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【Bible Study】Leviticus 19 - Be Holy (1): Dealing with Selfishness!

2021-02-12 20,373 Leviticus Intelligence Creativity Holiness Coping Parents Relationships

Bible Study:

Introduction

Good day to all, we continue with Leviticus Chapter 19. When reading the Bible from now on, let us cultivate a habit: train yourselves to summarise the theme of each chapter. We have a peculiar habit among us: a fondness for listening to sermons. Why is this habit strange? Because listening eventually turns one into a sermon connoisseur. Why is enjoying sermons a bad habit? Because it leads to passive reception.

There are many forms of passive reception, but those who passively receive information become dull. Only those who actively receive become intelligent. Many media encourage passive reception. The first is television. After its invention, adults and children alike stare blankly at the TV for two to three hours. Afterwards, if you ask them, What did you see? they know nothing, having merely watched for two to three hours. People become dull when they receive information in this way.

In the old days, there was no TV, no mobile phones, no iPads, and no dramas. What did people do? They invented many things. For example, in Northeast China, winter was a time for hibernation. What is hibernation? It means holing up indoors because the bitter cold outside is unbearable. People would heat up the kang (a heated brick bed) and hibernate inside. Without radio, TV, or mobile phones, there was only one thing to do: chat idly.

Don't underestimate idle chatting. If you are good at it, you can achieve great things. The people of Northeast China chatted their way into creating Northeast comedy skits. Many people, from the Central Plains to the South, enjoy the Northeast comedy skits on the Spring Festival Gala. The people of Northeast China hibernated their way into creating Northeast Errenzhuan (a form of local folk opera) and storytelling. Storytelling is best done by the people of Northeast China. In those days, there was no TV, but there was initiative. People actively created things. Regardless of whether what was created was edifying, people found it enjoyable. To this day, the people of Northeast China love to talk. How did they develop this skill? Through hibernation.

We Are to Live Holy Lives

How did we get here while discussing Leviticus? I do not want everyone to listen passively. Some may ask, Then why do you broadcast sermons all day? I simply do not want everyone to only watch TV or scroll through Douyin (TikTok in China) without knowing what they have gained. It is better to listen to sermons. But the problem is, it is useless to be passive, no matter what you listen to. Bible study is also useless if done passively. Some may think, Reading the Bible every day must lead to a very holy life. But that is not the case. If you study the Bible passively, you will become a Pharisee. Prolonged passivity is a very, very serious problem.

So, how do we read the Bible actively today? We read it not for others, but for ourselves. We must discern how what is said in the Bible relates to us. There are countless connections. Chapter 19 covers many diverse topics, so we must actively seek out the chapter's main theme. This is how we become active. It becomes even more active if we relate the chapter to ourselves. And it becomes even more active if we put what we learn into practice!

How do we find the theme of this chapter? If you listen to this chapter, you will notice the repeated phrase, I am the LORD your God. If you read aloud, you will find that the most repeated phrase is I am the LORD, I am the LORD your God. This immediately reveals the theme.

This corresponds with the opening verses of the chapter: You shall be holy, for I the LORD your God am holy (Leviticus 19:2). The theme of this chapter is in this opening statement. Explaining it in various ways leads to the different points written below. Understanding is achieved in this way.

If we cannot find the theme, we are like someone lost, disoriented as if struck by a blow, unable to find our direction. Before navigation systems, people looked for the Big Dipper to find their direction, knowing which way they were heading. When we read the phrase, You shall be holy, for I the LORD your God am holy, the theme is immediately clear. If you want to shorten this statement, it becomes You shall be holy. Further modified, it becomes We are to be holy. A slight adjustment gives us We are to live holy lives. All these themes work. But this is the method for finding the theme.

The third verse of the opening chapter states: Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths; I am the LORD your God. Wasn't it just mentioned that I am the LORD your God? Why does it come again in the third verse? This is an interesting point to ponder. Honoring parents is the first condition, and keeping the Sabbath is the second. God interestingly puts honoring parents and keeping the Sabbath together. In fact, God is our Heavenly Father. We immediately say, To live a holy life is to honor our parents.

The LORD Is Our God; We Should Listen to Him and Honor Our Parents

Let me digress slightly: What does the phrase The LORD is our God really mean? We will look at honoring parents later. Because the LORD is our God, we should honor our parents? Because He is our God, we should live holy lives?

Deeply examining this matter reveals that it means God is everything to us! People who have worshipped idols for a long time never regard the idols as everything to them. Instead, they hope the idols will follow their wishes, granting whatever they ask for, viewing the idols as beneficent. The LORD God is our God. He is everything to us. We live and are born for Him.

That is, everything we live for relies on our God. If the LORD is our God, we lack nothing in life because we have God. God provides everything for us, and we offer a little back to honor our parents. God is pleased with us, and because God is pleased, we give back. The meaning of The LORD is our God is that He is everything to us, and we are to live for Him. This is what it means for the LORD to be our God!

Therefore, we cannot worship the LORD God like we worship idols. He is our God, the Lord of all creation. Everything we have should be dedicated to pleasing Him alone. Everyone should honor their parents and keep God's Sabbath. Honoring parents requires deep thought. From my past observations, a person's relationship with their parents represents many things. For example, people always have reasons when their relationship with their parents is not good. Some even go to extremes, saying, My father doesn't like me; my father hates me; my mother doesn't like me either. Every time I call them, we argue, and I feel terrible. Why is this so? What fills a person's heart comes out of their mouth.

When interacting with people, my motivation for service is not there. Why do I serve these people in this way? Because I love our God and serve according to His will. I am cautious about doing things based on my personal preferences. How can someone who doesn't love their parents love me? If they have a bad relationship with their parents, who raised them with great care, and can still find fault, how will I not be found fault with, since I haven't done as much for them as their parents have? Take a careful look at what fills people's hearts.

I am often moved by how many people find reasons to absolve themselves of all blame. If a person has a bad relationship with their parents, the root cause is selfishness, caring only about their own feelings. Or, the person's parents also care only about their own feelings. How can they get along well if both sides are like this? Even if parents have selfish tendencies, they cannot not love their children. Even tigers do not eat their cubs, let alone humans.

Some may say their parents are not like that, giving plenty of reasons. Relationships are built through interaction. How can a person be healthy if they do not honor their parents? Living on earth with a bad relationship with one's parents is the height of selfishness. Finding fault with parents to the point of being critical means having one's own interpretation of everything. Perhaps parents do have flaws, but they did one thing right: they raised you from infancy with great care. You might say you were raised by your grandmother, but you still spent nine months in your mother's womb, didn't you? The nutrients your mother ate went into your body, didn't they?

That is, we must learn how to see things. Having a talent for fault-finding is useless. We must learn to deal with our own faults. If you say your parents have flaws, what is the problem? I often see our brothers and sisters' parents giving them money to buy houses. Others say their parents didn't do that. See, bad relationships actually reflect shadows of our parents, which we inherit with us. We ourselves are actually very similar to them.

For example, during the pandemic, one of our sisters' mother sent her masks and Lianhua Qingwen (a Chinese medicine). Our sister was angry and complained, Why are my parents so foolish? I scolded her. At first, she was not convinced. I handled the matter skillfully. It was quite a battle, but I finally changed her view. However, other issues have not been resolved. If you do not want to listen, that is fine. To put it bluntly, I serve her as if I were serving God!

Some healthy brothers and sisters may not understand why I spend so much time serving her. Why don't you serve me? What kind of thinking is that? Should I serve you according to your wishes? Those who are weak need more time to be served! Those who only care about themselves are foolish. This Sunday, I will talk to everyone about selfishness and foolishness. Selfishness leads to foolishness. If you cannot even manage your relationship with your parents, how can you manage a relationship with anyone else? Frankly, I can manage a good relationship with anyone. If I have a good relationship with you, it is not because of you, but because of me.

A sister with a tendency towards mental illness or depression stayed with me for a month and had no issues because I manage relationships well. Because I serve her as if I were serving God. According to my own preferences, I would want to stay as far away from these people as possible. However, because I am serving God, I cannot follow my own desires. The LORD is my God, and I must serve according to God's will. I manage a good relationship with everyone because I follow God's will.

This sister worked for me, and I assigned her to the office. There was another sister in the office who previously had depression. These two sisters were together, and because it was cold, they argued over whether to turn on the air conditioner, to the point where they were almost becoming mentally ill, each only caring about their own feelings and not considering the other's feelings. What I am saying is that interacting with parents is a good litmus test of whether we can have selfless love. Parents may have different ways of showing love, and some may simply want you to provide for them in the future. This is normal. Shouldn't we offer them some comfort?

We should be holy. Does honoring our parents make us holy? Honoring our parents is what we should do most because the LORD God is our God. God is holy and impartial. God never wants anything from us, but only wants to give to us. Our God is holy, meaning He is completely selfless and has absolutely no selfish motives. To emulate God, we must adjust our relationships with others, most importantly by not caring so much about ourselves. Others may not even care about you, yet you start thinking they don't like you, easily falling into selfishness.

Do not find examples of when you are not selfish. You are bound to be selfish in a hundred things, but God is never selfish in anything. I like to share practical examples to remind our brothers and sisters to know that selfishness attracts demons the most. For example, one of our sisters whose daughter was facing extreme challenges in life, with mortgages, credit card debts, and owing hundreds of thousands of dollars, said, I'm not going to deal with her issues! Hearing this, I knew this sister was very selfish. Have I treated you like that? You're not even my daughter! Am I not treating you well enough, so why can't you treat your daughter the same? People can be so muddled!

Xihe Dagu (a type of Chinese folk storytelling) talks about the difficulties of the elderly, saying that old age brings many problems. Some of our sisters often act confused, so I made up a song for them: Women are muddled, women are muddled, often mistaking good people for bad. Selfishness is detestable. How can selfishness resemble God? God has set rules for us to honor our parents, not for parents to honor us. Even if parents are very muddled, we must still honor them. Parents would think I am preaching well, but I am also speaking to parents: What is your relationship with your parents like? Your parents may already be gone, but do you not need to reflect? You only think about your children honoring you, but did you think about honoring your own parents?

Do not do what God does not like. Do well what God likes. My mother did not suffer in her old age. She is very blessed in her life. I have a very good relationship with my mother. Whenever we are together, we go to the market to buy groceries arm in arm, taking her out to eat. Sometimes she cooks for me at home. My mother's cooking is delicious, and her dumplings are delicious. My mother works quickly and can prepare a table full of dishes in no time. My mother is fortunate to have me as her son, lacking nothing in money or anything else.

This is interesting. How does one have this blessing? Because my mother is a very filial child. My mother is filial to her parents and treats my maternal grandmother well. If she has a bowl of porridge, her mother also has a bowl of porridge. If she has a pair of pants to wear, her mother also has a pair of pants to wear. In addition, my mother is also very filial to her father-in-law, my paternal grandfather. When my grandfather was ill, my mother would rather go into debt to take care of him, feeding him bite by bite. When people are not well, there is no talk of self-esteem, just constant care.

A child weighs ten pounds, and you have to care for them constantly. That old man was even more difficult to care for, but my mother took care of my grandfather in this way. When did my grandfather die? He died the year before I was born. After my mother saw my grandfather off, she conceived me the following year. Is this not a blessing? The son my mother raised, others would say, Look at the son you raised. Look at the son I raised. Why don't they look at themselves? People always want to look at others, but why don't they look at how my mother honors her parents? Is the level of my mother's filial piety the same as theirs? The sons raised are also different.

Therefore, one should honor their parents so that their days on earth may be long. What is it to be blessed? To be blessed is to be in accordance with God's will, because blessings come from God, and God is the Lord of all creation. If we please Him, will we not receive grace and blessings in His presence? Grace and blessings do not come from others wishing you a happy new year. It is that what you do is protected by God, preventing demons from touching you.

Honour Your Parents, That Your Days May Be Long Upon The Earth

Let us ponder this together. Our God is the Lord of all creation, holy, and therefore we too must be holy. To do this, we must remove selfishness from within us, and our relationship with our parents is a touchstone for this. Why do some people not honour their parents? Is it not often because of money? Honoring parents requires financial resources, and some feel that doing so hinders their ability to earn more. Caring for parents may disrupt one's life, and the unwillingness to be inconvenienced leads to neglecting filial duties. It becomes troublesome. And when you’re done with excuses, you realise how selfish one can be.

Brothers and sisters, consider this carefully: if you cannot honour your parents, you cannot honour God. How can someone who does not honour their parents honour God? If you do not honour the parents who gave you life, raised you, and are visible and tangible, how can you honour the God who is invisible and intangible? Therefore, God says each of you must respect your mother and father and observe my Sabbaths. Does observing the Sabbath relate to honoring parents? To observe the Sabbath but fail to honour parents is to play false with God. And to honour parents but not observe the Sabbath is also to play false with God. This is very meaningful.

Therefore, we must honour our parents, and even more so, we must revere our God, and diligently maintain the relationship we have built with Him. We must ensure good relationships with both our parents and with God. How do we build these relationships? By removing the evil desires and selfishness within us. I dare say, my days on earth will surely be prolonged. This promise of longevity is good. What does it mean to have long days on earth? It refers to the length of your life, how long you will live on this earth.

Recently, a sister wanted to learn comic dialogues, so I gave her a segment called Luo Cheng Tells Fortunes. Luo Cheng was a great general of the Tang Dynasty, one of the most skilled warriors. The first in the Three Kingdoms period was Lu Bu, the first in the Tang Dynasty era was Li Yuanba, Luo Cheng, ranked seventh, was still very formidable, roughly at the level of Guan Yu and Zhang Fei. Luo Cheng began studying at seven or eight, mastered martial arts at nine—a person accomplished in both literary and martial arts. At twelve, he attacked Dengzhou, saved his cousin, and became incredibly powerful. Eventually, he helped Li Yuan and his son establish their dynasty, becoming an invincible general. This was a man who could speak eloquently, had martial prowess, and was learned in literature—this was Luo Cheng.

Luo Cheng went to have his fortune told. The best fortune teller at the time was Xu Maogong, who could calculate five hundred years into the past and five hundred years into the future. Emperor Gaozu of Tang relied on skilled civil and military officials to safeguard his empire. The civil officials were exemplified by Xu Maogong's ability to forecast and calculate, while the military strength rested on the heroes of Wagang. Luo Cheng was one of these heroes. One day, while strolling the streets, he felt restless and agitated. So, he had his family prepare a horse to go out of the city for a ride to clear his head.

From afar, Luo Cheng saw a fortune-telling stall. Upon closer inspection, he saw an old Taoist priest who had written on his stall: “If the fortune-telling is inaccurate by even one word, not only will I not charge, but I will also compensate you.” A major fortune-telling costs ten taels, while a minor one costs five taels. I can calculate the stars in the heavens, and the heat and cold on earth. Seeing this, Luo Cheng stepped forward to have his fortune told. The old Taoist asked him to give his birth date and time.

To make a long story short, the old Taoist calculated and accurately recounted Luo Cheng’s life from childhood. Luo Cheng was shocked; he said: “Forget about the past, tell me about my future and lifespan.” Previously, Xu Maogong had predicted Luo Cheng would live to seventy-three, but the old Taoist calculated that Luo Cheng's lifespan was only twenty-three—fifty years shorter. Luo Cheng immediately became furious and said to the old Taoist: “How did a lifespan of seventy-three years turn into twenty-three? If you don't tell me why, I will tear down your stall today!” Luo Cheng was a great general, skilled in leading troops into battle; how could a mere old Taoist deduct fifty years from his lifespan?

The old Taoist looked at Luo Cheng and began to explain: “We have no grievances, so I wouldn't arbitrarily shorten your lifespan by fifty years.” And continued: General, calm yourself, listen to me to explain. What were the five deeds that caused Luo Cheng to lose fifty years of lifespan? The old Taoist answers: First, at the age of eleven, you led troops to conquer the north, killing millions of Tatars. Although the Huns deserved to die, it's a pity that millions of civilians were implicated. Killing civilians shortens one's lifespan, deducting ten years.

Second: You have a cousin, Qin Shubao, in the backyard to teach you the spear and mace skills. He taught you the mace skills whole heartedly, but you did not fully teach the art of the Luo family spear. You withheld three moves of the returning spear, deducting ten years of lifespan. Third: You have a brother, Shan Xiongxin, who knelt in the Jia family building to swear an oath. In Luoyang, he protected Wang Shichong, and you protect the king of Tang in Chang'an. You killed Shan Xiongxin with a returning spear, deducting ten years of lifespan.

Fourth: The King of Tang considers you a hero, so the monarchs are drinking wine in the hall. Hearing the third watch in the bridge tower, you boldly settled down in the dragon bed and phoenix pillows. Occupying the Dragon bed, deducting ten years of lifespan; Fifth: You have twelve wives and concubines, and there is also Hu Jincan in Mengzhou. She treats you with deep affection and righteousness, and you shouldn't have burned Yueyang Tower with hatred. Hu Jincan's death caused her soul to be scattered, and the sad wind came to the underworld. The five Yama Buddhas complained, deducting another ten years of lifespan.” Later, Luo Cheng was pierced by random arrows and died tragically in Huangquan at the age of twenty-three.

According to human reasoning, Luo Cheng was a reincarnation of the White Tiger Star, but he died at the young age of twenty-three because he was selfish, pursuing his own interests in life. We must honour our parents in this world so that we can live longer on earth. The places where we are selfish, bit by bit, you can hide from the sky and cross the sea; you can hide from people, but you can't hide from God. Originally had a lifespan of seventy-three years on earth, but as a result, he died at the age of twenty-three with ten thousand arrows piercing his body.

Conclusion

Today, many people do not live to the age they should have lived. We are not saying that we should greedily cling to life in this world, but that God originally has a wonderful destiny for us, allowing us to live a glorious life in this world. However, if we die prematurely, we should not think that premature death is a good death. We must deal with the selfishness within us. People in the world only care about themselves and harbour petty thoughts, but if deeper troubles arise, the big picture will be ruined.

So our hearts should be bigger. Can we live more generously? Practicing chivalry, living like a hero. Don’t let your brain be like a walnut and your heart like a peanut. Even if your martial arts are like Luo Cheng’s, it won’t be of any use. In the end, it will still become a human tragedy. We must live with an open mind and deal with selfishness.

Next week, we will continue telling the story. We have only covered three verses of Leviticus chapter 19. Please tune in next time to know more. God bless you all!

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咱们讲《利未记》,怎么讲到这里来了呢?我就是不希望大家被动的听。有人就问了:那你整天播那些讲道干啥呢?我就是不希望大家光看电视、刷抖音,刷完了干啥你也不知道,那还不如听听讲道呢,我就播讲道吧。但问题来了,不管听什么,被动都没用。查经如果被动,也没有用。那有人就认为:天天读《圣经》,那日子得过得多圣洁啊?其实不是。如果你查《圣经》用被动的方法去查,你就会查成法利赛人啊。长久的被动,是非常非常严重的问题。 那我们今天读《圣经》,怎么主动读呢?读完了,不是读给别人的,是读给咱们自己的。那咱们得读出来,《圣经》里讲的这事跟咱们有什么关系。这事有千丝万缕的关系啊。这第十九章,讲的东西比较多,也比较杂,咱们就得主动找,这一章在讲啥。这一下子就主动了。读完了如果再联系一下自己,这就更加主动了。如果你再能把这话落实出来,这就更加主动了! 这一章大家怎么找主题呢?如果你是听这一章《圣经》,你就会发现,这一章里一会儿就重复一句话:我是耶和华你们的神。如果你读出声来,你也会发现,重复最多的就是:我是耶和华,我是耶和华你们的神。这一下子就找到主题了。

这就跟这一章开头的经文:**你们要圣洁,因为我耶和华你们的神是圣洁的(《利未记》 19:2)**呼应上了。这一章的主题,就在这章开头的这句话里。你围绕这句话解释来解释去,就是下面写的各个地方,就这么解释,这一下子就理解了。 如果我们找不到主题,就像人找不到北,好像被一拳打懵了一样,就定不了方向了。以前没有导航的时候,人就找北斗星,一找到北斗星,就找到了方向,知道自己正在往哪个方向走。咱们读到这句话,你们要圣洁,因为我耶和华你们的神是圣洁的,这一下子就把主题定出来了。你要是想把这句话缩短一点,就是“你们要圣洁”;再改一改,就是“我们要圣洁”;再稍微改一下,就是“我们要过圣洁的生活”。这些主题都行。但是找主题就是用这样一个方法。 这章一开头的第三节:你们各人都当孝敬父母,也要守我的安息日。我是耶和华你们的神。这前面不是刚讲了吗?我是耶和华你们的神,怎么第三节又来一句“我是耶和华你们的神”?这事儿,大家仔细琢磨一下,很有意思。这里讲的“孝敬父母”是第一个条件,“守安息日”是第二个条件。神很有意思啊,把这“孝敬父母”和“守安息日”一起说。其实神就是我们的天父,我们一下子就说:过圣洁的生活,就是要孝敬父母。

我就先稍微偏一点点:“耶和华是我们的神”,这句话到底是什么意思呢?我们等一会儿再看当孝敬父母的事情。因为耶和华是我们的神,我们就当孝敬父母啦?祂是我们的神,我们就当过圣洁的生活了? 这件事大家往深层次的去挖掘就会发现,指的是神是我们的一切!人拜偶像久了,从来没有把偶像当作自己的一切,人拜偶像是希望偶像照着自己的意思,求什么给什么,觉得偶像是好的。耶和华神是我们的神,祂是我们的一切,我们为祂而活,为祂而生。 也就是我们活着的一切都是靠着我们的神。如果耶和华是我们的神,我们生活上都是一无所缺,因为我们有神,神供应我们的一切,我们拿出一点来孝敬父母,神喜悦我们,因神喜悦,我们就拿出去。刚刚插的一句话耶和华是我们的神的意思,是祂是我们的一切,我们要为祂而活,这就叫做,耶和华是我们的神!

所以,我们拜耶和华神不能像拜偶像一样,祂是我们的神,祂是天地万物的主,我们所有的一切都应当以祂为我们的主,单单讨祂的喜悦。每个人都应当孝敬父母,守神的安息日。孝敬父母的事情,指的很深入的思考,我过去的观察,人跟父母的关系代表了很多的东西,比如:人跟父母的关系不好的问题,说的人可都有理了,有人到了离谱的地步,说我爸爸不喜欢我,我爸爸恨我,我妈妈也不喜欢我,我每次打电话都跟他们吵架,难受,为啥会这样呢?人心里装的就从口里发出来。 所以我跟人交往,我的服侍动机不在这里,为什么如此服侍这些人,因为我爱我们的神,我照着我的神的心意去服侍。但是照着我个人的喜好我很小心,这人连自己的父母都不爱,他怎么可能会爱我?如果他跟自己的父母关系都不好,他父母一把屎一把尿的把他养大,他都可以挑理,我都没有像他父母这样干,我怎么可能不会被他挑理呢?仔细看看人心里装的都是些啥呢? 我就很感慨,很多人都找理由把他的锅甩得干干净净,**如果人跟自己的父母的关系不好其实根本原因就是自私,只顾自己的感受。** 或者这个人的父母也是只顾自己的感受,如果两方相处,怎么可能会处得好呢?哪怕父母有只顾自己的心态,也不可能不爱自己的孩子,虎毒还不食子呢,更何况是人呢?

有人可能会说我父母就不这样,理由都很充分。人的关系都是处出来的,人不孝敬自己的父母,怎么可能会健康呢?人在地上活着跟自己父母的关系不好,就是自私到极点的人。**挑父母的理都到了很要命的地步,什么事情都有自己的一套解读,可能父母真的也有不对的地方,但是有一件事情他们做对了,就是从小一把屎一把尿的把你拉扯大。** 你说不,我是我奶奶养大的,不管怎么样,你还是在你妈妈的肚子里待过九个月不是吗?你妈妈吃的营养都到你身体里了,不是吗?** 也就是说我们看东西要学会如何看,我们身上只有挑理的本事,那点本事真的一点用都没有,我们要学会对付自己身上的毛病,** 如果你说自己父母的身上有毛病,可是问题是什么?我经常看到我们当中的弟兄姐妹的爸妈给他们出钱买房子,又有人说他们没有这样干。你看,关系处不好,实际上是我们身上也有父母身上与生俱来的影子,其实我们自己也很像他们。 举个例子:我们的姐妹在疫情期间,她妈妈给她寄来了口罩和莲花清瘟,我们的姐妹对她妈妈的行为生气了,埋怨:为啥我爸妈这样愚蠢?我把她训了一顿,刚开始还不服气,我是很有技巧的整这事,那可是一番争战,算是最后把人的观念给掰过来了。但是,其他的问题还没有掰过来啊,要是你们不想听没关系。说不好听的话,我服侍她就跟服侍神一样!

有一些健康的弟兄姐妹可能不太理解,怎么花这么长时间服侍她呢?你怎么不服侍我呢?这是什么脑子?难道我要照着你的意思服侍你?软弱的人,不得多花些时间服侍嘛!只顾自己的人是很愚蠢的,这个主日我会给大家讲自私和愚昧。人自私就会愚昧,连和自己父母的关系都搞不好,和谁的关系能搞好?说句老实话,我和谁的关系都能搞的不错,我和你的关系搞的不错,不是你不错,是我不错。 一个有精神病体质或者抑郁症体质的姐妹,在我这里住了一个月,什么事都没有,因为我搞关系搞的好,因为我服侍她像服侍神一样。按照我自己的喜好,我是希望和这些人能躲多远躲多远。但是,因为服侍神的缘故,我不能照着自己的意思,耶和华是我的神,我得照着神的意思服侍,我照着神的意思,我和什么人的关系都搞的好。 这个姐妹到我这里做工,我安排她到办公室,办公室里还有一个之前有抑郁症的姐妹,这两个姐妹就在一起,因为冬季天冷,就办公室要不要开空调的这个问题,弄得两个人都快成精神病了,就只顾自己的感受,不想别人的感受。我说这些的意思是与父母相处是很好的试金石,我们能否有一种无私的爱。父母爱的方式可能不一样,可能有的就是想让你将来为他们养老做贡献,这么想也是正常的,我们不应该给他们一些安慰吗?

我们应该圣洁,我们孝敬父母就圣洁了吗?孝敬父母是我们最应该做的事,因为耶和华神是我们的神,神是圣洁的,是大公无私的,神从来没有想从我们得什么,只是想给我们。我们的神是圣洁的,就是毫无自私可言,绝对没有自私的动机。我们要效法神,就要调整我们与人的关系,最重要的就是别那么在乎自己,就像别人可能没有在乎你呢,你却都想到人家不喜欢你了,很容易掉到自私的里面。 不要找自己不自私的例子,一百件事里你肯定有自私的,但是神没有一件是自私的。我喜欢找一些现实的例子提醒我们的弟兄姐妹,要知道自私是最招鬼的。比如:我们的一个的姐妹,她的女儿生活中遇到了极大的挑战,房贷,卡贷,欠了几十万,这个姐妹就说:她的事我不管!我听了之后就知道这个姐妹是非常自私的,我有这样对待你吗?你还不是我女儿呢!我怎么对待你,你怎么对待你女儿还不够吗?人真的很混的! 西河大鼓里讲的是老人难!就说老人难,人老了以后叫什么什么不灵。我们当中的一些姐妹经常犯混,我就给她们编了一首歌:女人浑,女人浑,常把好人当坏人。人自私是很可恶的,自私怎么可能像神呢?神给我们定了规矩,要孝敬父母,不是父母孝敬我们,就算是父母很混也得孝敬。父母听了会觉得我讲的太好了,但是这也是给父母讲的,你和你们的父母关系怎么样啊?你的父母可能已经不在了,但是你不需要反思吗?你只想着自己的儿女孝敬你了,怎么没想到孝敬自己的父母呢?

神不喜欢的别做,神喜欢的好好做。我妈到老了没遭罪,她这辈子很有福气,我和我妈妈的关系非常好,只要我们在一起,我们就互相挎着胳膊一起去市场买菜,带着她去吃饭,有时候她在家里给我煮饭,我妈妈煮的饭好吃,她包的包子好吃。我妈干活快,一下子就做了一桌。我妈幸亏有我这个儿子,不缺钱,什么也不缺。 这个事情就很有意思,人怎么就有这个福气呢?因为我妈是一个非常孝顺的孩子。我妈孝顺自己的父母,对我姥姥很好,只要她有一碗粥喝,她娘也有一碗粥喝;只要她有一条裤子穿,她娘也有一条裤子穿。除此之外,我妈对她的老公公,也就是我爷爷也是非常孝顺,我爷爷生病的时候,我妈妈宁可欠债借钱照顾我爷爷,那是一口饭一口饭喂。人不行的时候,还谈不上什么自尊,一把屎一把尿的整啊。 一个孩子十来斤,你一把屎一把尿地整,那容易啊。那老头多难整啊,但是我妈就是这么照顾我爷爷。我爷爷什么时候死的呢?在我出生的头一年死的。我妈把我爷爷送走了以后,第二年,我妈就有了我,这不是祝福是什么。我妈养的这个儿子,别人就说:你看你养的儿子,你看我养的儿子。她怎么不看看自己呢?人总是想看别人,怎么就不看看自己呢?怎么就不看看我妈如何孝敬父母呢?我妈妈孝敬父母跟她孝敬父母的层次能一样吗?那养出来的儿子也不一样。 所以,当孝敬父母,在地上的日子才能长久。什么叫做有福气呢?有福气就是合神心意,因为福气都是从神来的,因为神是天地万物的主,如果我们讨了祂的喜悦,那岂不是在祂的面前得着恩典和福气吗?恩典和福气不是别人给你拜个年,你就有福了。是你所做的事情,神保守,不让鬼来碰。

我们大家琢磨一下,我们的神是天地万物的主,是圣洁的,所以我们要圣洁。就要除去我们里面的自私,面对父母就是我们里面的试金石啊。你想想看这人为何不孝敬父母呢?那不是因为钱吗?孝敬父母那不是要钱来孝敬吗?你孝敬了父母就耽误你赚钱,你照顾他们,就影响了你的生活,你就不想被他们影响,你就不孝敬父母了。那不麻烦了吗?说完了,自己都觉得自己自私。 我们弟兄姐妹仔细琢磨一下,不孝敬父母,你不可能孝敬神,一个不能够孝敬父母的,怎么能够孝敬神呢?一个生他养他、看得见、摸得着的父母都不孝敬,怎么会孝敬看不见、摸不着的神呢?所以神说你们个人都当孝敬父母,守我的安息日啊。守安息日跟孝敬父母有关系吗?能守安息日,却不能孝敬父母,那不是跟神玩假的吗?你孝敬父母,却不守安息日,也是跟神玩假的。这话可有意思了。 所以**我们当孝敬父母,更应当敬畏我们的神,更应当谨守我们跟神建立的关系,要跟父母的关系建好,跟神的关系建好。怎么建呢?就是除去我们里面的邪情私欲啊**。我敢说一件事,我在地上的日子必然长久。这长久的话挺好啊!说到地上得以长久,什么意思呢?就是你在地上的阳寿,就是在地上你能够活多久。

最近,有一个姐妹想学说学逗唱,我就给了她一个段子,叫做罗成算卦。这个罗成是唐朝的一元大将,唐朝有几个武功比较厉害的人,罗成排第七。罗成是一个大将,三国的时候是吕布第一,在唐朝的时候就是李元霸,他排第七也很厉害,基本就是关羽、张飞这个水平了。这个罗成七八岁读书,九岁学成武功,就是文武双全。十二岁打登州,救他的表哥,然后就非常厉害。结果,帮着李渊父子打下天下,做了无敌大将军,非常厉害。这是一个要说能说、要武能武、要文能文的人,这就是罗成。 罗成去算命,当时算命最好的是徐茂功,他掐指一算那是前知五百年,后知五百年。所以,唐高祖驾坐在长安,全凭文武保江山。文仗着徐茂功能掐会算,武仗着瓦岗的众英贤。罗成就是众英贤中的一个。结果有一天在街上溜达,心里发烦闹腾,闹腾以后叫家人备上马,要出城兜兜风透透气。 罗成老远看见一个算卦的摊档,近前看见一个老道在算卦,他在卦摊上写:如果算命不准,错一个字,不但不收钱还要赔钱。大算一卦要十两,小算一卦要五两三,能算天上星共斗,能算地上暑共寒。罗成看到这些,就上前要去算一算。老道说你报上生日时辰来。 故事长话短说,老道一算下来,把罗成从小到大的事讲得清清楚楚。罗成当场被震撼到了,他说:从前的事不算,你要算一算我的未来和寿命。以前徐茂公给罗成算命是七十三岁,结果老道算罗成的阳寿是二十三岁,五十年不见了。罗成当场翻脸了,他对老道说:七十三岁的命怎么就变成了二十三了?如果你不跟我说出所以然,我今天必要揭了你的卦摊!罗成是个大将军,领兵打仗很厉害的,一个小老道怎么就能扣下了这五十年的命了?

老道看了看罗成,就讲:我们二人无冤无仇,我也不会随意减掉你阳寿五十年。接着又说:将军息怒一旁站,听我把话说完。到底是哪五件事,让罗成折了五十年阳寿,看老道是怎么回答的:第一件:十一岁领兵去扫北,杀死鞑儿百万千。胡儿倒反虽该死,好可叹百万黎民受牵连。杀死百姓损阳寿,损去阳寿整十年; 第二件:你有个表兄秦叔宝,你二人传枪递锏后花园。他教你锏法真心实意,你递那罗家枪法没有教全。回马枪留下整三路,损去阳寿整十年;第三件:你有个五哥单雄信,贾家楼磕头拜了地天。在洛阳他保了王世充,你保唐王就在长安。回马枪杀死单雄信,损去阳寿整十年; 第四件:唐王念你是好汉,那君臣饮酒在金銮。耳听桥楼三更响,好大胆龙床凤枕去安眠。虎穴占了龙床的位,损去阳寿整十年;第五件:你有妻妾十二个,那孟州还有胡金婵。她待你情深又义重,你不该火烧岳阳楼恨布心田。胡金婵一死魂不散,那悲风惨惨来到了阴间。五阎佛面下告下了状,损去阳寿又是十年。到后来,罗成在二十三岁那年乱箭穿身血染黄泉。 按人的推理,罗成是白虎星下凡,但临死的时候才只有二十三岁,一个人自私为了自己就折了阳寿。我们要在世上孝敬父母,可以在地上活得长久。我们自私的地方点点滴滴,你可以瞒天过海,瞒得过人,却瞒不过神。在地上本来有七十三年的阳寿,结果到二十三岁万箭穿身而死。

今天很多人没活到该活的年龄。我们不是说要贪恋在世上的日子,神本来给我们有美好的命定,让我们在世上可以活成一个荣耀的样子,结果没到期而死,我们不要以为不到期而死是好死。我们要对付我们里面的自私,人在世上只顾自己,藏着小心眼,结果大心眼坏了就麻烦了。 所以我们的心眼要大一点,能不能活得大气一点?行侠仗义,活出一个英雄好汉的样子。不要脑袋像核桃仁,心眼像花生米,即使武艺像罗成都没有什么用,最终还是成为了人间的悲剧。我们要活得心胸开阔一点,对付自私。 我们在下个礼拜接着讲故事,《利未记》第十九章我们才讲了三句话,下面的章节请听下回分解。愿神祝福大家!
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