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【Bible Study】1 Samuel Chapter 27 - David's Astuteness in Dealing with People

2022-12-21 35,396 1 Samuel 1 Samuel 27 1 Samuel Chapter 27 Management Identifying Themes Eloquence Risk Planning

Introduction

Good day, everyone. Let us delve into 1 Samuel chapter 27. Before examining the contents of this chapter, we must first understand the author's perspective on David. From the initial depiction of David to the current chapter 27, it is evident that the author holds a rather positive view of David. Simultaneously, it is clear that the entire 1 Samuel narrates God's search for a faithful priest. The early chapters focus on Samuel, followed by David, with Saul interspersed between them. Up to this chapter, the narrative underscores that God is perpetually seeking a faithful individual.

It's crucial not to misunderstand that a faithful person must also be astute, as faithfulness is unattainable without shrewdness. It's rumored that 1 Samuel was not written by Samuel, as he had already passed away by the time the later chapters were composed, making it impossible for him to document the events that transpired afterward. Regardless of the true identity of the author of 1 Samuel, what matters is that in narrating this story, whether concerning Samuel, Saul, or David, the author adopts God's perspective to illustrate the theme: God is seeking a faithful priest. Irrespective of one's status, what matters is one's faithfulness to God.

This chapter portrays David's interpersonal astuteness. Astuteness in a person is not alarming; what is alarming is foolishness. Foolishness is truly dreadful. Some individuals are so foolish that they perceive kindness as malicious intent, while mistaking deception for benevolence. Dealing with such individuals is truly disheartening. Hence, I harbor the belief that I am most afraid of serving foolish individuals. Even if foolish individuals possess faithfulness, it remains questionable, as they lack situational awareness. As pastors, when ministering, I encourage you not to fear astute individuals, but rather to fear foolish ones. Foolish individuals cannot distinguish between good and bad, while astute individuals discern whether you are acting benevolently or with malicious intent. Of course, we pastors do not wish to harm anyone; we fear those who act foolishly. The more you try to help them and treat them with kindness, the more they suspect you of harboring malicious intent.

I have previously mentioned during Bible studies and sermons that foolish individuals worldwide share a common trait: they are bullies at home, weaklings abroad. The sayings may vary across regions; foreigners undoubtedly have their own expressions. In northern China, such individuals are referred to as 炕头王, meaning they are insignificant outside but formidable at home. When interacting with outsiders, they willingly endure losses, yet at home, they display their prowess towards their loving family. In southern China, such individuals are called 窝里横. I have since discovered a pattern: those who are formidable outside are often not formidable at home. Conversely, those who perceive themselves as formidable and remarkable at home are often the most foolish.

There was once such an individual who would quarrel with his mother when he was in good health. Despite his mother's deep love for him, he insisted on being a 窝里横 towards her. When his health deteriorated, he refused to answer anyone's calls and arbitrarily blacklisted people, indulging in pointless, nonsensical actions, which ultimately led to tragedy. Each time I minister to foolish individuals, I feel trepidation, as if walking on thin ice. Therefore, I particularly appreciate astute individuals, as I often feel inadequate and can learn much from their interpersonal skills.

Let us now return to David. It is uncertain whether the author intentionally created a pitfall for readers here. In the opening verse, David declares that he will inevitably die at the hand of Saul. This statement sounds uncharacteristic of a person of faith, but we cannot know David's true thoughts.

Determine the Theme First, Regardless of What You Do

First and foremost, it must be mentioned that regardless of what we do, read, or learn, we must first identify the theme. Do not hastily criticize or label David as lacking faith based on a single statement before fully comprehending the narrative.

David said to himself, “One of these days I will be destroyed by the hand of Saul. The best thing I can do is to escape to the land of the Philistines. Then Saul will give up searching for me anywhere in Israel, and I will slip out of his hand. (1 Samuel 27:1)

This statement may seem as if David is contemplating treason, as he intends to flee to the Philistines. However, we have not experienced a similar situation. If faced with the same circumstances, we might not fare as well as David. I urge you to grasp the theme, as those who fail to do so will be distracted by trivial matters and become disoriented. Those who cannot grasp the theme are often muddle-headed and superficial in their understanding. In truth, David's life after fleeing to Philistia was not easy. However, the author emphasizes David's interpersonal astuteness. If we misinterpret the narrative, we will lose sight of the theme.

So David and the six hundred men with him left and went over to Achish son of Maok, the king of Gath. David and his two wives, Ahinoam of Jezreel and Abigail of Carmel, the widow of Nabal, lived in Gath with Achish. David and his men settled in Gath with Achish, each man with his family. (1 Samuel 27:2-3)

When reading and learning, one must learn to grasp the theme, and avoid straying from it. In this chapter, if we fixate on the opening statement, we will be unable to proceed and disregard the theme of astuteness. In reality, David undoubtedly contemplated his decision before fleeing to Philistia. The author of 1 Samuel likely wrote this chapter during David's reign or Solomon's reign when the truth had come to light and the events had passed. Therefore, grasping the theme is like discerning a person's inner self. We must now definitively understand that David's flight to the Philistines was, in fact, a meticulously planned scheme.

Plan Everything You Do

Over the past three to five years, I have consistently trained individuals to plan their actions meticulously. Planning entails assessing the returns, investments, risks, and the capacity to manage those risks in the future. Failure to manage risks is problematic. David's interpersonal astuteness lies in his profound understanding of people's thoughts and intentions. As we continue reading, we will discover that subsequent events unfolded precisely as David had planned. Now, let us simultaneously discuss David and the importance of planning in all endeavors.

Let me first analyze how David contemplated this matter. He fled to Achish, the king of Gath, despite having slain Goliath, a Gathite, years prior. Why would he consider fleeing to Achish? Have you ever heard the saying, The most dangerous place is the safest place? However, this is not the key. The key is that King Saul and Achish were enemies, and Saul's pursuit of David was known worldwide. The enemy of my enemy is my friend. Furthermore, David was once a formidable minister under Saul, capable of seizing enemy generals' heads with ease. He was a valiant and influential figure.

David did not leave a single person alive, male or female, who could have told Gath what they had been doing. He thought, “They might tell about us and say, ‘This is what David has been doing all the time he has lived in Philistine territory.’” Achish trusted David and said to himself, “He has become so obnoxious to his people, the Israelites, that he will be my servant for life.” (1 Samuel 27:11-12)

David surmised that Achish would highly value military generals. In this modern era, warfare involves missiles, allowing for strikes against distant targets with ease. In David's time, however, warfare was conducted with cold weapons, emphasizing martial prowess. Just as Cao Cao cherished Guan Yu because heroes admire each other, Achish likely felt similarly towards David. He recognized David's exceptional abilities, acknowledging that someone who could slay Goliath must possess formidable martial skills.

Achish also calculated that acquiring David as his servant would provide him with valuable talent, a notion supported by David's impressive track record. Of course, David also knew how to calculate. Saul was pursuing David, and Achish was Saul's enemy. Achish was, therefore, David's enemy's enemy. Trust, however, was a separate matter.

By going to Achish, David could avoid further harassment from Saul and seize the opportunity to recuperate. David had spared Saul twice before, but there was no guarantee that Saul would not pursue him again, forcing him to flee with his men. After those two incidents, resentment undoubtedly festered among David's men, who complained that David had failed to eliminate Saul when he had the chance, forcing them into a state of constant homelessness. If Saul were to pursue them again, David could spare Saul once more, but it would be difficult to justify to his men.

As a good leader, one must manage subordinates effectively to accomplish tasks, which requires calculation. David calculated that joining forces with the enemy of his enemy would be advantageous. Although David had slain Goliath in the past, it was not a significant issue, as the events had already transpired. Achish would undoubtedly be eager to acquire David as a capable lieutenant who could assist him in conquering territory. If David were incompetent and excelled only at eating, Achish would not have taken him in.

Remember that when undertaking any endeavor, you must carefully consider the returns and risks to have a clear understanding. To gain Achish's trust, the most effective approach was for David to kill the people of Judah and attack Saul, thus making the Israelites despise him, seemingly turning David into a traitor. His plan was to go to the southern region of Judah, which was actually not Judah itself. He planned to attack that area and then bring back the spoils, including oxen, sheep, camels, clothing, and various treasures. By attacking the area bordering Judah, it would be unclear whether it was still Judah, demonstrating David's prowess and astuteness.

He attacked the land, leaving no one alive, male or female; he took sheep, cattle, donkeys, camels and clothes, and then returned to Achish. (1 Samuel 27:9)

Regardless of your actions, ensure that you have calculated them thoroughly. What is most alarming is acting impulsively without due consideration. Later, when David governed the nation of Israel, his subordinates, recognizing his astuteness, dared not deceive him. To become such an individual is remarkable. After David had clearly calculated the situation, he divided the spoils, akin to resources like oil, equally with Achish. Naturally, Achish was pleased and found the arrangement favorable.

I began leading everyone in studying the Bible many years ago. Recently, I listened to a Bible study I conducted eight or nine years ago, during which I discussed astuteness and the need to be wise. It seems I was aware of this concept even then, although I had forgotten it. In truth, it is something that has always resonated within me.

It is foolish to tread a path of folly; do not be foolish, and certainly not muddle-headed. There are grave risks to being foolish. Let me be clear, the extent of a person’s ailments is directly related to their level of foolishness. Leg pain, immobility, or even cancer, all stem from the rubbish in one’s mind. All physical ailments are related to a lack of wisdom and learning. Those who do not read or learn, and make decisions based on mere whim are detestable.

Who would turn away from wealth? With David’s arrival, Achish profited handsomely. Later, Achish benefited greatly from David. Past grievances are immaterial so long as one can profit from another. Achish could still find David useful. David calculated all this, and his plans gradually took shape.

Flexibility in Implementation

David said to Achish, “If I have found favour in your eyes, let a place be assigned to me in one of the country towns, that I may live there. Why should your servant live in the royal city with you?” So Achish gave him Ziklag that day, and Ziklag has belonged to the kings of Judah to this day. (1 Samuel 27:5-6)

David, standing before Achish, while calculating, must answer truthfully if questioned, and not stumble over his words. Flexibility in execution is paramount, and the ability to speak well is key. David fled to Gath with six hundred men, his assets. At the time, Achish was unaware of who had been anointed king of Israel. Few knew of David’s anointing, and Achish, focused on recruitment, saw this as a heaven-sent opportunity. He gave David Ziklag for him and his men to dwell in.

Ponder this: beyond these words, there were undoubtedly other idle exchanges. In conversation, establishing rapport is essential. If one speaks stiffly, projecting superiority, it creates discomfort. I encourage you to cultivate the habit of casual conversation; being able to speak well is crucial. Once the atmosphere is relaxed, presenting the main point becomes easier.

I have observed that many officials enjoy drinking precisely because it allows for casual conversation. Many also appreciate tea, promoting the Chinese “tea ceremony,” using “tea” as a springboard. The tea’s quality, the tree, the leaves, the fermentation, the preparation – a plethora of topics. People revel in “tea culture,” imagining themselves as tea connoisseurs. This is the capital of casual talk, drawn out beautifully. They might casually mention that Guan Yu once drank such tea, or that when Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, he sought Yunnan’s Pu-erh tea. Whether true is irrelevant; it is merely a conversational gambit. You can say anything, as there is no way to verify it; one cannot summon Zhu Yuanzhang to confirm the story. It is simply a topic for idle chatter.

Recently, some call to ask if I have watched the World Cup, another form of casual talk. If someone brings up football with me, I say, “Spare me, it’s a sore subject.” They wonder, “Why does football pain you?” I recount the anecdote that I never managed to kick a ball as a child. Laughter ensues; it’s all banter. You must be able to banter, to speak well, before addressing serious matters – to create a conversational atmosphere.

Of course, 1 Samuel omits these trivialities. Including them would transform The Bible into Dream of the Red Chamber. These additions are mine, underscoring that adroitness in personal conduct requires eloquence. I admire articulate individuals. Even if they spin yarns, I commend them for their smoothness. The ability to lie without blushing is remarkable.

Achish asked, “Where have you been raiding today?” David said, “Against the southern part of Judah and against the southern part of the Jerahmeelites and against the southern part of the Kenites.” (1 Samuel 27:10)

David even pre-planned his reply: recent raids in southern Judah. Was southern Judah near the South Pole? The South Pole is south of Judah, as is Egypt. It sounds as if Judah had been thoroughly attacked. Southern Judah, southern Jerahmeelites, southern Kenites – all to the south, without specifics. One cannot fault his words. Through banter and conversation, Achish believed David. Eloquence is an asset; cultivate it.

I share these anecdotes to encourage you to amass jokes. I enjoy telling jokes. When someone travels far to see me, and I appear unremarkable, I explain that I have looked this way since childhood, eliciting a chuckle. Despite my appearance, I can still perform a trick, kicking a ball under my legs, drawing more laughter. The goal is to create a conversational atmosphere.

In a job interview, facing three suited, solemn interviewers, you must be articulate. Otherwise, when asked your name, you simply state your name; when asked if you are married, you say yes or no. Silence descends. I can offer a brief pre-interview training session, teaching you how to interview. A “Good” interview means Looks good,sounds good and feels good. Interviews are brief; interviewers lack time to deeply probe.

Master these three “Goods,” and if the interviewer is favourably impressed, the job is yours. Avoid trying to prove something immediately; that destroys the entire feeling. Ruining the “Good” is problematic. Cultivate these “Goods” in personal interactions. Whether the richest or most indebted, one has at least achieved “first” in life. Such people are articulate. Wang Jianlin sings well on stage, knowing how to please. Similarly, Jack Ma sings well. Lei Jun, although his English is imperfect, knows how to be humorous. “Do you love me, Ben?” This question always provokes laughter.

Whether in technology, business, or marketing, heed my advice: cultivate eloquence. It is vital, yet useless without substance. Without proper preparation, eloquence is unattainable. Eloquent individuals are often avid readers since childhood. Zhao Benshan is a master of banter. Great leaders, like Chairman Mao, excel at speaking. Whether in science or engineering, learn to speak well.

Firstly, be articulate; secondly, build relationships. David, in his prudence, fostered strong relationships with subordinates and superiors alike – a man of many connections. Mastering speech is fundamental to building relationships, relying on communication. Here, you observe my aptitude for networking. While not an expert, I would rate my speaking ability at least a passing grade out of 100.

Relationships are forged through conversation. Long online chats can lead to a feeling of familiarity upon meeting in person, like old friends. The existing connection fosters intimacy.

This explains why relationships in physical churches are often weak; members rarely interact. In church, a thousand individuals sit silently. The pastor urges them to say “Jesus loves you” to their neighbours, resulting in awkwardness and discomfort, especially for the shy, resembling rote learning. This stems from a lack of prior connection and communication. Online communication obviates the need for travel, allowing relationship-building through conversation.

Understand these three points: plan effectively, execute flexibly, and communicate and establish relationships. What kind of relationship should you build? Understand others’ needs and what you can offer. Achish and David’s relationship is one of mutual benefit. Expressing fundamental interests in conversation is crucial.

Achish asked what lands David had raided. David cited southern Judah, Jerahmeelites, and Kenites, sharing the spoils with Achish. David’s words were astute; withholding the plunder would have been problematic. Adapt to various environments. If one lives amidst constraints, cultivate shrewdness, a beneficial practice. I hope everyone embraces this idea. My dream is for all to be astute, as foolishness harms oneself and others.

David lived in Philistine territory a year and four months. (1 Samuel 27:7)

After a year and four months with Achish, Saul died, and David returned to Israel, becoming king. Let me remind you to be shrewd and discerning. In conclusion, the foolish focus solely on profit, ignoring losses; solely on gains, ignoring risks. I advise you to calculate risks beforehand. Neglecting risk management invites trouble.

I advocate calculating everything, including projects, systems, and personal conduct. Management requires managing people and affairs effectively. A person strong on the outside but weak on the inside is a poor choice and would be a bad manager. With that, may you all become shrewd.

May God bless you!

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这一章在描述大卫为人处事的精明。人精明不可怕,可怕的就是这个人傻。人犯傻是非常恐怖的,有的人可以傻到你对他好,他以为你要害他;你骗他,他却以为你对他好。遇到这种人真的很无奈,所以在我里面有一个观念,就是最害怕服侍愚蠢的人。愚蠢的人就算有忠心也得打个问号,因为他根本分不清状况。我们当中的牧者在服侍的时候,我鼓励你**别害怕精明的人,应该害怕愚蠢的人。愚蠢的人分不清好坏,精明的人分得清你对他好,还是要害他**。当然我们这些做牧者的也不想害谁,最怕的就是那些犯傻的人,你越想帮他,对他越好,他却以为你要害他。 之前我在查经、讲道的时候就讲过,世界上愚蠢的人都有一个共同的特点,叫“窝里横”、“门槛猴”、“炕头王”。世界各地的说法可能也不一样,洋人肯定有洋人的说法。咱们北方人把这种人叫“炕头王”,意思就是说在外面什么也不是,回到家里就很厉害。跟外面的人做事、相处的时候,能吃亏就吃亏,回到家对着爱他的家人“本事”可就大了,这种人到了南方就叫“窝里横”。后来我发现了一个规律,在外面很厉害的人回到家里都不厉害,反而那些在自己的家里觉得很厉害、很了不得的人,恰恰都是最愚蠢的人。 之前有个人就是这样,他身体好的时候就跟他妈吵。其实他妈很爱他,可他就是要跟他妈“窝里横”。当他身体不好的时候,谁的电话他都不接,闲着没事就把人拉黑,特别爱整这些乌烟瘴气,莫名其妙的事,后来就悲剧了。每一次我服侍这些愚蠢的人都会心惊胆战,如履薄冰。所以我特别喜欢精明的人,因为我总觉得自己不行,就能从他们的为人处事当中学到很多东西。 咱们再来讲大卫,也不知道作者是不是故意在这里挖个坑给大家。开篇第一节大卫就说必有一日他会死在扫罗手里,这话听起来感觉不太像是从一个有信心的人口里说出来的,但大卫心里是不是这么想的,我们也不知道。

这一章在描述大卫为人处事的精明。人精明不可怕,可怕的就是这个人傻。人犯傻是非常恐怖的,有的人可以傻到你对他好,他以为你要害他;你骗他,他却以为你对他好。遇到这种人真的很无奈,所以在我里面有一个观念,就是最害怕服侍愚蠢的人。愚蠢的人就算有忠心也得打个问号,因为他根本分不清状况。我们当中的牧者在服侍的时候,我鼓励你**别害怕精明的人,应该害怕愚蠢的人。愚蠢的人分不清好坏,精明的人分得清你对他好,还是要害他**。当然我们这些做牧者的也不想害谁,最怕的就是那些犯傻的人,你越想帮他,对他越好,他却以为你要害他。 之前我在查经、讲道的时候就讲过,世界上愚蠢的人都有一个共同的特点,叫“窝里横”、“门槛猴”、“炕头王”。世界各地的说法可能也不一样,洋人肯定有洋人的说法。咱们北方人把这种人叫“炕头王”,意思就是说在外面什么也不是,回到家里就很厉害。跟外面的人做事、相处的时候,能吃亏就吃亏,回到家对着爱他的家人“本事”可就大了,这种人到了南方就叫“窝里横”。后来我发现了一个规律,在外面很厉害的人回到家里都不厉害,反而那些在自己的家里觉得很厉害、很了不得的人,恰恰都是最愚蠢的人。 之前有个人就是这样,他身体好的时候就跟他妈吵。其实他妈很爱他,可他就是要跟他妈“窝里横”。当他身体不好的时候,谁的电话他都不接,闲着没事就把人拉黑,特别爱整这些乌烟瘴气,莫名其妙的事,后来就悲剧了。每一次我服侍这些愚蠢的人都会心惊胆战,如履薄冰。所以我特别喜欢精明的人,因为我总觉得自己不行,就能从他们的为人处事当中学到很多东西。 咱们再来讲大卫,也不知道作者是不是故意在这里挖个坑给大家。开篇第一节大卫就说必有一日他会死在扫罗手里,这话听起来感觉不太像是从一个有信心的人口里说出来的,但大卫心里是不是这么想的,我们也不知道。

这里首先要提到,**无论我们做什么、读什么、学什么,要先找主题**,别因为一句话,上来就批判人家,别还没读下去就给大卫做个定论,说“大卫不行,是个没有信心的人”这样的标签。 **大卫心里说:“必有一日我死在扫罗手里,不如逃奔非利士地去。扫罗见我不在以色列的境内,就必绝望,不再寻索我,这样我可以脱离他的手。”(《撒母耳记上》27:1)** 这话听起来好像大卫是要做“汉奸”,不然为什么要跑到非利士那里去?主要是我们也没有经历过这样的事,要是同样的事轮到你,可能还真不如大卫呢。我希望你能抓住主题,因为人一旦抓不住主题就会被那些细枝末节,芝麻绿豆的事牵扯得晕头转向。所以抓不住主题的人全都是糊里糊涂、看事情只看表面的人。,其实大卫逃到非利士地以后的日子也不好过,但是作者在这里是为了突出大卫为人处事的精明才这样写,我们要读偏了就会忘记主题了。 **于是大卫起身,和跟随他的六百人投奔迦特王玛俄的儿子亚吉去了。 大卫和他的两个妻,就是耶斯列人亚希暖和作过拿八妻的迦密人亚比该,并跟随他的人,连各人的眷属,都住在迦特的亚吉那里。 (《撒母耳记上》 27:2-3 )** **人读东西、学东西都要学会抓主题**,千万不要偏离主题。在这章里,如果我们一股脑就盯着开头那句话,下面就没法读了,什么精明不精明也不管了。其实大卫逃到非利士地之前肯定是盘算过的。《撒母耳记上》的作者写这一章的时候,大概是在大卫做王,或者是所罗门做王的时候写的。写的时候事情已经水落石出,也已经过去了。所以抓住主题就像看一个人要看他的内心一样,我们现在要确切地知道大卫跑到非利士人那里去,实际上是他已经提前做了一场周密的计划。

在过去这三到五年期间,我在训练人的时候一直都在训练人做事要有计划。**计划就是要算计这件事的回报、投入、风险以及将来怎么处理这个风险的能力**。如果不会处理风险,那就麻烦了。**大卫为人处事精明,就在于他对人的心思意念了如指掌**。我们接着读下去就会发现,后面发生的事情果然都是照着大卫所计划的发展。现在我们就一边讲大卫,一边讲人做事一定要有计划。 我先给大家分析一下大卫遇到这件事时他是怎么琢磨的。首先他逃到迦特王亚吉那里去,而在几年前大卫杀的歌利亚就是迦特人,那他为什么还会想着要逃到亚吉那里去呢?大家有没有听说过这样一句话,越危险的地方就越安全。然而这并不是关键,关键是因为扫罗王和亚吉互为敌人,同时扫罗追杀大卫也是全世界都知道的事。所谓敌人的敌人就是朋友,而且大卫曾经是扫罗手下非常厉害的大臣,取敌人上将首级如探囊取物,胯下马掌中枪绝对是叱咤风云,威震四方之人。 **无论男女,大卫没有留下一个带到迦特来。他说:“恐怕他们将我们的事告诉人,说:‘大卫住在非利士地的时候,常常这样行。’”亚吉信了大卫,心里说:“大卫使本族以色列人憎恶他,所以他必永远作我的仆人了。”(《撒母耳记上》27:11-12)**

在过去这三到五年期间,我在训练人的时候一直都在训练人做事要有计划。**计划就是要算计这件事的回报、投入、风险以及将来怎么处理这个风险的能力**。如果不会处理风险,那就麻烦了。**大卫为人处事精明,就在于他对人的心思意念了如指掌**。我们接着读下去就会发现,后面发生的事情果然都是照着大卫所计划的发展。现在我们就一边讲大卫,一边讲人做事一定要有计划。 我先给大家分析一下大卫遇到这件事时他是怎么琢磨的。首先他逃到迦特王亚吉那里去,而在几年前大卫杀的歌利亚就是迦特人,那他为什么还会想着要逃到亚吉那里去呢?大家有没有听说过这样一句话,越危险的地方就越安全。然而这并不是关键,关键是因为扫罗王和亚吉互为敌人,同时扫罗追杀大卫也是全世界都知道的事。所谓敌人的敌人就是朋友,而且大卫曾经是扫罗手下非常厉害的大臣,取敌人上将首级如探囊取物,胯下马掌中枪绝对是叱咤风云,威震四方之人。 **无论男女,大卫没有留下一个带到迦特来。他说:“恐怕他们将我们的事告诉人,说:‘大卫住在非利士地的时候,常常这样行。’”亚吉信了大卫,心里说:“大卫使本族以色列人憎恶他,所以他必永远作我的仆人了。”(《撒母耳记上》27:11-12)**

大卫算计的是亚吉应该非常爱惜武将。如今这个世代打仗都是导弹,要打千里之外的地方随便丢个导弹就完事了。大卫那时候是冷兵器的年代,比的就是武艺。当年曹操之所以爱惜关羽就是因为英雄惜英雄,亚吉大概也一样,爱惜大卫这个英雄。他知道大卫这个人非常厉害,能杀歌利亚的人武功可高强了。 亚吉自己也算了一笔账,如果得着大卫做他的仆人,他就得着人才了,而事实上大卫也真的有这么好的履历。当然大卫也知道怎么算计,扫罗追杀大卫,亚吉也是扫罗的敌人。这个亚吉就是大卫敌人的敌人,至于信任不信任是另外一回事。 如果大卫到亚吉那里去,扫罗就不会再骚扰他,他就可以趁机休养生息。前面两次大卫都放过了扫罗,但是保不准什么时候扫罗又来追他,他又得带着手下四处躲藏。经历了之前的那两次,大卫底下的那些人怨气肯定很重,都抱怨大卫该杀的时候不杀,害得他们也跟着居无定所。下次扫罗再追过来,大卫可以再一次放过保罗,但是对下面的人却不好交代。 作为一个好老板,员工也得管好,否则就做不了事,所以就得会算计。大卫算计的是,与敌人的敌人联手,虽然大卫过去杀过歌利亚,但是问题不大,因为过去的事已经过去了。现在亚吉肯定很愿意得着大卫这么一位得力干将,因为他可以利用大卫为他打天下。如果大卫做什么都不行,唯有吃饭第一名,到亚吉那里他什么也干不了,人家也不会收留的。

大卫算计的是亚吉应该非常爱惜武将。如今这个世代打仗都是导弹,要打千里之外的地方随便丢个导弹就完事了。大卫那时候是冷兵器的年代,比的就是武艺。当年曹操之所以爱惜关羽就是因为英雄惜英雄,亚吉大概也一样,爱惜大卫这个英雄。他知道大卫这个人非常厉害,能杀歌利亚的人武功可高强了。 亚吉自己也算了一笔账,如果得着大卫做他的仆人,他就得着人才了,而事实上大卫也真的有这么好的履历。当然大卫也知道怎么算计,扫罗追杀大卫,亚吉也是扫罗的敌人。这个亚吉就是大卫敌人的敌人,至于信任不信任是另外一回事。 如果大卫到亚吉那里去,扫罗就不会再骚扰他,他就可以趁机休养生息。前面两次大卫都放过了扫罗,但是保不准什么时候扫罗又来追他,他又得带着手下四处躲藏。经历了之前的那两次,大卫底下的那些人怨气肯定很重,都抱怨大卫该杀的时候不杀,害得他们也跟着居无定所。下次扫罗再追过来,大卫可以再一次放过保罗,但是对下面的人却不好交代。 作为一个好老板,员工也得管好,否则就做不了事,所以就得会算计。大卫算计的是,与敌人的敌人联手,虽然大卫过去杀过歌利亚,但是问题不大,因为过去的事已经过去了。现在亚吉肯定很愿意得着大卫这么一位得力干将,因为他可以利用大卫为他打天下。如果大卫做什么都不行,唯有吃饭第一名,到亚吉那里他什么也干不了,人家也不会收留的。

大家要知道,做事情要计划好回报与风险,这样就能把账算清楚。大卫要得到亚吉的信任,最好的办法就是他杀犹大人,攻打扫罗,让以色列人恨恶他,看似大卫像汉奸一样。他的计划是到犹大的南地去,其实犹大的南方不是犹大,犹大南地和犹大不是一个地方。他要去打那地方,首先算计好了是要先打哪里,然后把得胜的牛、羊、骆驼、衣服还有各种宝贝都给带回来。他打犹大边上的地方,谁也搞不清楚那还是不是犹大,这就说明大卫这人很厉害了,也非常精明。 **大卫击杀那地的人,无论男女都没有留下一个;又夺获牛、羊、骆驼,驴并衣服回来见亚吉。(《撒母耳记上》27:9)** 你无论做什么事一定要算计好。**最怕的就是没有经过算计,一拍脑袋瞎说的人**,拍出来的全是豆腐脑。后来大卫治理以色列国的时候,他底下的人一看这人太精明了,也不敢忽悠他,能成为这样的人就厉害了。大卫把账算清楚以后,把夺回的牲口,就好像石油这类的资源一样,跟亚吉各分一半。那亚吉当然高兴了,所以他看这事很好。

好多年前我就开始带着大家查《圣经》。前一段时间,我听了8、9年前查的《圣经》,当时就讲到精明和要做聪明人,原来我那个时候就知道,居然都没想起来。其实那是我心里一直想着一脉相承的东西。 人愚蠢不是路,大家不要做愚蠢人,绝对不要做满脑袋浆糊的人,**做愚蠢的人风险非常大**。我清楚地告诉大家,**人身上的病有多少,跟你愚蠢的程度紧密相关**。一个人腿痛,走不了路或者得了癌症,都是因为脑袋里的垃圾太多。**所有人身体上的病都跟脑袋不聪明,不学习有关系。所有不读书、不学习,然后什么事都拍脑袋瞎说的人是很可恶的**。 你想想看有谁会跟钱过不去呢?大卫一来,亚吉就赚了好多的钱。后来亚吉从大卫那里得了不少好处,就算过去有些过节也没关系,只要现在能为他赚点钱,人家还是能看得上大卫的。大卫把这些账都算好了,计划也就逐渐落实了。

**大卫对亚吉说:“我若在你眼前蒙恩,求你在京外的城邑中赐我一个地方居住,仆人何必与王同住京都呢?”当日亚吉将洗革拉赐给他,因此洗革拉属犹大王,直到今日。(《撒母耳记上》27:5-6)** 大卫站到亚吉面前算计归算计,到时候人家问的话要照实说,不要一回答就磕磕绊绊的。**在实施的时候要灵活,最重要的就是会说话**。大卫逃到迦特,带着他的六百人,这六百人就是他的资产。那个时候,亚吉不知道以色列人膏抹谁做王。当时几乎没人知道大卫被膏抹做王,但是亚吉这个人光想着招兵买马,这时天上掉下一个得力干将实在是太划算了。于是亚吉把洗革拉这个地方给了大卫,让他和他的人马都住下。 大家慢慢地琢磨,其实他们相互说的除了这一句话以外,肯定还有其他闲扯的话。人和人之间说话,首先得会铺垫说话的感觉。如果你跟人说话一直端着个架子,觉着自己了不起,这给人的感觉就不舒服。我鼓励大家要养成会闲扯的习惯,会说话非常重要,等把气氛搞熟络了再把正事拿出来讲就好办了。

我发现很多当官的人爱喝酒,就是因为喝酒的时候可以闲扯。还有很多人喜欢喝茶,弘扬中国人发明的“茶道”,就是可以借着“茶”发挥。这茶好,是什么树、什么叶子、怎么发酵、怎么处理等一系列的话题。大家一谈到“茶道”就不亦乐乎,好像自己是茶王。那就是闲扯的资本,都扯得可好了。开口就说当年关羽就喝这个,什么朱元璋做了明朝皇帝,最先找的就是云南的普洱茶。其实这事是不是真的没人知道,纯粹就是随口一说。你想怎么说都行,因为死无对证,总不能把朱元璋叫过来问问有没有说这话,这也就是一个闲扯的谈资。 最近有的人一打电话就问我看世界杯了没有,那也是闲扯。但凡有人来跟我谈足球,我会给他说:算了吧,别提我的伤心事。人家好奇提到足球你伤什么心?我就告诉他们我从小都踢不着球的笑话,大家一笑,那叫扯淡。你得会扯淡,会说话,说着说着咱再谈正事,这是为了营造一个说话氛围。 当然这些事《撒母耳记上》没写,要是都把这些闲扯的事都写进去,这《圣经》就没法读了,又不是在读《红楼梦》。这些话是我加进去的,意思是**你要想为人处事精明,就得会说话**。所以我特别喜欢会说话的人,就算你来忽悠我,只要听着好,我就会给你竖个大拇指。所以会说话的人好,撒个谎他脸也不红,还好像什么事都没有,这样的人确实挺厉害的。

我发现很多当官的人爱喝酒,就是因为喝酒的时候可以闲扯。还有很多人喜欢喝茶,弘扬中国人发明的“茶道”,就是可以借着“茶”发挥。这茶好,是什么树、什么叶子、怎么发酵、怎么处理等一系列的话题。大家一谈到“茶道”就不亦乐乎,好像自己是茶王。那就是闲扯的资本,都扯得可好了。开口就说当年关羽就喝这个,什么朱元璋做了明朝皇帝,最先找的就是云南的普洱茶。其实这事是不是真的没人知道,纯粹就是随口一说。你想怎么说都行,因为死无对证,总不能把朱元璋叫过来问问有没有说这话,这也就是一个闲扯的谈资。 最近有的人一打电话就问我看世界杯了没有,那也是闲扯。但凡有人来跟我谈足球,我会给他说:算了吧,别提我的伤心事。人家好奇提到足球你伤什么心?我就告诉他们我从小都踢不着球的笑话,大家一笑,那叫扯淡。你得会扯淡,会说话,说着说着咱再谈正事,这是为了营造一个说话氛围。 当然这些事《撒母耳记上》没写,要是都把这些闲扯的事都写进去,这《圣经》就没法读了,又不是在读《红楼梦》。这些话是我加进去的,意思是**你要想为人处事精明,就得会说话**。所以我特别喜欢会说话的人,就算你来忽悠我,只要听着好,我就会给你竖个大拇指。所以会说话的人好,撒个谎他脸也不红,还好像什么事都没有,这样的人确实挺厉害的。

**亚吉说:“你们今日侵夺了什么地方呢?”大卫说:“侵夺了犹大的南方,耶拉篾的南方,基尼的南方。”(《撒母耳记上》27:10)** 大卫连这词都想好了,最近打了犹大的南方,犹大的南方是到南极去了吗?南极也是犹大的南方,埃及也在犹大的南方,听上去好像是把犹大给打了一顿。犹大的南方,耶拉篾的南方,基尼的南方,全都是南方,然而具体到南到哪里也没讲。你也不能说他说的有问题,不管怎么样,连扯淡带说话再谈正事,反正亚吉就相信了大卫。会说话是一个优点,大家慢慢练吧。 以上跟大家讲了点闲扯的事,就是想鼓励大家闲着没事就多收集点笑话。我就喜欢讲讲笑话,比如有人从大老远来见我,一看觉得这小子其貌不扬,我说我从小就长这样,大家为之一笑。你别看我这样,我可以给你比划一下,然后一抬脚,球从裤裆底下钻过去了,大家又是一笑,这就是能够给人营造一个说话的氛围。

你要是去面试的时候,遇到三个穿着西装革履、一本正经的面试官,这时候你得会说话。不然对方抬起头来问你叫什么名字,你就回答什么名;结婚了没有,你说结了或者没有,这一说完了大家全都尴尬在那了。你要去面试之前我可以提供一个小培训,让你知道如何去面试,其实面试有个“Good”,就是好的意思。也就是Looks good,sounds good 和 feels good,意思就是看上去不错,听起来不错和感觉上不错。一般面试也就半个多小时到一个小时,人家根本没有时间深挖你身上太多的东西。 如果你把这三个“Good”搞定了,面试官感觉不错,这工作就是你的了。千万不要一上来就想要证明点什么,那就把所有的感觉全都给证明没了。把“Good”给整没了就麻烦了,所以与人相处的时候,为人处事要养成这几个“Good”。实际上不管是首富还是首负,人家至少这辈子混了个“第一”。这些人都会说话,比如王健林,站在台上唱歌唱得可好了,很会来事。再比如说马云,他上台唱歌大家听过没有?也是唱得很好。雷军也一样,一上台虽然英文不怎么样,但是人家很会搞笑。“Do you love me,Ben?”那调调一出来的时候,大家都被逗得哈哈大笑。 不管你是搞技术的,还是搞业务或者营销的,听我一句劝,**要养成会说话的习惯**。会说话很重要,当然脑袋里也得有料。脑袋里什么都没有不可能会说话,不好好准备也是很难会说话的。而会说话的那些人全是从小爱读小说而且读得特别多的人。赵本山多会扯淡,所以厉害的人都很会说话。我们的伟大领袖毛主席也是很会说话的人。你们不管是理工男,还是理工女,都要学习会说话。

一要会说话,二要会建立关系。在实施的过程当中得建立关系,我发现像大卫这种精明的人,不管是跟下面的人还是上面的人关系都建立的很不错,完全就是八面玲珑,左右逢源。**学会说话是建立关系的根本**,建立关系得靠着你和我说话。像在咱们这里你会发现,建立人际关系方面我还行,虽然谈不上是专家,如果会说话满分是100分的话,那我也能给自己打个及格。 关系就是透过说话建立起来的,比如说像我们这样常常在网上聊很多。等你从很远来看我的时候,因为我们已经在网上聊了三、五年,所以就会一见如故,像是老朋友了。既然咱们已经聊了很久,这个关系自然就很亲近了。 这就是为什么在实体教会里弟兄姐妹建立关系不会太好,因为大家平时相互都不讲话,到了教会一千个人坐在一千把椅子上,牧师让你跟旁边的人说:耶稣爱你,我也爱你。说完了以后大家都觉得很尴尬,心里也特别不自在。尤其是还不太擅长干这种事的人,就好像是小学生背课文似的,非常难受。那是因为平时没有建立关系,没有时间打电话进行沟通。像我们这样,也不用很远开车跑来跟你说话,从网上就能够通过说话建立关系。 所以大家要知道这三点,**你计划归计划,具体实施的时候还要灵活,会说话会建立关系**。那么建立一个什么关系呢?你得知道人家要什么,同时也得清楚自己能给人家什么,现在亚吉和大卫这两个人的关系就是个利益关系。所以不但要会说话而且还得在交谈之间流露出彼此之间的根本利益,从他们的对话就能看出来。

亚吉问大卫侵夺了什么地?大卫说打犹大、耶拉篾,还有基尼的南方,还把夺来的东西都分给亚吉。你看大卫这话讲得多好,如果他把夺来的东西都不想给亚吉,那就麻烦了。所以我们得适应在各种环境下生存,如果**人常常在夹缝当中生存,就要锻炼为人处事的精明**。这其实是件非常好的事情,巴不得弟兄姐妹都能够领受我这个想法。我有一个梦想,就是希望大家都能够成为精明的人,因为愚蠢真的是害人害己。 **大卫在非利士地住了一年零四个月。(《撒母耳记上》 27:7 )** 大卫在亚吉那里待了一年零四个月之后,扫罗就死了,大卫回到以色列那里做了以色列王。经文查到这里就要提醒大家,要做一个精明的人,能把事情都弄明白。最后做一个小小的总结,愚蠢的人光想着赚钱,没想到赔钱;光想着得好处,忘了风险。我告诉你,**做精明人一定要把风险先算好**,如果风险没有处理好,那麻烦就很大。 我想要让大家知道**什么事情都要养成算计的习惯,包括做一个项目,开发个系统甚至做人、做事**。你要做管理,必须会管人,会管事。一个人如果外强中干,绝对不是一个好选项,做管理肯定是做不好的。我们就分享到这,希望弟兄姐妹都成为精明的人。 愿神祝福大家!

亚吉问大卫侵夺了什么地?大卫说打犹大、耶拉篾,还有基尼的南方,还把夺来的东西都分给亚吉。你看大卫这话讲得多好,如果他把夺来的东西都不想给亚吉,那就麻烦了。所以我们得适应在各种环境下生存,如果**人常常在夹缝当中生存,就要锻炼为人处事的精明**。这其实是件非常好的事情,巴不得弟兄姐妹都能够领受我这个想法。我有一个梦想,就是希望大家都能够成为精明的人,因为愚蠢真的是害人害己。 **大卫在非利士地住了一年零四个月。(《撒母耳记上》 27:7 )** 大卫在亚吉那里待了一年零四个月之后,扫罗就死了,大卫回到以色列那里做了以色列王。经文查到这里就要提醒大家,要做一个精明的人,能把事情都弄明白。最后做一个小小的总结,愚蠢的人光想着赚钱,没想到赔钱;光想着得好处,忘了风险。我告诉你,**做精明人一定要把风险先算好**,如果风险没有处理好,那麻烦就很大。 我想要让大家知道**什么事情都要养成算计的习惯,包括做一个项目,开发个系统甚至做人、做事**。你要做管理,必须会管人,会管事。一个人如果外强中干,绝对不是一个好选项,做管理肯定是做不好的。我们就分享到这,希望弟兄姐妹都成为精明的人。 愿神祝福大家!
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