying the ghost or the person?

【Question】20: Teacher, I am still confused about abstraction. I understood a little more after listening to the teacher's explanation yesterday, but I can't connect the teacher's metaphors with learning.

Answer: Connect it slowly; it can't be done all at once. After listening once, you understand a little more; listening again, you understand even more. Then, when you put it into practice, you will understand even more. You will find that learning is about summarizing patterns. I have taught you the four levels of summarizing patterns, and you can gradually implement them. There is always a big gap between what comes and what is implemented.

【Question】21: Teacher, does poor focus mean brain laziness? How can I specifically deal with it and practice?

Answer: I have not yet studied in sufficient depth to have a high level on poor focus. However, the relationship between poor focus and laziness is not significant. A mind with poor focus is overflowing with uncontrolled thoughts. Some people stare blankly when looking at things. Once you notice that you have this problem, start praying in tongues extensively. I have taught people to do this, but I don't know if it's effective for everyone. For example, you may be fine when you start, but after a while, your mind wanders, and you don't know what you are thinking. If you realize this, immediately pray in tongues. After praying, your focus will improve a little, and you can concentrate again and start working. This process happens again after ten, twenty minutes indicating the action of an evil spirit. Therefore, children's poor academic performance can be the result being disturbed by evil spirits.

【Question】22: Teacher, how can I complete note-taking and reflection more efficiently? I repeatedly check my work, which makes it time-consuming.

Answer: Note-taking is one thing. Many people who write reflections create problems even when there aren’t any, as if they're are not properly reflecting, so it's impossible to write well. What exactly are reflections? They are connected to one's own issues. reflection at a happy time produces nothing worthwhile, and a long time of doing that yields nothing as well. To complete notes and reflections efficiently requires writing skills, which need to be practiced repeatedly. Most individuals who have lived to sixty or seventy years old without doing much writing would have poor thinking skills. If information is not organized, it cannot enter the brain. Let me repeat: your brain cannot function properly if you don't write things down because information that enters the brain must be abstracted, summarized, generalized, and organized. Writing is the act of abstracting, summarizing, generalizing, and organizing. If you don't know how to do it at first, you want to know how to complete it effectively however the problem to be addressed is not in finding quick solutions, but in practicing more.

【Question】23: Teacher, how can I effectively practice grasping the key points step by step and thoroughly understand them?

Answer: When we read the Bible, we must identify the key points, concepts, and the relationships between concepts. This should be familiar to us as I lead everyone to study the Bible. Once you grasp the key points, the next step is to determine what relevance there is to our concept of self. It is easier to grasp the key points if they are relevant, and it is harder if they are not. In other words, it's hard to thoroughly understand something if you don't apply it. We need to first familiarize ourselves with something in our daily lives, gradually practice, and then we'll become more accurate at grasping the key points. The last time we discussed the Book of 1 Corinthians, we weren't that accurate yet. We still grasped key points, but not as accurately as now. So, as our spiritual altitude increases, our ability to grasp key points becomes stronger.

【Question】24: Teacher, I feel anxious inside and agree with what you said. I feel like I have wasted a lot of time in the past and am running out of time. Sometimes, this feeling bothers me, causing me to lose focus and feel uneasy while learning.

Answer: As the teacher discussed, these individuals are either lying flat, or are anxious. It's never too late to have good change in life . Jiang Taigong didn't come out of the mountains until he was 70 years old, so we don't need to be anxious. Anxiousness is carnal. I have mentioned before that when you encounter this kind of situation, you should pray in tongues extensively. We can only rely on the Holy Spirit to mortify the deeds of the flesh. Using carnal methods to deal with carnal problems simply won't work.

【Question】25: Teacher, I am reading some books related to my field, but when I see a thick book with too many words, I find it hard to read and lose interest quickly. Sometimes, I forget everything after reading a book. How can I remember the important content of the book?

Answer: The bottom line is that people cannot remember if they don't organize. If you organize, it enters your brain neatly. If you can summarize a book on a 16K piece of paper, you can clearly explain what it's about. This is intensive reading. When doing intensive reading, especially of classics, don't expect to understand everything after reading it once. Even I can't do that. This speaks to the ability to remember the contents of a book.

Secondly, what does it mean to be proactive? One proactive approach is to be able to explain what you have read to others. This is an active process. Once you repeatedly explain something, you clarify it to yourself, not just to the listener. Professional books may seem thick, but they often don't contain much substance. When reading, first build a framework of what the book is about and which concepts are discussed. It will be much easier to fill in the content once you have a framework. If you read it word by word from the beginning, you will be defeated.

【Question】26: Teacher, how can I overcome learning things that I am not good at? I feel resistant to it. How can I adjust myself to enter a positive learning state, and how can I avoid being overly concerned about what others think of me, which causes me to be timid and perform even worse? Thank you, Teacher.

Answer: I can sense your situation the core issue isn't about reading things for other people it is about what we think on the inside. We don't need others' opinions. If we want others' opinions, we should practice at home first and then show off a little, feeling good about it. You don't need to care about others when you are working on your own, but you need to learn to use resources. Since you are not very good at learning, you must heed the guidance of your pastor because he helps you. How do you adjust your learning state? You must study things related to your profession. Many people haven't done well in their own field and say they don't know how to grow. If you don't think you can fill the role of your leader it is time to do your best to grow on the field you have been planted on.

You must build upon what you already know, deepening and expanding it horizontally and vertically. I haven't asked you to learn those miscellaneous things. Of course, it's not a big deal if you want to browse some random books while sitting on the toilet. As I mentioned yesterday, seeing oneself, seeing the world, and seeing all living beings are things I learned while using WeChat Reading casually when I couldn't sleep. When I see something good that's summarized better than I could, I share it with everyone. Stop focusing on what you are not good at and study things that are part of your job. For example, if I can do general accounting, I can also learn to do inventory management or human resources. The main part of human resources is paying salaries, which is also related to our field.

【Question】27: Teacher, do farming and tailoring also require abstraction, generalization, summarization, and organization?

Answer: You ask a good question. Everyone needs them to live. Agricultural scientists study how to significantly increase crop yields per acre. If it weren't for these scientists, many of us would go hungry today. These agricultural scientists do abstraction, generalization, summarization, and organization. In a nearby village, some farmers become richer while others become poorer, depending on what they choose to plant each year. Last year, watermelons were scarce, so everyone planted watermelons this year, leading to a market glut and no profit. Tailors need it to design clothes well and may dry up their careers. You do the same thing every day, you don't need anything, but by doing so, you put yourself out of a job. For example, do delivery drivers need to learn anything? If you do delivery work your whole life, you'll become an elderly driver one day. A life without abstract, generalize, summarize, and organize will lead to tragedy!

Ponder over it slowly. I think we all need to adjust. Don't think you don't need it to live. Observe those around you. Those who live to their thirties will definitely experience spiritual things. If you don't abstract, generalize, summarize, and organize, how can you know that the spiritual realm is real and live well? Observe those who are afraid of death and desperately want to live; they all live miserably. Those who don't care much, even when they get sick, and don't care about life or death often survive. These things need to be abstracted, summarized, generalized, and organized. After summarizing, you will suddenly realize that the rule is like this. There are many things to summarize and there are takeaways for everyone, not just physicists and mathematicians. Even cooks or cleaning ladies need it. Someone might wonder: do cleaning ladies need it too? That cleaning lady definitely can't beat me. I can clean two or three times as fast as her. I can do it quickly because I think about how to do the same work in less time.

【Question】28: Teacher, what are some good ways to remember what you have read? I can't remember things well.

Answer: You don't need to remember, because what you read is not related to the problems you are solving. The way you are reading is often a passive undertaking.

Let me explain to everyone: what you read is too passive. If you ask me, “Can you remember what you read?” I also can't remember what I read. If you ask, “How do you remember?” I remember what I explain as I explain it. you all understand? Passive things cannot be remembered. Can the teacher remember books? The answer is ultimately no. But you can not forget the solutions you found.

Let me give you an example. When I used to work, I faced many challenges, such as project management. How do you manage a project? Many projects tend to fail, and there are conflicts with suppliers. These are extremely complex conflicts, like a zero-sum game. What should I do? I pondered, and I read materials. I wanted to solve this problem, and I eventually understood it. Because the relationship between two entities becomes zero sums, it is impossible for the situation to improve. If I make him do more work, he earns less money. If he wants to earn more money, he solves fewer of my problems. Why did you have to have this project managed? I wanted to see if there was a way to motivate him. I found a way it to ensure he was able to perform well.

Finally, I tell you that non-specific things cannot be outsourced or the quality of the result you are looking for might not be what you are expecting. . For example, if you manage a project and ask me to build a house, I build things as fast and cheaply as possible. You did not tell him how high and wide and long the house should be. If no instructions are given, don;t blame someone else for poor planning. So what do you do with the house? Can you live in it? Do you give the money to the one whom made the house? What did you decide?

Have you understood? You have to avoid giving non-specific instructions. You didn't tell him what the walls should be like, which materials to use for the floor, or how the ceiling should be. He just built it in the cheapest way. Isn't that just creating problems for yourself? Non-specific things cannot be outsourced. What I mean to say is that I can't forget this even if I tried because it is a problem I solved.

You haven't developed the habit of solving problems and are going through the motions, just like forcing a child to study. The child can't remember after reading, and neither can you. I today want to teach adults and children to solve problems! Children need to start solving problems, such as helping their mother with housework. This will definitely make them smarter. They have to come up with ideas, right?

【Question】29: Teacher, I don't like to think. How should I deal with this?

Answer: If you don't like to think, you have big problems! Let's put it this way: if you want to marry a rich man, will that rich man pick you up if you don't think? I am telling you, many people like you hope to find a rich man like you to solve the problems of eating, drinking, sleeping and living. What will they do once they marry you?

Thinking is what you need. Those who lack the ability to develop such an important skill in life will suffer from the effects one way or another!

How do you deal with not liking to think? Find your pastor to fix you every day.

【Question】30: Teacher, there are many things to learn. How do I find the most priority?

Answer: There is no need to find the most important goal because your heart will guide you. Don't go looking in the sky or the ocean; look in your life. What can the servant do? Can they be doing their services well?

I once taught everyone something, and I will repeat it today: that if I feel that I am working poorly today or feel overwhelmed what can I do to find success? I must first reverse my overwhelmed situation.

What can I do in this situation? Prioritize ensuring rest and seek insight to make good decisions along the way. In the situation is that I learn to do my work well in a timely fashion and I have enough time to spare. I spend the extra time pondering what I can do to excel on my job. That can be done by preparing myself to adapt to these challenges.

To manage a city in China, the leaders must have a forward view of five to ten years. Some cities focus on technology and stay ahead. Others make wrong choices, lag behind, and struggle to catch up. Isn't it so? GDP cannot rise without industry. Do you understand?

So, I tell you, there is a video online about revitalizing Northeast China, which faces immense difficulties. These difficulties are not due to policies or resources, but to the local culture. The mindset and ways of thinking have not adjusted. These cities don't know what to prioritize. Isn't it so? They fall far behind and struggle to catch up. Isn't it so? People migrate out, industries fail to upgrade, and talent cannot be retained. Even when talent is brought in, they don't know what to do. Isn't it so? Once in this situation, turning it around becomes the top priority. Do you understand?

【Question】31: Teacher, I learn but can't remember, and I can't connect it to life, so change is slow. How can I learn and apply?

Answer: I just explained. What do you do now? Can you type it out? Everyone should have a job to support themselves. Working in a unit, what is that? Just sitting? What kind of job? HR? Marketing? Accounting? Working is not a job. Which job? Oh, market management. Then study market management in depth. Can you become a specialist in market management? It should be a government department or a company? If it's a company, it's marketing. If it's a government department, it's about formulating good policies and seeing how other cities do it.

If you are in a bad city, your government department must be bad. Do you understand? Because everyone is bad, so they just muddle through, go to work, and then go home. So today we will study the government's policies and their impact on the city's market management. This becomes our motivation to learn. Isn't it so? You start to think, because it is closely related to you. You see many unreasonable, mindless leaders leading a group of mindless employees. Day after day, they just muddle through. Eventually, the city may not even be able to pay the civil servants. We must learn to grow while sitting. In the future, you will be great.

Other cities also need civil servants. If you want, you can go there to muddle through. Isn't it so? There are many talented people there. Do you know that often we have many opportunities? Don't think you will die working in that place. If you think you will die there, you don't need to learn anything. Just muddle through. They won't fire you, and you can't fire them. Just muddle through until the government goes bankrupt, becomes a deadbeat, and can't pay salaries. What to do? Find those with potential, those whose governments manage well. Remember, if the economy is developed, the government must be doing well. Do you understand? Start thinking.

【Question】32: Teacher, I understand the Bible stories and your teachings, but I can't explain them to others. Is this related to the spiritual realm?

Answer: No, it's just because you haven't practiced. Practice speaking in front of a mirror. Let me tell you, I have practiced speaking a lot. I couldn't speak, I felt uncomfortable, I couldn't explain clearly. It's not something you can figure out with a snap of your fingers. How did I practice? Whether I was a pastor or worked in a company, I put in a lot of effort to practice. Practice in front of a mirror first.

【Question】33: Teacher, what is a classic in business management? What are the tips for searching online?

Answer: Sometimes it's hard to read these classics. What to do? Skim through them first. For example, Marketing Management. Usually, this book has more than a thousand pages. Don't read it word by word. Once you finish reading, it's over. What to do? Look for books that have been published in five, eight, or even a dozen editions. Because it can be published in so many editions, it has become a textbook for university courses. They didn't choose it randomly. There must be a reason. A lot of experts and teachers chose it. So choose university textbooks. Do you understand? What else to choose? Choose some guides on how to read these things. For example, in accounting, there is something called Three-Color Notes. I think he summarized it well. People summarize things.

For example, it's hard to read The Art of War directly. After we read The Art of War, someone interprets it well. Huang Aihua's interpretation is good. It can be used in business. So when we read these things, we read both the classics and their interpretations. For example, Hua Shan's Hua Shan Reading Notes. His explanations are okay. So these things gradually adjust, and you will find that the rules in these classics are like this.

【Question】34: Teacher, when I learn, especially new things, my mind goes blank. Is this brain laziness?

Answer: It should be that the new things you are learning are too new and unrelated to you. You should learn things that are somewhat related to you now. Do you understand? If you learn purely for the sake of learning from books, it is a wrong learning method. Many things are learned while solving problems, standing in your current position, facing the problems you are facing now, and learning with this attitude. When you learn, you see that we need to solve the current problem. I do market management, how do I do it? First, understand the basic principles of market management, which seem unrelated to my problem, but in fact, they summarize the most basic principles of market management. After learning, start looking for more applied theories and materials, theories and applications are two levels, and read applied cases. As you read, you will collect a lot of information; as you read, you will accumulate many of these stories, successful cases of how people did it; as you read, you will organize these successful cases into your own set of experiences, and then you will develop a plan to implement it in your company's market management.

【Question】35: Teacher, if I don't see through life enough and have worldly logic, will there be fewer miracles in prayer and healing?

Answer: Not seeing through life is just that you don't observe enough. It's best not to learn lessons from yourself, but to learn from others. For example, if you go to the hospital and see a lot of people with tubes waiting to die, what can you summarize? You will come to some interesting insights, right? Don't wait until you get there to summarize. What's the point of summarizing then? No need to summarize. You must see through it. You can't solve problems if you don't see through them. If you don't study marketing deeply enough, you can't solve marketing problems. If you don't study mathematics deeply enough, you can't solve mathematical problems. Do you understand? You have to accumulate for a period of time. If you don't see through life, you can't live well. So if people don't live well in this world, you are blessed, and you can seek God.

【Question】36: Teacher, teach us how you prepare for Sunday sermons.

Answer: First, what troubles me the most? The current problems that everyone faces, especially the common ones. I have to find this. I can't just come up with it myself. Then I set the topic to be related to the current problems. This is the first. Second, I make it clear what the Sunday sermon is for. The Sunday sermon is to inspire everyone's faith, not really to impart knowledge. But inspiring everyone's faith can't be nonsense, such as Tomorrow Will Be Better. How will it be better? It can't be good. Tomorrow Will Be Better is nonsense. It must have logic.

I pass on these divine laws and divine logic to build everyone's faith in God's word. Once you have faith, you will find that many problems are solved easily. This is all a matter of faith. So the Sunday sermon is to build everyone's faith in God's word. That's why you hear it, and then you hear another one, and another one, and they all talk about faith. That's all. What to believe? Believe in God's laws in this spiritual matter. So what do I do? I combine these problems with Bible verses and Bible stories, and then I summarize a sermon. First, set a topic. You will find that I talk about all the problems first, right? Whether I talk about stories, I always raise problems and propose solutions. This is my preaching style.

【Question】37: Teacher, my brain doesn't work well. I forget the important points immediately. I really want to remember.

Answer: Actually, the important points you hear are not important. The important points we apply are important. If we can't grasp the important points, we should practice grasping the important points first. If you can't remember even after practicing, write it down in a notebook. If you can't remember it once, write it down twice. If you can't remember it twice, write it down three times. If you can't remember it three times, write it down four times. You will always remember it. What's the problem? I tell you, you will never remember things that conflict with our inner value system. You will remember things that are consistent with your value system immediately. Think about it slowly. You can hear and understand things that fit your mind, right? You can't hear things that don't fit your mind. Why? Because they resist. So shaping a person is shaping their values. That's the point.

So sometimes I hear people say, Teacher, I can't remember. Oh, I understand, because it conflicts with what you can remember, so it is rejected. Are the things you can remember now correct? You should often ask. What can you remember? I ask you, can you remember how much money is in your account? You must remember it. If you say, Teacher, I can't remember, then you have dementia. Isn't it so? You don't need to remember it either. A lot of times I think, Teacher, I can't remember this, I can't remember that. You can remember a lot of things. You remember what you want to remember, and you don't remember what you don't want to remember. It conflicts with your own values. That's the point. If you want to remember it, stick it on the wall. How you remember your bank account password is how you remember the important points I teach you.

【Question】38: Teacher, I only have a few minutes of enthusiasm for learning something. How can I increase my interest in learning and persist in learning?

Answer: This question is also good. It's not interest, it's responsibility. Have you raised children? Do you have children? Teacher, I have no interest in raising children. The child is crying from hunger, and I don't care. Is there such a mother? No, there is no such mother. So we can't remember, but we always remember to feed the children. That's strange. She can't forget it. It's not an interest. Does everyone raise children because they are interested in raising children? Does anyone? After raising children, you will find that it's not an interest, it's a responsibility. Today, develop a sense of responsibility. Do you understand?

Develop a sense of responsibility. If you have a sense of responsibility, you will keep working on a problem until you solve it. So, I tell you, I don't usually follow my interests. I have no interest in eating, drinking, and having fun. Who likes to work? Liking to work is just fooling everyone. In the end, it's still a responsibility. Do you understand? Start with an attitude of solving problems. If my child has a fever, how do I solve it? You have to study it, observe it, right?

There are too many problems in our lives. For example, buying a house. Many people buy at the highest point, and then you are stuck for life. You easily get stuck for a million. Can you earn a few million in your life? Isn't your life like that, stuck? Who told you not to study it and just follow the crowd? Stupid. So don't have a few minutes of enthusiasm. Because we have no responsibility to solve problems. If you have children, you always have a sense of responsibility, right? If you are looking for a rich husband, you always have a sense of responsibility and will go to great lengths to find him.

【Question】39: Teacher, my desired career has time conflicts with the needs of my family. Should I prioritize my family?

Answer: There is a gap between what you want to do and what you can do, right? If we have these conditions, we will find something that meets these conditions to do. I think it's normal for everyone to have this problem. When we do something, we find that our conditions are not allowed. Let me say a little bit. My parents both worked, and my mother was also a party member. After work, party members study. They study until late, it's hard work. Later, what to do with five children? How to manage? Can they go to work? They did. What to do? The factory had a nursery for breastfeeding children. My mother wrapped the quilt, rode a bicycle to the nursery, put the child there, and went to work. When she got off work, she picked up the child.

I think there are many ways to solve our problems. There are also people who must work because the salary is high, so they hire a nanny for their children. This child is now 59 years old. It was decades ago. They entrusted the child to someone to help take care of them. In other words, we can't solve the problem today. We get stuck in that place and have to ask me which one to prioritize.

I think asking this question is a problem in itself. There are many ways to solve problems. Some people's children are over ten years old and still can't get away. They don't need to wipe their butts or change diapers. What are you doing? When the child comes back, they are too lazy to pay attention to you. They sit there and play on their phones, right? If you bother them, they get annoyed. Then you say, I can't, I have to watch the children. I don't know what you are watching. What are you watching? I think we have a lot of excuses, but no ability to solve problems. This itself is a problem that needs to be solved. Can we study it? I told you that you need to study the problem. It's not time to study whether you should do this career or that career. First, solve how I can solve the current problem. My parents had no problem raising five children. What's the problem with you raising one child?

【Question】40: Teacher, can you say a few more words? How to solve the problem of not having enthusiasm or motivation to do things?

Answer: That's a very good question. When you see people who are motivated and enthusiastic, and they are thriving, do you feel uncomfortable? Living without motivation or enthusiasm is just living, and the results are not good, right? Why do people lack motivation and enthusiasm? Let's solve this first, okay? I tell you, people don't live for enthusiasm or motivation, but for responsibility. Do you understand?

If you are in your twenties or thirties, and your parents are already in their fifties or sixties, then they will be in their seventies, and you will be in your thirties or forties. Don't you lack money? You must lack money. What do you lack? If you are relying on your parents, it must be very uncomfortable. What do we do? We lack a sense of responsibility. All along, I have never thought that enthusiasm is important, nor do I think that interest is important. I think responsibility is more important. You have to have a sense of responsibility for raising children, and you have to have a sense of responsibility for doing a job. You must develop into a responsible person. You must have responsibility.

For example, Abraham led two thousand people. Two thousand people have to eat, drink, and sleep. That's a lot of things. If you don't manage it well, you will starve. People have the responsibility to manage it well. Living means having a responsibility. Having a responsibility means having a responsibility not only to the parents above but also to the children below. People live to be faithful and good servants. You will have to give an account to God in the future. How will you give an account? At the time of accounting, you are a lazy and evil servant. What will you do when you are thrown there to gnash your teeth? Don't focus on interests or feelings. I feel this, I feel that, I feel hurt, I feel frustrated. Feelings are useless. Of course, when a person becomes a responsible person, I tell you that enthusiasm comes, interest comes, and feelings come. Is that the case?

Brothers and sisters, goodbye!
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答:那就从你生活当中需要琢磨的问题开始下手。你家里肯定有问题,不解决的话它们就像苍蝇、蚊子围绕着你,你不可能舒服和好受。那为什么我们不去思考和琢磨?可能你没有资源,不知道怎么办,这不有人给你出主意,牧养就是做这事的。

答:读书慢是读法读错了,你去找一本《如何快速阅读》的书,然后照着它说的方法去练。我们之前也有个速读课程那你就去练,别以为练一下子就会变很快,是要一直练,练着练着就快了。就像小孩长个儿似的,吃了一顿饭怎么没长个儿呢?和去年吃饱了今年还饿是一样的道理,不是说一下子就会有效果。

答:我讲的顺序是抽象、总结、归纳、整理,具体应用不是很清楚那是因为还没用,用着用着才能清楚。 后面这几个问题问得挺深,其实既不是四个步骤也不是四种方法。做所有事情都需要用到抽象、总结、归纳、整理四个方面,没有顺序。你在应用的时候就会发现这四方面都会进入你的脑子里。看到一本书需要总结、抽象,看到一种现象需要也总结、抽象,要是乱了就需要整理。

答:因为网上的垃圾太多,就是找资料本身都需要学习。你现在的情况就属于不会找资料,那就得学习找资料,不学习就不会。先去学习找资料,主要是关键词。我们对我们所遇到的问题要有个看见,也不是一搜立刻就能找到,也都需要找挺久。包括企业找到一个合适的人也都是很困难的,不是一下子找到。所以急躁是个问题,不会做是另外一个问题,把这两个问题解决了就会了。

答:你读的书尤其是经典书籍,可以找你的牧者一起进行抽象、总结、归纳、整理。经典书籍需要抽象、总结、归纳、整理的信息特别多,比如说市场营销、人资管理、会计、项目,很多东西都需要学习的。学习的过程其实就是抽象、总结、归纳、整理,都是主动学习的四个重要元素。四部分联系不那么重要,我们经常把不相干的事混到一起,弄得自己挺累还没有果效。

答:看上去人除了工作,处理点家务事,吃点饭就把我们的时间占完了,其实不是这么回事。我们一直以为拉屎的时候很需要大脑,其实二者连不上。你在拉屎的时候也可以读点东西,大家肯定都有拉屎的时候刷抖音的习惯,别以为我不知道,因为我自己也这样。其实拉屎不需要那么专注,坐四十分钟通勤车也可以琢磨和梳理事情,这和坐车不产生矛盾,因为坐车不用脑子。有个人说自己要开车从一个城市到另一个城市,路上花了两个小时。开车两个小时能做很多事情,如果是坐车两个小时,做的事就更多了。 我们总觉得时间不够,其实时间从手指缝里溜走了。我们以为睡觉就是睡觉、吃饭就是吃饭、拉屎就是拉屎,那是不可能的。比如说打扫卫生,就家里那点小事。有人奇怪我的时间怎么这么多,我就是一边打扫卫生一边想我的讲稿。要讲什么题目,大家遇到什么困难,应该解决哪个困难,这个春节我给大家准备点什么小礼物,这都是在脑子里想的。做什么事别以为就只能做哪一件事,别的事都不能干。 我们当中有个牧者屁股做个了手术,说疼得不能服侍。我说屁股疼和嘴巴又没关系,不是嘴巴疼。我带他祷告,祷告了两天把我累趴下了。因为他一睡着就不疼,一疼就醒了,我就得带他祷告,来回折腾了两天。我发现这么下去不对,告诉他服侍一下该服侍的人就好了。比如你去理发也不用那么全神贯注,你又不是理发师。做理发师的不能走神,不能把人家的头发沙漠中开江河,旷野里开道路,理出一个看不下去的发型。这么一想时间就有了,晚上夜里睡不着觉就去刷抖音,或者睡不着觉还要使劲睡,越睡不着越烦躁,越烦躁越睡不着,结果什么也没干。现在时间就找回来了,一天起码能找回三个小时的时间,包括洗澡、冲凉、洗衣服,这些事都不用脑子。

答:在家里做的每件事都需要抽象,总结,归纳,整理,不管是读经,写作业,读一些历史书都一样。如果是六十多都还不老,手脚,身上都没什么毛病,就这么在家待着,你的牧者没有踹你一脚吗?这么待着会待傻的,去干点正经事,哪怕一个月有个三五千的回报,能够帮补一下家用,或者给孩子积攒起来也是个益处。其实上班的时候空闲时间大把,别说是快七十了,就算快八十了也得学习,不但学习还得琢磨。 再说在网上做直播的老人也挺多的,做直播需要收集材料并且整理。没有粉丝就慢慢做,总能够找到一些事去使自己成长。我是一个非常会活的人,大家不要以为人到了一定时候就是吃喝等死,那叫不会活。会活的人都能创造很多东西。你当然做不了邓小平,人家也不会给你那资格去做,人家邓小平七十六岁还搞改革开放呢。

答:那你需要学习的就是把会做的做对了。考试就是你把会做的做对了,该拿的分不丢,该丢分的也不用拿。就是能做对的别丢分,就这么个逻辑。如果平时刷题整得都挺好,到考试的时候其实也没什么好紧张的,你紧张肯定是准备得不是那么充分。有一个人说考试没考过,我问他刷题的时候都刷了多少分。考试是90分过,但是他刷题的时候就刷到92分或者93分,这就容易过不了。如果你每次刷题都刷100分,你去考试错5题,还有95分就过了。如果你刷到92分就还是懒,做着做着就觉得自己好像已经做得不错了。

答:那是你的工作,没有喜欢还是不喜欢,享受不享受。你看我们经常把这些事扯到一起,一个打扫卫生的说他不喜欢打扫卫生怎么办?或者一个厨师说不喜欢做饭。我们在所做的事情上,不管是什么事情要养成喜欢,因为你每天都要面对这事。你每天都不喜欢,都自己整自己的,就把自己整得很难受。所以没有喜欢不喜欢,工作是你的责任。就像我似的,有时服侍一些人服侍得我很心烦,之后一想这是我的工作,这是我的责任。如果神交给你的事你不好好整,你就要被修理。所以在小事上有忠心,在大事上就有忠心,在别人的事上忠心,神就把你自己的东西给你,这讲得多好?

答:他为什么跑你家来砸?这种人就是没有人能镇得住他,就没有人修理过他。如果你修理不了,他劲太大你打不过就躲着点,免得他伤着你。只不过你把他请来干什么?以后就不带他玩。如果他要进门之前先说好,你要进来可以,但是你要砸在门外砸,别进来砸。我们怎么会遇到这种问题,为什么能够容忍事情发展成这个样子,那应该是你和你老公的问题,这种人是没有兄弟情的。

答:养孩子是有风险的,真是辛苦。像这种事我的确碰到过,比如crab教他了五次会了,然后让他拼一下又乱拼一通。像这样的状况很多,还不是个例。其实遇到这种状况你千万不要再硬逼他,一点用也没有。就得带着他去干点活,在干活当中学习。别看人家小孩六岁百以内的加减法都会了,那人家还有十岁上大学,十六岁读博士的,咱们不比这个。我经常教大家不要整这些东西,就是因为整这些东西很容易把孩子败坏了。 就是我教过crab都拼不好的人,他妈还以为他能考清华、北大呢。有这种妈也是个悲剧,很不切实际,那怎么办?能不能找点孩子能干的活,能做的事,干点体力活,蓝领的东西教他一些?他肯定没有干过家务,家里的人肯定心疼他不让他做,要不然不可能这么笨。我们就需要把这些孩子引导到干活,到解决问题上。大家得知道孩子像这种状况长大了,当爸妈的头就更大了。其实学点动手的更好,从小就不要把他教别扭了,你现在就是往别扭里推。

答:不用办,这要办了做什么?人家阿姨是阿姨,他是他,他能说了算吗?很多都是惯出来的毛病,不管是老人也好,小孩也好,就是我们不知道这不是个问题。问题在于你父亲一怎么样你就怎么样,因为有亲情,这种关系常常会辖制人。我们今天不需要管什么有没有受过洗,这些是什么东西我就不知道了。大家得知道有好些人虽然活着,但是不是你爸都不知道,当然这是属灵的事。这跟学习方法没什么关系,也值得去探索。其实人死之前有的人好几年前就不是他了,有的人可能会短点,你会发现他专门折磨家人,其实那已经不是你的那个家人了,那是个邪灵,认识到这种情况你得镇得住这个鬼,否则你要是心疼你爸,那是心疼鬼还是心疼人?

答:要慢慢连,这不是一下子就能搞定的。听完了明白一些,你再听一遍就再明白一点,然后在做的时候又再明白一点。就会发现学习就是总结规律,我把总结规律的四个层面教给你,你可以逐渐去落实,什么东西来到落实都距离很大的。

答:专注力差,就我今天这个水平其实研究得还不够深。但是这个专注力差跟懒惰关系不大,专注力差是我们脑袋里冒出来的东西太多,有一些人冒出来的东西都是不受控制的。有的人看东西发呆,这个时候你一旦注意到自己有这种问题就开始大量的方言祷告。我曾经教过人这么做,但是是否每个人都有效还不知道。比如说你一开始做还行,过一会儿就飘了,不知道脑袋在想什么。这时候你意识到了就赶紧方言祷告,祷告完了以后专注力又好一点,然后又能够专注了,就开始接着做。过不了十几分钟,二十分钟又飘了,这就是个邪灵,所以小孩学习不好就是被邪灵搅扰。

答:其实做笔记是一回事,很多人要写反思就是没有问题的时候也凑点问题,好像不写点什么对不起自己,那不可能写好。其实反思的是什么?是跟自己的问题连接在一起,没有问题的时候那是无病呻吟,时间长了就开始瞎写了。有效率地完成笔记和反思,其实这是一个人的写作能力,是需要反复,不断练习的。我相信很多人活了一辈子,到了六七十岁都没写过几个字,脑子不可能会好使。因为没有经过整理进不了脑子,我再说一遍,你如果没有写东西脑子不可能好使。因为要进脑的东西都是经过抽象、总结、归纳、整理出来的,然后我们才放进去,所以写东西就是在做抽象、总结、归纳、整理。一开始不会,就想知道怎么能够有效地完成。其实我们总想找一个很快的方法去完成,然而问题不是找方法,而是要多练习。

答:像我们读《圣经》肯定要找重点,找其中的概念,以及概念和概念之间的联系。我带大家查《圣经》,刚才说的这些应该都不陌生。一旦抓到了重点,剩下的就是重点跟我们自己有没有什么关系?有关系就容易吃透,如果跟你没什么关系,就不容易吃透。也就是说你不应用就很难吃透,都是在日常生活当中先熟悉,混个脸熟,然后每一次逐步练习,重点就开始抓得越来越准了。上一次我们讲《哥林多前书》的时候还没那么准,那个时候也会抓重点,但是还没抓得那么准,当时的高度就那样。所以在属灵高度不断提升的过程当中,你把握的能力就会越来越强。

答:你看人就是要么躺平,要么着急。其实到什么时候都不晚。姜太公70岁才出山,所以我们不用着急,着急这种感觉的东西是属肉体的。之前我讲过遇到这种状况要大量方言祷告,只有靠着圣灵治死属肉体的恶行,其他也没有什么好办法。用属肉体的办法对付属肉体的问题,那就根本解决不了。

答:其实人不整理是记不住,你整理了,它就规规矩矩地一下子都进到脑子里去了。如果你整理出来一本书大概用一张16K的纸,就可以讲清楚这本书在写什么,当然这属于精读。精读的东西,尤其是读经典,别想着一次读完了就吃透,连我自己都做不到。这讲的是关于能不能记住书中的东西问题。 第二是什么叫做主动?有一种主动的方式,就是你读完了能不能讲给别人听,那是一个主动的过程。一旦一件事被你反复地讲,不是人家听明白了,而是把自己给讲明白了。其实专业的书一看很厚,里面也没写什么。读的时候就先建立一个框架再读,都在讲些什么,讲哪些概念。先把框架建起来再一点一点往里塞内容会容易得多,一旦一个字一个字地往后读,那肯定完蛋。

答:我能够读出来你里面的这种状况,读书不是给别人看的,我们也不需要别人的看法。我们需要别人的看法,其实也就是自己在家里先练好了,再出去显摆一下也OK,完了觉得感觉还挺好。你在自己做的时候不需要在意别人,但是得要学会使用资源,因为你自己本身都不太会学习,你就一定不要在意你的牧者带领你,因为他是帮助你的。那怎么调整自己的学习状态?一定要学习自己专业的事。很多人自己的专业还没干好,就说他不知道怎么成长。那我问他能不能干老板的活,答案是干不了,那就朝着那去成长。 你一定是站在现在你会的东西上往上加深,往外扩张,横向扩张,纵向加深。其实我没让你学那些杂七杂八的东西,当然你平时闲着没事想坐在马桶上刷一些杂书也不是什么大不了的。像我昨天讲的见自己,见天地,见众生,那就是我睡不着的时候用微信读书给刷出来的。一看这个挺好,人家总结得比我好,我就把它分享给大家。所以别总纠结自己不太擅长的,就研究你自己工作份内的事就行。比如说我现在会做总账了,也可以学着做进销存,或者人资这部分。其实人资这一块主要的是发薪水,都是我们自己专业的这点事。

答:你问的是好问题,人活着都需要。农业科学家研究的是亩产量大幅度提升的问题,如果不是这些科学家,我们今天很多人会挨饿。这些农业科学家干的就是抽象、总结、归纳、整理。像我们附近的一个村子,有的农民越干越就有钱,有的却越干越贫穷,这跟他们每年要种什么相关。去年西瓜短缺,今年大家都种西瓜,西瓜就烂市了,这就赚不到钱。裁缝师傅要把衣服设计好也需要好好整,如果你每天都干一样的事那什么也不需要,只不过干着干着就把自己干失业了,裁缝干着干着失业的就很多。比如说外卖小哥需不需要学点什么?你如果一辈子做外卖小哥,做着做着就成外卖大爷了。人活着就需要做抽象,归纳,总结,整理,不做肯定是个悲剧。 你慢慢去琢磨,我想我们大家都需要调整,别以为活着不需要。你观察一下周围,活到三十几岁肯定会经历属灵的事。如果不抽象、归纳、总结、整理,怎么可能知道灵界是真实的,又怎么可能活得好?你去观察那些怕死,拼命想活下去的人活得都挺惨的。但是那些不太在乎的,即便得了病也不在乎,生死也不在乎的反倒活下来了。这些都需要抽象、总结、归纳、整理,等总结完了以后就恍然大悟,原来规律就是这样的。人一辈子要总结的东西很多,别说物理学家、数学家就需要,哪怕是个厨师,或者打扫卫生的阿姨也都需要。有人奇怪打扫卫生的也会需要,那打扫卫生的阿姨肯定干不过我,我打扫的效率肯定是她的两三倍,干得快是因为我会琢磨怎样用更少的时间干同样的活。

答:其实你不需要记住,为啥?你读的东西都跟你解决的问题都不相干。你看,我给大家解释一下:你读的东西被动的成分有点多。你要问我:你读的东西能记住吗?我读的也记不住。你问:你怎么记住的呢?因为我讲的东西,讲着讲着我就记住了。大家听明白了吗?就是被动的东西它不可能记得住的。所以读的东西能记住吗?记不住。但是你解决的问题你不可能记不住。 我给你举个例子,我以前做工的时候遇到过很多很多挑战的问题。比如项目管理,怎么管理一个项目?很多的项目容易烂尾呀,然后跟供应商之间产生的矛盾,那都是极其复杂的矛盾,像一个零和游戏似的。那怎么办?我就琢磨,就阅读资料。我就想解决这个问题,后来我整明白了。是不是?因为啥呢?因为两个是个零和的关系,肯定好不了。我多让他干点活,他就少赚点钱;他要多赚点钱,他就少点解决我的问题。那我的问题就是我为什么要把这个项目管理成这个样子呢?我能不能够激励他,我找到办法了。我怎么找到的?我就抽象、总结、归纳、整理,我就读啊读啊,读的东西因为书上也没有答案。那我就把读的这些东西,把那些无效的东西给否定了,有效的我把它截出来,就是找出来了。 最后我告诉你,不具体的东西是不能外包的。听明白了吗?比如说你管一个项目,给我建一所房子。咔,建了一个一米高;一米宽;一米长。那不是一座坟墓吗?那能住吗?是不是?人家说:那你没告诉我尺寸呐,你不是要这样的吗?你说最后你要不要给人家钱?你得给人家钱。你这不是没事找事吗!这是不具体的东西。你没有告诉他,就是墙是啥样?地又是用什么材料?顶棚是啥样?你都没告诉他,人家给你造出来的,就是怎么省钱就怎么干呐。是不是?不具体的东西不能外包。我说这个意思就是你让我忘记,我也忘不了,这是我解决的问题。

你们没有养成解决问题的习惯,整天干这些事,就跟逼孩子读书一样。孩子读完了也记不住,你也记不住。然后你就跟孩子走了同样一条路,将来你的孩子长大了,活着活着就是又一个你。今天能不能改变?今天得改变!今天不但教导了孩子,也教导了大人。孩子要从解决问题的角度去入手,比如说,帮妈妈做家务。那肯定变聪明,他得想招啊,是不是?

答:不爱思考,你问题可大了,你一辈子的问题多呀!咱们就这么说,你要嫁一个金龟婿,你不思考,你以为金龟婿会找你吗?啊?我们就觉得我们傻乎乎的就会解决问题。我告诉你,很多人傻乎乎的希望找一个金龟婿,就解决吃喝拉撒睡的问题。你以为人家要整一个啥呀?是不是?结果本来想找一个白马王子,一看连白驴都不是,是黑驴。你不思考?你肯定是悲剧呀;人一辈子不思考,肯定是悲剧呀!你不爱思考,就是你还不够痛。人要聪明,在你衰败的日子尚未来到以前,一定要学习纪念造你的主。听明白了吗?不爱思考怎么对付?找你的牧者整天修理你。

答:其实不用找,就摆在你眼前的就是。听明白了吗?千万别到天上去找,也别到海底里去找,就在你的生活里面去找。你看,我是做一个客服,我能不能把客服做好?是不是?这不是很简单吗?我是个打扫卫生的,我能不能把卫生打扫好?这就是最优先的。我曾经教过大家一件事,今天我再重复一下,如果我今天做工,做得不行,做得屁滚尿流的。那怎么办?我就先扭转我这个屁滚尿流的这种状况。 如果我一天八个小时的活,我得干十六个小时。我能不能在八个小时内干好?我宁可再多两小时十八个,我一天睡六个小时觉,腾出两个小时去琢磨。琢磨琢磨我十六个小时就变成八个了;不用变成八个,变成十个也行;再整吧整吧,八个小时的活我六个小时就干完了;再整吧整吧,六个小时的活,我四个小时我就干完了。这就叫你的体量,这就是最优先的。等我们现在的活四个小时就干完了,八个小时一天就有很多的时间,我怎么办?我就预计一下,在接下来的一个月,我可能会遇到什么样的问题,我老板会给我什么样的挑战?那我怎么办?我就解决这些去学习。然后如果说我三个月的都能解决了,我就开始解决六个月的、一年的、三年的。

在中国要管理一个城市,首先这个城市的领导人,一下子能看出去五年到十年。有的城市人家定位搞科技,人家就没落后。有的城市一定位定错了,一甩,被甩出去老多年都赶不上,很被动。是不是?GDP它不可能上去的。没有产业它怎么上去?听明白了吗? 所以我跟你讲,再网上有一个视频,讲到振兴东北,这个困难重重。其实这些困难都不是因为政策;也都不是因为资源;最严重的困难就是这个地方的文化,你看人家抽象的多好。观本位,还有很多思维方式都没调过来,就是这些城市不知道先把什么东西干好。是不是?所以干着干着就被甩得老远老远了,老惨了,要想赶上来就难了。是吧?人口也外流,人口流失都跑了;然后产业也没有更新换代,产业也跟不上;人才也留不下来。引进了人才,人才在这呆着,也不知道要干啥?这不就完了吗?一旦进到这种状况里头,扭转这种状况就是你最优先的。听明白了吗?

答:我刚才刚讲完。你现在是干啥的?能不能打个字告诉我?如果一个人他一定是能够有一个谋生养活自己的职业。在一个单位上班,在一个单位上班是个啥?就是坐着。是吗?在单位上啥班?你是做人资的?是做营销的?还是做会计的?还是做啥的?上班不叫做职业。什么职业?我上班。哈哈哈!哦,你做市场管理。那你就在市场管理上好好研究加深,能不能做市场管理的专才?应该是一个政府部门,是吧?还是一个企业?如果是企业就是市场营销;如果是政府部门,就是怎么制定好的政策,然后去看别的城市是怎么制定政策的。 你如果在一个很烂的城市,你那个城市的政府部门,应该是一个很烂的政府部门。听明白了吗?如果是很烂的,为啥?因为大家都那么烂,所以就这么混,上班然后还有一个下班。所以我们今天就研究政府的政策,和对这个整个城市的市场管理的影响,这东西就变成了我们学习的动力。是不是?所以你开始去琢磨,因为这跟你紧密相关,你一看那些很多不合理的,没脑子的领导带着一群没脑子的员工。整天上班呀,整天混日子,这个城市我看久而久之,可能公务员都不一定能发得出薪水。我们今天要学会坐着坐着你成长了?将来你就厉害了。 人家别的城市也需要公务员,如果你愿意的话可以到那里混日子去。是不是?那块都是高人呐。今天大家知道不知道,很多时候其实我们的机会大把。你千万不要以为你会老死在那个地方上班。如果你以为要老死在那个地方,你就什么也不用学嘛,就在那混吧。他也不会开除你,你也不能开除他,一直混到政府破产;然后政府变老赖,然后发不出工资。怎么办?去找那种有潜力,人家那个地方的政府管得特别好。记住,那个地方的经济比较发达,那个地方的政府管得肯定不错。听明白了吗?就开始琢磨呀。

答:没有关系,就是跟自己没练有关系。你在家对着镜子先讲几遍,我可告诉你,我就讲话这个事我练得那是海量啊。我不会讲啊,憋得难受,讲不清楚呀。那不是一拍脑袋就能讲清楚的,那我是怎么练的?不管我是做牧师,还是我以前在企业里做工,在企业里上班,那哪一样都是下了充足的功夫,才练出来了。你对着镜子先练。

答:通常这种经典有的时候你读的时候很费劲,那怎么办呢?先去比划一下。比如说:这个是《市场营销管理》,通常这本书都是一千多页,千万别一个字一个字朝后读,读完了就完了。那怎么办呢?找这些书就找那种已经出了五版了、八版了、十几版了。因为它能出十几版,这种东西已经成为大学里专业课的教材,人家能选这些东西做教材,人家不是瞎选的,肯定是有原因的。一大堆的专家、老师去选。所以选那种大学教材,听明白了吗?还选啥呢?还选一些怎么读这些东西。比如像会计,有一个东西叫《三色笔记》,我看他把这东西总结的不错。人家把东西总结出来。 比如《孙子兵法》我们上来就读,我们很难的。那我们读了《孙子兵法》,有人把《孙子兵法》解读的不错,像黄爱华把《孙子兵法》解释的就不错,它可以用在商场上。所以我们在读这些东西的时候,其实一方面我们读这些经典;另外一方面我们读这些经典的一些解读。比如说华山讲的这个《华山读书笔记》,哎,他解释的这些东西就还行。所以这些东西逐渐的开始调整,你就会发现:哦,原来人家讲的这些经典里的规律是这样。

答:应该你学的新事物太新,跟你的都不搭噶,那你学的东西一定要学跟你现在有点关系的。这回大家能听明白了吗?如果你学的东西纯粹以书本学习为学习,那应该是一个错误的学习方法。很多东西都是在解决问题当中学的,都是站在你现在这个位置上,现在你所面临的问题,然后你本着这种态度去学习。你在学习的时候,你看我们要解决现在问题,我做市场营销,我怎么做?先懂得市场营销的基本原理,好像跟我的问题挂不上,但其实里面都是总结了最基本的市场营销的基本原理。那你学了以后,就开始找这些类似于偏应用的理论和应用的资料,理论和应用这是两个层面,找偏应用的案例去读。读着读着你就会收集很多资料;读着读着你就会积累了很多的这些故事,人家怎么干的成功案例;读着读着你就把这些成功案例梳理出来一套你自己的经验,然后你就会发展出一个计划来落实在你这个企业的市场营销上。

答:对人生看得不够透,其实不是别的,就是你观察得不够多。其实最好别在自己身上学功课,多在别人身上学功课。比如说你到医院那些插着管子等死的一大堆咋那,你去转一圈以后你能总结出啥来?你总结出来就会有一些很有意思的看见,是不是啊?不要等到你走到那才去总结,到那总结啥?就不用总结了。一定要看透,你看不透的东西你都解决不了问题。如果市场营销你研究的不够深,你解决不了市场营销的问题;如果你数学研究的不够深,你解决不了数学上的问题。听明白了吗?都得积累一段时间,人生看不透他不可能活得好。所以人在世上活得不好,你就有福了,你就可以去寻求神。

答:第一个:我最苦恼的就是啥呢?当前大家所面临的问题,尤其是具有普遍性的问题,这个事我得找到,我不能自己拍脑袋拍出来。然后我就把这个题目定在跟现在的问题有关系的题目上,这是第一个。第二个:我把主日讲道到底要干啥我整得明明白白。主日讲道就是要激发一下大家的信心,还真的不是传递知识。但是激发大家的信心不能胡说一通,比如明天会更好。怎么会更好?他不可能好。Tomorrow Will Be Better,他就是瞎说,他得有逻辑。 我说的这些东西,一些属神的规律、属神的逻辑体系我传递出去,建造大家对神话语的信心。当你一旦有了信心,你会发现很多问题就迎刃而解了,这都是信心的问题。所以说主日讲道就是建造大家对神话语的信心。所以这就是为什么你听完了,再听一个、再听一个讲的都是信心,就这么点事。信啥?讲的是信神在这个属灵事物上的规律。所以我怎么办呢?我就把这些问题和《圣经》里的经文,《圣经》里的故事结合在一起,就开始总结出一篇讲道。先立一个题目,你会发现我最先讲的全是问题,有没有发现?我讲的是故事也好,我都是提出问题,提出解决问题的方法,这是我讲道的风格。

答:其实听到的重点不重要,我们应用的重点才重要,如果我们抓不到重点,就先练习抓重点。练习了抓重点,然后你如果记不住,你就记在本子上。你如果一遍记不住,就记两遍;两遍记不住,就记三遍;三遍记不住,就记四遍,总能记住。那问题在哪?我告诉你,跟我们里面的价值体系矛盾的你永远记不住,跟你价值体系相符合的,你一记就记下来了。你慢慢琢磨一下,合你心思的一听就进去了,是不?不合你心思的怎么听都听不进去。为啥呢?他抵触啊,所以说塑造一个人就塑造他的价值观念,就是这么回事。 所以我有的时候听人说:老师,我记不住。哦,明白了,因为跟你能记住的东西相矛盾,他就给排斥出去了。其实你现在能记住的那些东西对吗?其实常常要问呐。你能记住啥?我问你啊,你能不能记住你账号里有多少钱?你肯定记得住。如果你说:老师,我记不住,那就老年痴呆了嘛。是吧,也不需要记了。很多时候我就在想,老师,我记不住这个,我记不住那个。很多事情都能记得住,就是他想记住的都记住了,不想记住的都记不住,就跟他自己里的价值观念有矛盾,就这么回事。如果想记就贴在墙上,你怎么记你的银行账号密码,你就如何记我教你的这些重点。

答:这问题也挺好。这不是兴趣,是责任。养过孩子没有?有孩子了没有?老师,我对养孩子没有兴趣。孩子饿得哇哇叫,我不管,有这样的妈吗?有没有?没有这样的妈。所以说我们记不住,总能记得给孩子吃饭,总能记得给孩子喂奶,那才邪门呢,她忘不了啊,她也不是一个兴趣,大家养孩子哪个是有兴趣养孩子才养的?大家有吗?养完了孩子你就会发现他不是兴趣了,是个责任,今天就养成一个责任心,听明白了吗? 养成一个有责任心的人,你有责任心交给你个问题,你没解决,你就一直整,直到解决。所以我告诉大家,我这个人不太照着兴趣走的。我没有兴趣,像吃喝玩乐样样不沾。哪有人爱干活啊?爱干活那是忽悠大家,最后还是一个责任呐。听明白了吗?开始带着解决问题的态度。我这个孩子老发烧我怎么解决?你不得研究吗?不得观察吗?是不是? 我们生活当中遇到的问题太多,就比如说买房子,很多人在最高点买,那你不一生套牢了吗?一套进去,轻轻松松套你个一百万,是吧。你一辈子能赚几个一百万啊?那不一辈子就这么地吗,就被套牢了。那谁让你不去研究了,你跟风,傻嘛。所以人别几分钟热度。因为我们对解决问题没有责任,如果是有孩子的你老有责任心了,是吧。找金龟婿的,那老有责任心了,踏破铁鞋也要找到。

答:自己想要做的事业,其实想要做的和你能做的还有点差距,是不是啊?如果说我们现在有这样的条件限制,我们就找能够满足这种条件的事来做。我想大家有这种问题很正常,我们一做一个东西就会发现我们的条件不许可。其实我稍微说一下,我爸我妈双职工都上班,然后我妈还是个党员。党员一下班就学习,一学就学到挺晚啊,挺辛苦的,后来整了五个孩子怎么办?其实你说怎么整?能不能上班?也上了。那怎么办?那工厂有带喝奶的孩子的托儿所,我妈就咔!被子一卷,骑个脚踏车骑到那个托儿所把那孩子往那一放,然后就去上班去了,下班的时候再把孩子一接。 我想我们的问题其实解决起来方法多的是,是不是啊?那还有呢,有人必须上班,因为薪水高,他给孩子请了一个保姆。这个孩子现在已经59岁了,那是好几十年前的事,就把孩子托给人家帮着看。也就是说我们今天一整就解决不了问题,一整就卡在那个地方,一整就要问我以哪个优先。 我觉着问这种问题本身就是个问题,解决问题多的是。有的人的孩子都十来岁了还脱不开身,也不需要擦屁股了,也不需要把屎把尿了,那你干啥呀?孩子回来还懒得理你,往那一坐刷手机,是不是?你打扰他,他还烦。然后你还说:那我不能,我得看孩子。我都不知道你看啥?你看啥呀?我就觉着我们这些人要找借口一大堆,解决问题的本事没有。这个本身就是需要解决的问题,咱研究一下行不行?我不是告诉你们需要研究问题吗?还没到研究你现在该做这个事业,还是做那个事业,先解决一下我怎么解决现在的问题。我爸我妈养五个孩子都没问题,你养一个孩子有啥问题呀?

答:特别好的问题,那你看见人家有动力、有热情,然后人家活得很兴盛,你心里感觉是不是不是滋味?没动力、没热情活着就是那么活着,其实活得结果并不好啊,是吧。那人为什么要没动力、没热情呢?咱们就先解决这件事行不行?咱们就先解决为什么没动力,没热情呢,咱们就先研究一下。我告诉你人一辈子活得不是热情也不是动力,是责任。听明白了吗? 如果你二三十岁,你妈妈爸爸已经五、六十岁了,那再往下走,他们就七十了,你就三、四十了,你不缺钱吗?你肯定缺钱呐。你缺啥?如果你是啃老,肯定也很难受吧。那我们怎么办?我们其实缺的是责任心。我一路来我都不觉着热情重要,我也不觉着兴趣重要,我就觉着责任比较重要。养个孩子要有责任心,做一份工要有责任心,这回大家可能被我怼了一把,你一定要养成成为一个有责任心的人,你要有责任。 比如说亚伯拉罕带着两千号人,带着两千号人那得吃喝拉撒睡呀,那得多大一堆东西啊,你不好好管,真会挨饿呀。人家有责任去管,活着就要有责任。有责任不但对上面的父母要有责任,对下面的子女也要有责任。人一生活得就是以做一个又忠心又良善的仆人为己任,你将来要在神面前交账的,你怎么交账?交账的时候你是又懒又恶的仆人,给你丢到那里咬牙切齿的时候你怎么办?是不是?千万不要以兴趣为主,也不要以什么热情、感觉为主。我感觉这个、感觉那个、感觉很受伤、感觉很挫败,感觉没有用。当然一个人成了一个有责任的人,我告诉你热情也上来了,兴趣也上来了,感觉也上来了,是那么回事吗? 弟兄姐妹再见!
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