Cultivating Good Habits

Life habits determine a person's destiny. While hard work does not guarantee a good life, laziness certainly leads to a poor one. Once a habit is formed, changing it is very painful. Therefore, it is best to cultivate good habits. With good habits, doing things does not feel tiring or difficult because they become natural. Love learning, and when learning becomes a habit, it naturally becomes easier. People develop many habits, one of which is discernment.

People Need Education and Training

It is crucial for a person to be pleasing to God and to others. Success lies in training a person to be liked by everyone. People need to be educated. How can one train oneself to be likable? When you see someone you dislike, learn to deal with the feeling within you. Everything is trained. As long as one is willing, nothing is impossible to train. Having worked in education for many years, I know deeply that if people are untrainable, education is meaningless. People need to be educated.

Why are some people likable while others are not? This relates to what a person sees. If all they see are negative things, they become someone unpleasant. Why? Because they are overly focused on discerning good and evil.

One day, HF told me about a type of person who, when treated poorly, wonders why they are treated that way; and when treated well, feels inadequate. Their eyes only see the negative. This is poor discernment.

Lacking discernment is fatal. Therefore, if you are doing pastoral work among us, when someone comes to your pastoral district, emulate me and nurture them into a useful talent, someone who is likable. How do you train them? Start with their eyes.

These problems arise when a person's vision is flawed. Therefore, we must change these ways of thinking. Some people have a low chance of change, possibly because it's ingrained in their nature, but they still try hard. Perhaps one day, like the Foolish Old Man who removed the mountain, they will please God, and God will send a mighty angel to transform them.

The Importance of Training Discernment

Training people's discernment is very important. I often cite the example of Yen Chang-shou from Taiwan, a management expert who used to manage multinational hotels and businesses. Because his family was very poor, he only completed elementary school and then started working, doing tasks such as serving tea and water. Although he only had an elementary education, his discernment was very sharp. In the 1970s, many things were communicated through telegrams, causing many people in his company to work late. He saw an opportunity.

One day, he told an employee to go home and rest, asking if he could help send the telegram. The person thought the child was very kind and taught him how to send telegrams. He learned it, and the person could go home earlier. After doing it for a while, he said, You all go home; I'll take care of it. I have nothing to do at night anyway. The others could then leave on time without working overtime. This young man became the most important person in the company. With him there, everyone in the company could leave on time. Everyone liked him. He was very capable, even as a child of only twelve or thirteen. If you train your child like this from a young age, they won't need extensive education.

Starting with People's Eyes

Training people starts with discernment. Work may be tiring, but it solves problems and seizes opportunities. Therefore, brothers and sisters, don't compare academic qualifications; compare abilities, discernment, and observation skills. The world we live in today will never fail to reward capable people.

I once mentored two children, one prettier and one plainer. The plainer child was very discerning. When the books on the shelf were messy or the chairs were out of place, she would quietly tidy them up. She would also make coffee and put it on the table. She was very attentive.

Later, this child lived in PL's house and even washed their bed sheets. I was amazed. This child was remarkable, able to see problems and opportunities. After seeing them, she acted on them and became likable. Training your discernment will become your ability.

People Can Be Trained

People need to be trained. Some are born with it, and some acquire it later. Thank God for those who are born with it. For those who acquire it later, they can be trained. As an educational expert, I believe people can be trained. If people cannot be trained, education is meaningless. But if people can be trained, education becomes crucial for national prosperity and military strength. The rise of any great power involves massive investment in science and education.

Liking or disliking someone really has little to do with their appearance. The Bible says this about Jesus Christ: He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him (cf. Isaiah 53:2).

Brothers and sisters, we must all start to train our discernment. As parents, training a child's discernment is very important. Find ways to make them act on what they see, to handle things and interact with people well. This is very important.

How to Train Discernment in the Workplace

We have a sister among us who is very interesting. She never gives gifts, but she still gets promoted. Do you know how she does it? She is very discerning. When she goes to a meeting with her leader, she arrives half an hour early, checks the nameplates on the seats, and主动领着her leader to the correct spot when they arrive, so the leader feels they are receiving special treatment.

Many people might say she is sucking up, but it's not about sucking up. It's about having discernment. After she gets promoted, the leader thinks of her when there are important matters. You might give gifts, but others might still look down on you. How great it is to have someone with discernment who doesn't need to give gifts. Therefore, train a child's discernment from a young age. Why do I tell you these stories? It's to let you know that training a child's discernment is giving them the best blessing.

Discernment is Opportunity

There was an old, wealthy man with two sons and a large fortune. As he was dying, he summoned his two sons and told them to ride their horses around the area and come back. After the elder son returned, he asked him what he had seen. The elder son said, I see these things every day; there's nothing to see. After the younger son returned, he said, I saw a small forest that could be cut down to do something, and I saw a small pond that could be used to raise fish. The old man said, When I die, the property will go to the younger son. The elder son was not convinced. His father said, What you don't see, you don't have. Therefore, discernment represents opportunity, a person's character and taste.

If a person sees nothing, they will gain nothing. Whether others like you depends on whether you can create value for them. Start opening your eyes, seeing opportunities, and training your focus. Train a person's discernment starting with doing housework. Although doing housework is tiring, it is rewarding.

Harvard University research proves that doing housework can uncover problems and discover opportunities. Start training children to do housework, training their discernment, starting with being likable, starting with pleasing their parents. Start by changing your attitude, starting with giving, and do things with your heart. If you don't have discernment, you can learn it. Watch how others conduct themselves.

The Bible also mentions that And the boy Samuel continued to grow in stature and in favor with the Lord and with people (cf. 1 Samuel 2:26). People should think positively, resist defining things by the knowledge of good and evil, and be shrewd in understanding the essence of things. A person should have an open mind, think positively, and have spiritual eyes. That would be powerful!