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【Live Abundantly】Character is a Person's Value

2017-04-10 5,607 Y133 Course - Living Abundantly

Today, living out abundance means recognizing that character is value, and not just any value, but a critically important one. If a person lacks character, whatever else they possess is of little use. In fact, if I were to choose partners for a company, I would seek out individuals with character. If you ask me what kind of people I would look for to build a team, I would say those with character. Indeed, knowledge is not the most important thing, nor are skills; character is paramount. Therefore, character is value.

Character is Value

During my recent trip home, a friend shared an interesting story with me. It was about twin brothers, both frail and sickly from a young age. As they grew older, these two thin and weak young men remained physically small. One was sent to serve in the armed police force, while the other stayed home. After a few years, the one who had served in the military returned, having been trained and transformed into a physically strong and mentally resilient individual. The one who stayed home remained weak in both body and character. Which of these two do you think will have a brighter future? I tell you, the one who underwent training in the armed police force, the one with a strong body and resilient character, will undoubtedly fare better than the one who remained physically and mentally weak. The military is a place where character is forged. Do not think that those years spent in service are a waste; they hold immense value. Character training is most evident in the military, and it is rigorous, is it not?

During Chinese New Year, I hosted a brother in Christ who had served in the military for several years. Those challenging years were incredibly worthwhile. When comrades reunite, their bond remains strong. Although the experience was tough, it molded our character. Schools, the military, and even the church should be places where character is developed. However, the military has retained the essence of character training, while schools, particularly those in foreign countries, have gradually lost this fundamental aspect, often simply imparting knowledge and then leaving. Therefore, today, my brothers and sisters, we must begin to understand that character is value. Schools are becoming increasingly commercialized and hesitant to shape character. However, in the military, soldiers have little choice and are thus trained. Modern schools, especially in Western nations, are becoming increasingly focused on knowledge, with less emphasis on character development, leading to the production of graduates whose character is lacking, which is a serious issue. I believe that China's approach to training soldiers is quite effective, as it involves character development. Whether I am a teacher or a pastor, my primary goal is to train the character of my team members. Why? Because it elevates your value. If you possess character, your worth is high; without it, your value diminishes. Realize that shaping your character is a valuable endeavor, a great service done for you. Do not think we are tormenting you. Is military training a form of torment? Yes, but it is also an excellent form of training. My personal educational philosophy centers around character and competence. Developing a person's character and abilities is a comprehensive approach to moral, intellectual, and physical development.

I strongly agree with Mao Zedong's May Seventh Directive, which I grew up reading. It called for shortening the school year, revolutionizing education, and providing comprehensive training in ethics, intellect, and physical fitness. Therefore, my personal philosophy is to train character. I often see people shedding tears before me, accusing me of being ruthless. I acknowledge that I am indeed quite strict, but it is not for my own sake; it is for your edification that I must be firm. Years ago, those who are now my valued colleagues and business partners include a sister named YX. She was a student at the polytechnic where I worked in a senior management position. The amount of tears she shed in front of me during her training could fill a small bottle of mineral water, and perhaps even more. When she cried, I would often ask her, What are you crying about? Do you think I care about your tears? Cry, cry as much as you want. And she grew into a valuable person. I rarely do this now, but I hope that our leaders will begin to do so. Cry, do you think I care? This may seem harsh. But we are willing to see you shed tears for the sake of raising your value. It is not easy for me to train someone it is difficult. After he/she leaves having cried, it is my turn to shed tears. Because I do not know whether he/she will collapse, I can only call on God in faith, asking that He enable your growth.

So, you know, YX's mother is especially grateful for her daughter's achievements today. In truth, it is because of God. And also because God used me to shape her. We also have another brother and sister among us who has become my colleague: HF. You know, his mother's way of shaping him was extremely strict. During his three years at the polytechnic, she did not send him a single cent. He lived in a worker's dormitory, which had no air conditioning despite the humid Singapore weather. The dormitory was also dirty and messy, making life very difficult! He relied on part-time work to pay for his living expenses and tuition. He would not hold back on his hours as long as he had enough money. Instead of opening a bank account, he kept all his money in his wallet. Sometimes, he would sit in the restroom and count the money in his wallet to see if he had enough for tuition and living expenses, and often he did not have enough for the rent. As a result, he was shaped into a man of character. By human standards, what I did to YX and what HF's mother did to HF might not seem like good things, but when a person's character is shaped in this way, he becomes a valuable person. I often say that a person should be like a mudfish, able to survive in a little water. You know, a mudfish lives in a ditch, and sometimes the water almost dries up, leaving only mud. The mudfish remains there, waiting for the rain to come, and then it becomes a hero again, swimming vigorously in the water! The mudfish has great character.

What Character to Cultivate

Today, I tell you, brothers and sisters, cultivate resilience and perseverance, the ability to rise again after falling, courage and boldness, and unwavering loyalty. Be faithful to the point of death; be a loyal person. What character to cultivate? Cultivate these qualities! I tell you today, brothers and sisters, never be negative when facing problems. Life is full of hardships, like sparks flying from a fire.

No matter what you encounter, do not be negative, because negativity will ruin your life and make you a person of no character. Negativity will drastically reduce your value. If you were a stock, you should be a potential growth stock. Girls should marry such a potential investment. What is a person with potential? It is someone with character. Only those with character have potential.

While events are often beyond our control, our response to them is within our control. David was hunted by Saul for 13 years, yet he refused to be negative, even in tears. Joseph was sold into slavery, endured ten years of servitude and three years of imprisonment, yet he refused to be negative. He became a man of immense value and a remarkable figure. Also, consider Goujian of China, who endured great hardship to achieve his goals.

Never lose hope in the face of adversity, always choose victory, never give up, always choose loyalty, and in every situation, choose to be strong and courageous and move forward. Now Living is a easy thing, you are just living until you die, no matter you are weak or strong. We choose strong, we choose victory, we choose never give up, we choose loyalty, we choose believing, we choose hope.

Your circumstances cannot define you; it is the loss of character that makes you fail. Character is value. Even in hopeless situations, I do not lose hope. One reason is that I chose to believe in Jesus, step into the church, at the most difficult time in my life. The Bible helps me a lot. I never give up. During the process of building the church, I often faced setbacks, kneeling in my office and crying for three hours, then washing my face and continuing the journey. I am never timid; I fear nothing, not even death.

How to Cultivate Character

Today, we have established a team dedicated to education and training. Do not think of me as a mere religious figure; I am a practical educator. I understand that character development is crucial for a child. While some environmental factors are beyond our control, as in the cases of David and Joseph, these factors are part of God's shaping process. When the Israelites were led out of Egypt, they entered the wilderness. Why? Because God wanted to shape their character. Their character was not molded, and as a result, they were struck down in the wilderness. God's shaping is beyond our control, but there are many controllable, man-made environments. In raising children, for example, you can intentionally create an environment that shapes their character. Therefore, character development occurs through environment. For instance, training children to wake up early, do housework, and develop the habit of overcoming difficulties all contribute to character development. Joseph's being sold into slavery in Egypt was beyond his control, but when his brothers came to buy grain, he put them in prison, which many do not understand. This was because he was shaping the character of his brothers and old Jacob, which was the greatest blessing. Deng Xiaoping's three rises and falls also demonstrate a man of great character.

Character development is also reflected in the words of the Chinese ancients. When Heaven is about to place a great responsibility on a person, it always first frustrates their spirit and will, exhausts their muscles and bones, starves their body, leaves them destitute, and confounds their actions. Only through these experiences do they become patient and develop abilities they did not have before. Joseph's actions were merely symbolic, but his brothers did not know that. The environment of waiting in prison transformed their character.

Deng Xiaoping was unquestionably one of the greatest. I greatly admire Deng Xiaoping. Risen and fallen three times, sent to farm, sent to factory, reformed, and then kicked back but he came back ultimately, three times enter Zhongnanhai. he is very powerful, very charming and very resilience. He can handle it, but you know how challenging it must be.
Character training is also Chinese wisdoms, 天将降大任于斯人也,必先苦其心志,劳其筋骨,饿其体肤,空乏其身,行拂乱其所为,所以动心忍性,曾益其所不能. So God uses environment to make man.

However, today we must learn one thing: Why does the Bible record that Joseph dealt so severely with his brothers—the brothers who sold him? It was not out of malice but to mold his brothers' character. In the absence of God-created environments, use man-made environments to shape them. As a result, Judah was willing to remain in Egypt as a slave, paying such a price. Later, Joseph told them, I am your brother Joseph. Jacob would not let Benjamin leave his side, but Jacob finally resolved to let happen what may, Now I have lost my children and no longer have Joseph or Benjamin. By letting go, he shaped his character. So, I tell you that sometimes we humans cling to things and refuse to let go, but when we have no choice, we must let go. That molds your character.

Shepherding is Shaping Character

Today, I tell you, I have invented a method of shepherding. What is shepherding? Shepherding is shaping a person's character. Shaping character is shepherding, and shepherding is shaping character. What does it mean to shape character? It means creating a human environment and then helping them develop confidence. Without confidence, they will discern good and evil and look for right and wrong, which is not the right method. Shepherding shapes character, and behind character lies faith.

I tell you that I often wrong people, often wrong people. Once, one sisters came to see me from a long distance, very coincidentally we are at two tables sitting down to eat, I was sitting on my table and she was sitting in front of me, I knew she needed to be shaped, I spoke badly about her. After I spoke badly about her, she came to bother me for a few months. Now she has eventually be shaped, and she forgave me. I said to her I was very careful about someone like you when you came to church, I was afraid you were up to no good. She said I did not do it. I wrongly accused you. Prior to this I wronged her, about the offertory. She thought I wrongly accused her on offertory, actually I did wrongly accused her, very coincidentally. So intentionally build her, it will do her good. I thank God now she is very different.

Creating Environments to Shape People is Key in Shepherding.

So using man-made environments to mold a person's character is the key to shepherding. I realize that my entire life is inseparable from education. And that is why I discuss with XY, HF, and the other leaders, on what to do. We will explore how to improve our characters, and we will have a series of courses that will help equip students with the right attitudes. We will make it clear to you that we are molding your personality traits and we want improve one's attitude. In facts the Church, the school army, and our work should be places of cultivation of one's potential. You do not recognize it when I wrong one, in all certainty the wrongdoing is all me. I will sometimes ask you to walk circles, or I dig a hole so that you will fall in. Why? So that you undergo it yourself, so that your confidence and attitude can improve. Here i showed you my game plan, do not try to take advantage and play against me, I will surely win.

I often encounter the same things in my workplace. But I find that I can choose to prevail, choose not to be negative and to fight back. You know our people will go through some training I know that I may need to adjust some areas of my system of shepherding for some leaders. They have not submitted their report even at mid-night and then the leaders will scold them. Like why is it 12:00pm and the report is still not in? And why must it be 12:05pm on this certain event, and the leaders start to lecture one. At times I can be somewhat lenient but i must implement structure also. If there are those who are unwilling to be built, you need not teach them or help build it and help them. Instead teach those whom may seek you out, that look minister or leader please improve me, then we can build it. Know that some of the tasks in Church, the momentum we push is very strong, it is very high. The goal is to see whether it can crush you. Also we need to be wary, if you know that you are almost crushed and cannot handle it, quickly stop what you are doing.

Never Give Up

Some time go, I was watching a film title, Never Give Up. I preached on the topic and I am very fond of it. That is my most fond sermon in my entire life. It help motivates and inspires me so much. As I traverse the path God has set out for me, I always seek to give up, and feel that I am in pain, hardships, and difficulties. So God will tell you, I know but you can do it. You can continue for, hang on almost there and there. Then I will continue the race. In the episode it showed Death Crawl, and the team did 110 yards when generally you can do a few feet. That is very impressive. They carried 160pounds and did the death crawl. He stated I am pain, I am pain, and the team lead kept encouraging him keep going. And the team won. So the point is, and I may see you failing and almost giving up on what you are set to do. But I will say, persevere and press on and continue and not to give up. Then you are improving on your potential. I then cheer on the sides as well. So is it tough, yes it is tough and difficult.

I was watching a documentary called Never Give Up recently. I preached a sermon that I consider my favorite of all time, also titled Never Give Up. That sermon truly inspired me. As I run the path of ministry that God has prepared for me, I often feel like giving up. I often say to God that I am in pain, I am struggling, I am exhausted. But God will tell me, I know, but you can do it. You can keep going. Almost there, almost at the finish line. And so I continue to run. In a short clip from Never Give Up, an athlete performs a death crawl. While most people can only manage a few yards, he crawled the entire length of the field, 110 yards, which is truly impressive. He carried a 160-pound teammate while doing the death crawl for 110 yards. He kept saying, I am in pain, I am in pain, and the coach kept encouraging him. This team was a winning team. So, brothers and sisters, I may see you on the verge of being crushed, but I will say, Keep going, keep going, keep going. Do not give up. That is your character. I will cheer you on from the sidelines, Keep going, keep going. Is it hard? Yes, it is hard. Is it painful? Yes, it is painful, but it is worthwhile. It is an excellent tool for training character. A flower grown in a greenhouse cannot become a plant of strong character; a child raised in a greenhouse cannot become a person of strong character. So, today, we must clearly understand what we want to train people to become: people of strong character, who can then be above and not below, the head and not the tail, in the workplace. It is not because we love money and want to be above, but because we have character within us. We will live a fulfilling life in this world.

Today, I urge all parents among us to shift your focus and train your children's characters. Many parents are not smart. Spending $3,000, $5,000, $10,000, $20,000, or even $100,000 for your children comes at a heavy financial cost. It may be hard, and painful but this is character-building. And it is difficult and hardship, but it is of immeasurable worth, so that one can learn to improve on themselves. so that one can learn to improve on themselves. Is it hard? Yes, it is hard. Is it painful? Yes, it is painful, but it is valuable. It is an excellent tool for training character. A flower grown in a greenhouse cannot become a plant of strong character; a child raised in a greenhouse cannot become a person of strong character. So, today, we must clearly understand that we want to train a person to become a person of strong character, so that in the workplace, they can be above and not below, the head and not the tail. It is not because we love money that we want to be above, but because we have character within us. We will live a fulfilling life in this world.

Training Children's Character

I urge all parents among us to shift your focus and train your children's characters. Many parents are not smart. Spending $3,000, $5,000, $10,000, $20,000, or even $100,000 for your children comes at a heavy financial cost, but is it worth it? Training the study capacity for the children, this is keys. Character and ability are closely linked. If you have children, save your money and start shaping their characters. And remove the nasty habits like you treat the children with the body's feelings and body's needs. If you treat your children with the body's feelings and body's needs, you are pushing your children to the death, so that the body can be treated. You remove one discernment of one needs and one removes your body's needs, and then you are improve on your children's personality traits. I know that the youth maybe under hardship, but it will be all right as God will see his inner bone that is he inner core of is personality. So you must listen to the advice of the parents, so that you can come and change one strategies. Taking him/her to music class to dance class, so you need to start improving one's strategies the responsibility, and not be afraid as you are one's father or one's mother. So you can starts to rebuild of one's mindsets.

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## The Deepest Level of Character: Thoughts and Intentions

**Whether you are being trained or training others, the deepest part of a person's character lies in their thoughts and intentions. As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.** If your thoughts are wrong, your life will be one of utter depravity. No one deliberately does what they believe is wrong. This doesn't taste good, I want to eat it anyway, or This looks awful on me, I must wear it. No one does things like that. A normal person won't do what they believe is wrong. But is our internal understanding good and correct? That must be adjusted. If you judge me by the incident where I made Sister YX cry, thinking I did something terrible, that's because of your own perception. But I believe it was the best thing for Sister YX's edification. If you think Brother HF's mother was too harsh for not sending him money and making him earn his own tuition, believing that's being too harsh a parent, I think it was a good way to shape him.

Learn to look at the results in everything. If the results are good, then it is good; if the results are bad, what's the use? Like the child I mentioned earlier who was sent to the armed police for training. It was hellish training, but the child was forged into a man. Was it hard? Yes, it was, but that's what's good. Some people can't accept being wronged. Pastor, that's my bottom line. You can't challenge my bottom line. I will challenge your bottom line so that when you are dunned for debts in the future, it won't be the source of your downfall. Our bottom line is our thoughts, and we must rewrite that bottom line. There should only be one bottom line: the word of God, and that we should become valuable people. Why do people indulge their children's flesh? They think it's only natural. Taking care of children and indulging them actually corrupts them. Teaching, disciplining, and rebuking children - these are from the Bible (2 Timothy 3:16: All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness). Also, teach and train, supervise and rebuke. Why? Because that is training their character, and it doesn't matter if the child suffers a little.

I know of a child whose mother indulged his flesh from a young age. Now he's over 30 and does nothing all day. Those who grow up indulging their flesh cannot produce good fruit. Once, a grandmother and great-grandmother brought a child to my office to see me. The child cried and fussed, wanting to be held the whole time. I couldn't stand it anymore, so I snatched the child into my arms. I told the grandmothers to stay there, and I took the child to a dark room. I put the child down and began to discipline him. He got a little better, and I returned him to his great-grandmother. The grandmothers were exhausted from carrying such a heavy child all the way there, but when they left, he not only walked on his own but also helped them carry things. But if the child isn't continually trained after returning home, he will revert to his old ways.

There is something inside a person called animalistic nature, and we must break it down. Therefore, be strong! Being strong means dealing with your flesh. If you aren't strong, you can't deal with it. The best blessing for a person is to be strong and deal with that animalistic nature. When I returned to Mudanjiang, Sister JX brought her son David, who was crying and fussing and wanting to be held. I said, David, come here, and I disciplined him. After that, David was well-behaved, no longer crying or fussing. Later, David's parents said that every time they mentioned the pastor, he would say 乖乖 (乖乖 - well-behaved). Whenever the pastor was mentioned, the child associated it with being obedient.

What is good? What is not good? We must adjust what’s inside. **Shaping a person's character is a value. Today, we must learn to add value to people; this value is constantly forging their character.**

## Character is Value

**Constantly shaping a person's character is a blessing.** Do you want to bless others? Then bless them like this. Many churches today have lost the element of shaping character. They think our God is Santa Claus, but our God is not Santa Claus. Our God is love, but also a consuming fire. Know that even in the New Testament, in Romans, some people are storing up wrath for themselves before God until God's wrath comes. Why? Because they lack character. Therefore, brothers and sisters, you must begin to learn to be good shepherds, to distribute blessings and shape the character of others. When you can learn to shape the character of others, you will become a good shepherd. The kind of pastor I dislike the most is the Mr. Nice Guy who thinks he is Santa Claus and that the people below will honor him. It's not like that. **You must be someone who breaks down their flesh, and the people below will definitely honor you. That is shepherding.** So I am very saddened that many people are unwilling to inherit my shepherding philosophy, and that is why the shepherding work is not improving. We must know for sure not to store up wrath for ourselves. Therefore, all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God because they are unwilling to break down their flesh according to God's word. So, today I am saying this to those who are being shaped and also to those who are shaping others. Know for sure that it is a blessing. If you want to be a blessing to all nations on earth, then shape their character so that they have this character within them, and they will become valuable people.

Some time ago, there was a girl whose character I repeatedly forged. She couldn't persevere for very long. She was doing well selling insurance, even giving testimonies about selling 200,000 worth, but she suddenly resigned. No one allowed her to resign, but she insisted on resigning. The result is that she is now in a bad situation. Why? Because she has a fickle character and doesn't want to do things well in one place. Today we must know for sure that this is what we should be doing: **not only shaping our own character through the environment but also shaping the character of others, so that all of us become valuable people because character is value.**
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今天活出丰盛讲性格就是价值,而且不是价值而已,是一个非常重要的价值。如果一个人没有性格,他有什么也没有用。其实,如果让我选择开公司,找什么样的人做合伙人?找有性格的人。你问我如果建立团队找什么样的人,找有性格的人。**其实知识不是最重要的,技能也不是最重要的,性格才是最重要的。所以性格是价值**。

我这次回家的时候,有位朋友给我分享了一个很有趣的事。这个有趣的事是啥呢?有一对双胞胎,弟兄两个人自幼多病、身体非常非常的虚弱。结果长大了以后,两个瘦弱多病的两个年轻小伙非常瘦,身子板儿非常的小。结果一个送去武警部队当兵,一个人留在家里。几年下来,双胞胎嘛,不管是哥哥还是弟弟就差个几分钟,当兵的那个回来,在部队里被训练,身体健壮、性格刚强。一个留在家里,身体仍然是一个虚弱、性格仍然软弱的一个孩子。你说这两个人哪个会有美好的未来?我告诉你那个经过武警部队训练过的,一个身体健壮、性格刚强的人,他将来一定会比那个身体孱弱、身体瘦弱,然后性格软弱的人来的好。部队是一个训练人性格的地方,千万不要以为当兵那几年是一个浪费,那是一个非常好的价值。性格训练在部队里最明显,在部队里的训练辛苦不辛苦?辛苦! 在我们当中春节的时候,我接待了一个弟弟兄,他当兵出身,在部队里干了几年,在部队里辛苦的那几年其实是非常值得的。战友再聚在一起的时候,仍然感情非常的深厚。虽然辛苦但是我们的性格却被训练出来。其实学校、部队包括教会,都是应该训练人性格的地方,只是部队还保留了训练性格的本质,学校尤其是国外的学校已经逐步丧失了训练人性格的本质性的东西,大概传授知识老师讲完就走。所以今天咱们弟兄姐妹要开始了解一件事情,性格是个价值。现在的学校越来越商业化,也不敢陶造人的性格,但是在部队里当兵的是没有什么选择,所以被训练。现在的学校越来越知识化,尤其是西方国家更加的严重,越来越少性格的塑造,结果那些学生被生产出来被塑造出来,其实就很要命。今天我觉得我们中国训练士兵其实挺有两下子的,训练士兵训练的挺好,那很多都是那种陶造。我们现在我做一个老师也好、牧师也好,我所训练的团队基本上要做一件事,就是训练人的性格。为什么训练人的性格?就是在你的身上把你的价值推上去,如果你有性格你的价值就高,没有性格价值就低。要知道塑造你性格是一个价值,对你做了一件非常好的事,千万别以为我们在折磨你,你说当兵的在军队里是不是一种折磨?!是啊,但是却是一个非常好的训练。所以我个人的教育理念是这样的,教育理念核心价格是性格和能力,训练一个人的性格、训练一个人的能力,这就是德育、智育、体育全面发展。

其实我非常认同毛泽东的五七指示,我个人从小读这句话长大的。学制要缩短,教育要革命,要从德育智育体育全方面训练,所以我个人的理念是训练人的性格。 我常常看见人在我面前流眼泪,你这人挺狠的,我觉得我这人确实挺狠的,但是狠不是为了我自己狠,而是为了你们得造就我不得不狠。早些年间,现在都成了我的非常好的同工,一起来创业,一个同工就是YX姐妹,YX姐妹读我所在的那个理工学院,我做高级管理人员,那她在理工学院里读书,我训练她我告诉你训练成什么样,她在我面前流的眼泪加起来有一小瓶矿泉水瓶,还不止。你知道她在我面前哭的时候,我常常说她哭什么呀?哭什么呀?你以为我很在乎你的眼泪,哭啊哭啊,使劲哭啊。结果她能成为一个有价值的孩子。今天我很少这么做,但是希望我们当中这些领袖开始做。哭啊,你以为我在乎啊,这个有点狠。我们为了你的价值提升,我们不惜你的眼泪,其实我告诉你,难受,不是不难受。训练人是很难受的。他/她流完了眼泪,他/她出去了,开始轮到我流眼泪啦。难受,因为我不知道他/她会不会垮掉,我就凭着信心呼求神,我说神呐使他/她能够成长起来。

所以今天你知道吗?YX的妈妈就特别感恩,她的女儿有今天,说句实话还真的因为神。其实也是因为神使用我来塑造她。弟兄姐妹我们当中还有一个人成为我的同工,就是HF,你知道他妈妈塑造这个孩子老狠啦,他在理工学院读书三年一分钱没给寄过,然后他住在劳工宿舍里面,新加坡的劳工宿舍没有空调,新加坡没有空调的日子老热了,结果那劳工宿舍又脏又乱,很辛苦!他就靠着打工付自己的生活费也交学费,自己赚钱,课少上一节多上一节没关系。反正有足够的钱,他不开银行账户,他所有的钱都在钱包里,有的时候他就坐厕所里数钱包里的钱够不够交学费,够不够生活费,结果不够交房租。结果他被塑造成一个有性格的人。那按照人的理解,我做在YX身上和HF他妈妈做在HF身上,这都不是什么好事,但是人的性格被塑造起来的时候就成了一个有价值的人。我常常说一个人要像泥鳅,有点水就能活,你知道啊,那个泥鳅在泥沟里头,我告诉啊有的时候那水都快干了,就剩了一点泥,那泥鳅就在里头,然后呢就等在下雨的时候又是一条好汉,生龙活虎,在那水里头游,了不起!泥鳅是很有性格的。

今天我告诉你,弟兄姐妹啊我告诉你,**塑造你里面坚韧不放弃,跌倒了再爬起来,塑造你里面不胆怯、刚强壮胆,塑造你里面那种忠心的性格。死都要忠心,做一个忠心的人**。塑造什么性格?就是塑造这些性格!我今天讲,弟兄姐妹我告诉你们啊,遇到问题什么东西都不要负面。其实我们一生当中,人生患难如同火星飞溅。 **遇到什么都不要负面,因为你一负面,你的人生就被毁了,你一负面你就是一个没有性格的人。你一负面你的价值就大跌**。如果你要做一个股票,你就做一个潜力股。女孩子要嫁人就嫁一个潜力股。什么叫有潜力的人?就是有性格的人。有性格的人才有潜力。 **遇到的事情不可控,但是遇到事情的反应是可控的**。大卫被扫罗追杀了13年,他即使流泪也不肯负面。约瑟被卖,十年的奴隶,三年的牢狱,也不肯负面,就成为极有价值的人,都成为了不起的人。还有中国的勾践,卧薪尝胆。 遇到什么事情都不失去盼望,遇到什么事情都选择得胜,遇到什么事情都不要放弃,遇到什么事情都选择忠心,遇到什么环境,都选择刚强壮胆往下走。**人一生活着是一件很简单的事**,活着活着就死了,你软弱也是这样,你刚强也是这样。**我们选择刚强,我们选择得胜,我们选择永不放弃,我们选择忠心,我们选择相信,选择盼望**。 **环境不能把你怎么样,丧失了性格才让人觉得你不行**。性格是价值。我遇到很多让人失去盼望的时候,我也不失去盼望。其中一个原因,**就是在我遇到人生最艰难的时候,我选择信了耶稣,走进教会,圣经对我的帮助非常的大**。我遇到什么东西我都选择胜过去,没有放弃。在建立教会的过程中,常常受打击,跪在自己的办公室里哭三个小时,洗把脸接着继续奔跑。我从来不胆怯,死都不怕,还怕什么呢?

今天我们成立了一个团队,专门搞教育和培训。不要以为我是个宗教师,我是一个实实在在的教育工作者。我很清楚,塑造性格对一个孩子来讲很重要。**塑造一个人的性格,有一些环境的因素是不可控的,像大卫和约瑟。但是这些环境的因素是神在塑造人**。以色列人被带出埃及的时候,进到了旷野里面。为什么要进到旷野里面呢?因为神要塑造他们的性格。他们的性格没有被塑造成,所以他们在旷野里被击杀了。神塑造人是不可控的,但是还有很多可控的环境,人造的环境。**人造的环境,比如说你在家里养孩子,你故意给他创造一个环境,让他的性格被塑造。所以塑造人的性格,就是透过环境**。比如说训练小孩早起,训练小孩做家务,训练小孩养成一种克服困难的习惯,那都是性格塑造。约瑟被卖到埃及做奴隶是不可控的,但是约瑟在他哥哥们来卖粮的时候,把他哥哥放到监牢里面,很多人不理解。那是因为塑造要塑造他的哥哥和老雅各的性格,那是最好的祝福。邓小平三起三落,也是个很有性格的人。 **性格的塑造也是中国的古人所说的**。天欲降大任于斯人也,必先劳其筋骨,饿其体肤。 约瑟只是比划一下,其实不是动真格的,但是他哥哥们不知道啊。哇,那个环境,那个西缅在监狱里等啊等啊等啊,他哥哥也不来。我跟你讲,在监狱里的时候,很陶造人的性格啊,很陶造人的性格。

你要知道在我们这个世代,邓小平是一个非常伟大的人物。我觉着我很佩服邓小平这样伟大的人物,三起三落,被下放到农厂,下放到工厂,然后在那里被改造,然后又被踢回来,踢回来又被赶出去,三进中南海。很厉害,真的很厉害,很有性格。性格的塑造正是我们中国古人所说的,天将降大任于斯人也,天,就是上天,要把这个任务交给这个人,必先苦其心志,劳其筋骨,饿其体肤,空乏其身,行拂乱其所为,所以动心忍性,曾益其所不能。那都是性格的塑造,神就利用环境塑造人。 但是今天我们要学会一件事,圣经里记载为什么约瑟如此地对付他哥哥们?就是卖他的哥哥们。不是恶搞,是塑造他哥哥们的性格。没有神造的环境,就用人造的环境陶造他们一把。结果犹大甘愿留在埃及做奴隶,付上这样的代价其实也没做成。后来约瑟告诉他们我是你的弟弟约瑟。就是这样。老雅各不肯放便雅悯离开他的身边,但老雅各最后死就死了吧,丢了儿子没有就没有了吧,我既然没了约瑟便雅悯没了也没关系啦,放下放下了,就塑造了他的性格是不是。所以今天我告诉你有的时候我们人抓住一些事情不肯放不肯放,结果非放不可的时候你也得放。那就陶造你的性格。

今天我告诉你,我发明了一个牧养的方法。什么叫做牧养?**牧养就是塑造人的性格**。塑造人的性格就是牧养,牧养就是塑造人的性格。什么叫塑造一个人的性格?创造一个人为的环境,然后让他开始有信心。一个人没有信心他就识别善恶找对啊错啊,你为什么这样?**牧养塑造人的性格,性格背后实际上是个信心**。 我告诉你我常常冤枉人,我常常冤枉人。有一次一个姐妹大老远赶来看我,刚好我们两个桌子吃饭,我坐在那桌她就坐在我对面,我知道她非常需要塑造,我就把她说了一顿。说了一顿,跟我纠缠了好几个月呢。我想今天她的性格已经被塑造起来了,她可以放下。我说你就是那个来到教会我非常的小心,我就特别在乎,怕你破坏教会。她说我没有破坏教会。没关系,我就冤枉你一把。之前我还曾经冤枉她一把,冤枉她一把什么呢?奉献的事。她就以为我冤枉她,其实我真的就是冤枉她,真的是冤枉。所以刻意塑造她的性格,那是对她最好的祝福。我感谢神,她在改变当中。

所以**人造的环境去塑造一个人的性格,就是牧养的关键**。所以我在想我这一辈子大概是跟教育分不开。所以我就跟XY姐妹、HF弟兄、WC弟兄,包括其他的领袖,我们就一起来探讨什么呢?探讨如何塑造人的性格,我们会有一系列的课程,训练人的性格。我们就明明地告诉你,我们就是要塑造你的性格。其实教会、学校、军队,工作岗位,都需要成为塑造人性格的地方。你知道我冤枉人的时候,很多时候都是我故意的,大家千万不要以为我是不小心搞错了。我冤枉人的时候可真劲,有的时候我还画个圈儿让你跳进去,挖个洞让你跳进去。为什么呢?只有这样,人才身临其境,性格被陶造,信心被陶造。我把底牌亮给大家了,大家别拿这个事儿来试验我。你试验我,我应该可以胜过去。 我在工作岗位上常常也遇到同样的事情。但是我发现我可以选择得胜,选择不负面。你知道我们的事工常常训练人,我知道我最近在调整一件事情,就是我牧养的体制。有些领袖晚上十二点还没有收到汇报,砰砰砰就把那个弟兄给训一通。为什么十二点不能够交完汇报?为什么非得十二点零五?他就训一通。有的时候我还挺体贴肉体,后来我改变了策略。那些不肯被性格塑造的,不塑造他们,你不用塑造他们。那些愿意说:牧师,我的区牧、我的领袖,你来塑造我。那我们就塑造你。你知道我们很多的事工,我们的牧养,那种推动的力道是很强的,我们的力道非常强,然后那个压力非常的大,就是看你会不会被压垮。我想我们开始要小心,如果快被压垮的时候赶紧把那个压力撤下来。

你知道前一段时间,我在看一个纪录片,这个纪录片叫做《永不放弃》。我讲了一篇道,是我有生以来我最喜欢的一篇道,叫做《永不放弃》。《永不放弃》那篇道,其实激励了我。我在奔跑神为我预备的服侍的这条道路上,其实我常常想放弃,我常常会跟神说我很痛,我很辛苦,我很累。神就会告诉我,我知道,但是你可以。你可以,加油,可以,可以,可以,眼看就要到终点了,眼看就要到终点了,我就继续往前奔跑。《永不放弃》的小片段里面演了一小段儿,一个运动员做了死亡爬行。一般的人只能做几十码,他一下爬过整个操场,110码,真的很厉害。背着一个160磅的运动员做死亡爬行,爬了110码。他说我很痛,我很痛,我很痛,那个教练不断地激励他,不断地激励他。这个团队是个得胜的团队。所以今天弟兄姐妹,我可能会看见你眼看要被压垮,但是我会说再坚持,坚持,坚持,坚持,不要放弃。那就是你的性格。我会在旁边喊加油,加油,加油。辛苦不辛苦?辛苦。痛苦不痛苦?痛苦,但是却是有价值的。那是训练人性格的一个最好的工具。一个在温室里的花朵它不可能成为一个有性格的植物;一个在温室里长大的孩子他不可能成为一个有性格的人。所以今天咱们要确切的明白我们要训练的人要训练成什么?训练成一个有性格的人,然后在这职场上就可以居上不居下、作首不作尾。不是因为我们爱钱居上不居下,是因为我们里面有性格。我们在这世上的日子必要活出精彩的一生。

**今天我劝我们当中凡是有孩子的父母,把你的焦点挪移,训练你孩子的性格**。你知道我们当中有很多父母,我不觉着你聪明。花三千、五千、一万、两万、五万、十万为你的孩子付上很沉重的金钱的代价。 辛苦不辛苦?辛苦。痛苦不痛苦?痛苦。但却是有价值的,那是训练人性格的一个最好的工具。一个在温室里的花朵,它不能成为一个有性格的植物;一个在温室里长大的孩子,他不可能成为一个有性格的人。所以今天咱们要确切的明白,我们要训练一个人,让他成为一个有性格的人,**使他在职场上能够“居上不居下,作首不作尾”**。不是因为我们爱钱,才要居上不居下,而是因为我们里面有性格,我们在世上的日子必要活出精彩的一生。

奉劝我们当中有孩子的父母,把你的焦点挪移,去训练你孩子的性格。我们当中很多的父母,我不觉得你聪明,花三千五千、一万两万甚至十万,为你的孩子付上很沉重的金钱的代价,但是这些东西真的有价值吗?**,训练孩子的学习能力,这才是关键**。性格和我们的能力紧密相关。如果你今天有孩子,把你的钱都省下来,开始塑造孩子的性格。**就是要除去我们做父母的里面那种体贴孩子肉体的恶习**。如果你体贴孩子的肉体,你就是把孩子往死里推,因为体贴肉体就是死。你要开始除去你里面那些识别善恶的东西(就是分辨对错)也除去孩子里面那些识别善恶东西,开始塑造他的性格。我知道孩子会很辛苦,但是没有关系,神就是这样的一个神,神看人骨子里的东西,就是性格。所以我劝我们当中做父母的,重新调整你训练孩子的策略。把他送去学钢琴学跳舞,其实训练孩子是你做父母的责任,做父母的不知道如何训练孩子是一个悲哀。要训练人的性格,必须调整我们里面的心思意念。

**不管你是被训练的还是训练别人的,人里面那个性格深层就是心思意念。你心里如何思念,你的人生就是怎样**。如果你的思念是错的,你的一生会活的非常的败坏。没有人会去做自己认为错的事。“这个不好吃,我要吃”、“这穿起来好难看,我一定要穿”,没有人做这样的事情。一个正常的人不会去做自己认为错的事。但是我们里面的那个认知是不是一个好的,是不是一个正确的认知呢?都要调整。如果你照着我使YX姐妹流眼泪这件事情来判断,你认为我做了一件很坏的事,那就是因为你自己的认知。但是我认为那是对YX姐妹最好的造就;如果你认为HF弟兄的妈妈太狠,不给他邮钱,让他自己挣钱自己交学费。你认为这样是一个太狠的父母,但是我认为那是对孩子很好的一个塑造。 凡事要学会看结果,结果好的才是好的,如果结果不好,有什么好呢!就像我刚开始讲的那个小孩被送去武警部队训练,那是魔鬼般的训练,但是孩子被淘造出来,成为了一个男子汉。辛苦吗?辛苦,但是那才是好的。 被冤枉,有些人不能接受被被人冤枉,“牧师,这是我的底线,你不能挑战我的底线。”我就是要挑战你的底线,免得你将来被讨债的时候,成为你败坏的根源。我们里面的底线就是我们的意念,我们要重新改写我们里面的底线。只有一个底线,就是上帝的话,就是我们要成为一个有价值的人。为什么人体贴孩子肉体?人们认为这是理所应当的。照顾孩子、关心孩子其实是败坏孩子。教导孩子教训督责,这是圣经里面的话。(《提摩太后书》3:16 圣经都是 神所默示的(或作“凡 神所默示的圣经”),于教训、督责、使人归正、教导人学义都是有益的。)又要教导训练,又要监督责备,为什么呢?因为那是在训练性格,让孩子吃点苦不要紧。

我知道有一个孩子的妈妈从小就体贴孩子的肉体,孩子已经30多岁了,整天无所事事。体贴肉体长大的,他不可能接什么好果子。有一次,姥姥和奶奶两个老人家带着一个孩子来到我办公室来看我,结果那个孩子哭啊闹啊,一直让人抱着不肯下来。我实在看不下去了,我就“啪”把孩子抓到我的怀里,我说奶奶和姥姥在这呆着,我就把孩子带到小黑屋里去。我把孩子往那一放,我就开始训他,后来他就好了一点,我就把孩子交还给孩子的姥姥。孩子来的时候是一路抱着,那么重的孩子可把姥姥奶奶累坏了,结果回去的时候,不但自己走,还帮着他的姥姥和奶奶提着东西。但是如果孩子回去了,不再继续训练的话,那他又会回到原来的样子。 人里面有一个东西叫兽性,我们一定要把这个兽性破除掉。所以你要刚强!刚强就是要对付你的肉体。如果不刚强,你对付不了。对一个人最好的祝福,就是要刚强起来对付那些兽性。我回牡丹江时,JX姐妹带着他的儿子大卫,那天又哭又闹让人抱。我说大卫你过来,我就把他修理了一顿。之后大卫乖了,也不哭也不闹了。后来每次大卫的爸爸妈妈说,每次提到牧师的时候,孩子都会说:“乖乖”。一提到牧师,孩子就知道跟乖乖联系在一起。

**不断塑造人的性格,那是一种祝福**。你想祝福别人吗?就这么祝福。今天很多教会丧失了陶造人性格的成分。以为我们的神是圣诞老人,其实我们的神不是圣诞老人,我们的神是爱,同时也是烈火。要知道我们的神,就算是在新约圣经里面《罗马书》里,有些人为自己在神面前积蓄愤怒,直到神震怒。为什么?因为缺少性格,所以今天弟兄姐妹一定要开始学习,去做一个好的牧者,把祝福分赐出去,塑造对方的性格。当你能够学会塑造对方性格的时候,你就会成为一个好的牧者。我最不喜欢的牧者,就是好好先生,他以为他做了一个圣诞老人,底下的人就会尊荣他。不是这样,**你要做一个破除他肉体的人,底下的人就一定会尊荣他,这就是牧养**。所以我很感慨,很多人不肯传承我的牧养理念,所以牧养工作没有起色。我们要确切地知道不要为自己积蓄忿怒。所以世人都犯了罪,亏缺了神的荣耀,就是因为不愿意照着神的话去破除自己的肉体。所以今天我说这话,是给那些被塑造的人,也同时给那些塑造别人的人说的。要确切的知道那是一种祝福,你如果想成为万国地上万国万民的祝福,就去塑造他的性格,让他们在里面有这种性格,那他就成为一个有价值的人。 前一段时间有一个女孩子,我曾经一而再、再而三地不断地陶造他的性格。他做了一段时间就不坚持,什么东西都坚持不了几个月。她去做保险,做得好好的,还做见证卖了二十万,转眼就辞职,没有人允许她辞职她就要辞职。结果他现在就很糟糕。为什么呢?因为里面有见异思迁的性格,老也不想在一个地方把事情做好。今天我们要确切地知道,这就是我们当做的。**不但透过环境塑造自己的性格,也塑造别人的性格。使我们所有的人都成为有价值的人,因为性格就是价值**。
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