Risk Management and the Path of Faith in Marriage

A word of congratulations to Brother ZH and Sister ZT on their wedding.
First, I want to congratulate Brother ZH and Sister ZT, who are officially married today! Ending their single lives. In the past few days, while preparing for the wedding, I heard a word: a perfect match! Some people say that ZT and ZH are a perfect match! They are so suitable for each other! Everyone should know what I mean. Later I thought, many of us are a perfect match. Brother MX and Sister JY, Brother ZH and Sister HD, Brother XF and Sister WQ, Brother XM and Sister LJ, Brother JL and Sister XJ, are all a perfect match! - Applause! ...
Brother ZH and Sister ZT being together has a lot to do with me. Being able to enter into marriage has a lot to do with me. And it has nothing to do with me.
Speaking of why they are a perfect match, it's not whether I think they are suitable together. The most important thing is how they see each other and how suitable they are. Just feeling good. I want to tell you that in this process, I have summarised a pattern. It's not about what you and I think about people being together, it's their own feelings that matter most. When we see people feeling suitable for each other, we say they are a perfect match.
I think ZT's parents have finally fulfilled a wish. ZH's parents have also fulfilled a wish. Their children’s marriage is a major event.
In this day and age, getting married is not difficult, what is difficult is whether you are happy after marriage. I must say that marriage is the biggest risk in life! Especially in this day and age. Opening a company requires managing risks. Investing requires managing not only returns, but also risks. Only thinking about making money and not thinking about losing money is a problem. Today's Chinese stock market is an example. It is said that there is a village in China where the whole village does not work and spends all day in the stock market. The crowded place to watch the market is now empty. The more you look at it, the more angry you get, watching the money disappear! This is the result of not managing risk. The stock market naturally has its own risk management. We must say that what you don't understand is a risk. For example, when you drive a car out of a parking space, you must look carefully and clearly before you come out. If you can't see clearly, inch forward a little, and then inch forward a little more. If you come out suddenly, one day you will have a car accident. Driving is the same. If you see clearly, the risk is reduced! If you can't see clearly, don't understand, and mess around, you will be battered and bruised!
Take the marriage of Brother ZH and Sister ZT, there are also risks. Then I will ask both sets of parents, how do you manage this risk? Probably saying, the children are grown up and can make their own decisions! No one can say for sure what will happen in the future. In fact, people are very helpless about the future. People are really full of curiosity and anxiety about the future.
Today, I think they are getting married in the church, and I, as a pastor, should be qualified to say that the risk is much smaller than secular marriage! I think, as long as they both persevere in walking in the Lord Jesus, it will still be very comforting to you parents!
Marriage is a wonderful thing. Life is an even more wonderful thing! Not many people understand it. As a Christian pastor, I don't think I can understand it without the Bible, which is the word that God has revealed to us. The Bible is the theory of our life. The Bible is the theory for us to live out abundance, beauty, and the glory of God. The theory of the Bible explains all the phenomena in the world. It also provides a theoretical basis for our practice. Practice without theoretical guidance is blind practice. With the theory of the Bible, coupled with their persistent practice, I think the problems in their married life can certainly be solved!

Biblical Teachings and the Resolution of Marital Risks

Why do I say this? In fact, their journey to this point is a result of putting biblical principles into practice. Otherwise, they would not have reached where they are today! The problems encountered by couples in love are to be expected, as it is a process of getting to know and uniting with each other. During this process, their inherent natures are the root of conflicts and problems. Each time they encounter an issue and resolve it, it is a victory over their innate nature. It turns out that our root cause lies in our carnal nature! Anyone without education is essentially a barbarian, a person driven by base instincts. Education itself is about removing the carnal, animalistic aspects of a person.

It turns out that there are two individuals within us: a kind, spiritual self with the image of God, and a carnal, evil self with animalistic tendencies. The outcome we experience depends on which of these individuals governs our lives! The Bible says that to live according to the flesh is death, but to live according to the Spirit is life and peace. This is not abstract rhetoric but a practical truth. You can observe it and understand. What about corrupt officials? They are a concentrated embodiment of people living according to the desires of the flesh!

A Christian's life is one of putting to death the carnal, animalistic nature through the power of the Holy Spirit! This way of living is also reflected in the relationship between Brother ZH and Sister ZT. For example, Sister ZT has an inherent tendency towards suspicion. This issue has caused her much distress. Each time she was troubled, I would teach her from the Bible, and she diligently cooperated. Finally, she overcame this suspicious nature. As a result, ZT is much happier! Brother ZH also has his issues. As their pastor, I continually guide them to submit to the teachings of God's Word.

I believe that there are still many innate tendencies within them that have not been dealt with. These pose risks to their marriage! I encourage both sets of parents, if they agree with what I have said, to join them in understanding biblical principles about life after they enter marriage. Recognize that the essence of these risks lies in carnal thoughts, and actively work to resolve them. This is the best blessing for their happy family!

Finally, I want to bless and pray for them, that their marriage may be a perfect match until their old age!