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Introduction

Good morning. Today, we will be looking at the seven habits of highly effective people. I will refer to it as the Seven Habits from now on, which refers to the book written by Stephen Covey. Today, we will talk about the Seven Habits. From now on, let's not use such a long name and give it a nickname.

Everyone should have bought this book. If you are a teenager and starting to read this book, I must say, you are doing well. In fact, some people have shortchanged themselves in their schooling years. They shortchanged themselves in primary and secondary school, not to mention college; they might not even get to college. Then, they have spent their entire lives doing one thing: shortchanging themselves. Never think that others determine your path; it is you who walk it. It doesn't matter if you lack this or that, but you must have this.

A comprehensive transformation from the inside out. I think the vast majority of us struggle in this area. But I have to tell you this: if you read this book, starting with the first chapter, Inside-Out, it opens with a passage called The Character Ethic, which reminds people that a highly effective life is built on fundamental principles. People learn to follow these principles and then enjoy true success and lasting happiness. That is the theme of this chapter. If you finish reading these sentences, this chapter is about integrating these fundamental principles that people follow into their character.

You will see that whether it's middle school or primary school, it's called character education, moral education, personality education. What this is about is really what I'm saying. So, if you are living miserably today, what is the reason? It is because people have not followed these principles. So, what am I doing by leading everyone to read this book? I am doing this: allowing everyone to be transformed, comprehensively transformed from the inside out.

Last night, I was ministering to a couple. The husband is quite driven because he was a top student in middle school and did well in college. Later, he was very persistent and pursued everything he did. But the wife he married had not lived like that since she was young. Yesterday, I was doing some pastoral care, and as we were talking, our sister made eye contact with her husband and looked at him with an expression of disdain and impatience.

Why do people find someone who is helping them grow strange? It is because of what a person says and what they understand. She told me, Teacher, every time after you talk to me and encourage me, the confidence inside arises. I really want to be an excellent person. She was telling the truth. Today, everyone needs to know for sure that, in fact, I still owe a sister a phone call because she is almost filled with this stuff.

I think the problem with people lies in whether they deal with this from the inside out. In fact, everyone lives out an external reaction of what is inside. But I don't want to dampen your enthusiasm. I want to build up your confidence. A person has lived to this day with this kind of bad character all these years.

One's Mindset Determines the Outcome of One's Life

You can change anytime. You can change anytime. Why have people been in that state for so many years, living from their teens to their twenties, from their twenties to their thirties, from their thirties to their forties, only growing in age, temper, and stubbornness, with nothing else growing? That is troublesome, right? But when you come among us, I think your chances of changing are very high. I want to adjust what is inside you to be correct. Isn't that simple? Right?

In the process of our ministry over the past few years, the most common thing we hear is the issue of busyness. You will find that I am speaking according to what is written in the book. I am very busy, very busy. And indeed, very busy. Sometimes, even I am not sure if it is valuable. I hope life has meaning and can contribute to the world. Yesterday, the sister I ministered to became my typical case study. If she is listening to my sharing online, please don't be hurt. I am praising you, I am praising you, because you are actually changing inside.

In fact, we humans particularly like to be busy. Whether you like it or not, I tell everyone: you fill your 24 hours a day completely. Two hours for scrolling through Douyin, two hours for watching this, two hours for wandering around; that's how the day passes. Some people even tell me, I just want to experience what it would be like for me this way. It's not good, it's not good; it's useless. So people are very busy. Isn't it strange? Then they are busy with a lot of worthless things.

So, I will give everyone a term to remember: extra. Some people spend their whole lives being an extra. This term extra is very interesting. Many people are just playing the role of an extra, so they are busy, filling their 24 hours a day completely, but it's not good.

In the process of my ministry, I often encounter some business managers who often take management courses and try their best to manage their employees. But they just don't feel their employees' loyalty. Actually, I am the same. But I think I have a flaw, which is: whether it's a flaw or an advantage, I like to deal with myself. I like to deal with myself. So, isn't this from the inside out?

So this person often says, If I am sick at home one day, they will definitely be lazy, chatting, and gossiping there, right? Not working. Such things happen a lot. There are also some people I minister to who, when they see others achieve something or gain some recognition, squeeze out a reluctant smile and enthusiastically congratulate them. But in their hearts, they feel extremely uncomfortable. Is that strange? People are doing quite well; why feel uncomfortable?

What else is there in my ministry? Strong personalities. In many cases, if they are not in a leadership position, they are not easy to coordinate with, not easy to coordinate with. If people don't agree with their ideas, they feel very uncomfortable inside. And when their ideas are not adopted, they feel uneasy inside. This is very confusing. I advise people on what kind of attitude they should have.

Also, there are children's problems. Some people's teenage children are disobedient, and no matter what they do, it is difficult to deal with, very difficult to deal with. So, I think what we are talking about today is that when you read this book, I will teach everyone how to read this book. When you read this book, at the beginning, he writes these things. Some people are obese, so they start dieting. This is my fifth time this year. I know my weight is overweight, and I really want to change. I have also read a lot of materials, but after a few weeks, I collapse. It seems I can't keep my promises. There is no way.

So the author, through the beginning of this chapter, I will teach everyone how to read books. When reading, do you know what this matter is doing? Does everyone know what it is doing? This is a bit like my preaching, isn't it? Raising a very serious problem. Right? Raising a problem, and solving this problem is what this book is going to do. What this book is going to do. He has actually given you the theme, which is from the inside out.

He is discussing his management of his children. His management of his children. As a result, in the process of managing this child, he learned a deep lesson. Why? Because this child, this child, he plays ball similar to me. But he plays baseball. Before the ball is thrown out, he swings the bat. By the time the bat hasn't turned a full circle, the person throws the ball. As a result, everyone bursts into laughter.

Both the husband and wife are very capable people. Stephen Covey is a very capable person. And his wife is also very capable. But everyone needs to know that very capable parents often make mistakes in raising their children. It is not as good as my parents, who are not very capable. Because my parents speak to me very well. Whatever the child wants to learn, let them learn. I said that after I went to college, I wanted to take the graduate school entrance examination. Oh, don't wear yourself out. Going to college is good enough.

To Change the Status Quo, First Change Your Mindset

This family is different. But what lesson did this couple learn from this child? They really wanted to increase the child's confidence. As long as he made a little progress, they would praise him, and the child did well, so they continued. Despite this, it was already deeply rooted in the child. I will never learn well, and I don't like baseball at all. So how do I teach everyone how to read the lesson? How to read this? In fact, the author is just using a lot of words, just like when I preach, I talk for twenty minutes.

I will raise another question. This question is how to solve people's problems. I think these seven habits can really help you. That child will never learn well, and all the efforts of these parents suddenly fail, often causing serious damage to the child's self-esteem. And this person realizes that everyone's mindset is so deeply rooted. Remember this word: mindset. What is a mindset? It is my habit of thinking, my habit of seeing problems, my habit of thinking about problems.

In fact, before I read Stephen Covey's book, I knew about the mindset thing. Why did I read this book after I was very old? Everyone knows the environment I grew up in. There were no such conditions. It was only after I started working that I desperately made up for it. This mindset is how people think. For example, when we two look at the same thing, we see different things. So what everyone has inside, and then they look at that thing, it's very interesting.

I will give everyone an example. One day, there was a picture frame hanging on the wall with a picture inside. I said, Do you see any problems? Two people were staring at it, staring at it silently. Is it hanging crookedly? Is it this? Is it that? They couldn't see it. I was very surprised, but there was no need to be surprised; there was a mindset inside. Later, I found that they couldn't see it. I said, Do you see if the frame is crooked? Because it had been hanging for a long time, the top had become an arc. When they looked again, oh, it was. In other words, today, when Stephen Covey is writing this book, he wants to emphasize one thing: our inner thoughts, our way of thinking, our inner thoughts, our view of things, this thing affects us very deeply.

For example, when I am helping someone, they ask, Why don't you respect me? Recently, one of our sisters has been ministering to another sister. When ministering to another sister, she has a whole set of views. She says, Look, I came among you. I don't know anyone. I only know you. I only know my class leader. I only know my group leader. Who am I going to minister to? Because when I am preaching, I don't encourage everyone to get up and minister. I don't know who to minister to! Can you let me know everyone? You say this head, this head, with that small amount of ability, right, the head is filled with a lot of garbage. Who can she minister to? This is what it means to not want to buy soy sauce when one is capable of doing so. Isn't it? At the age when you can only buy soy sauce, you can only buy soy sauce. Isn't it? No, I have to minister to my class leader, minister to whom? She is reaching far, far, far away, trying to grab the pole but not reaching it. The ministry she can do is to be well-trained, to be well-trained.

In fact, there are many people around her who can constantly release influence, but there are some deeply rooted views inside that are very deadly. For example, when I am talking about this mindset, mindset, it is how a person views things. It is very strange, having developed a bad habit since childhood. For example, Stephen Covey's child, from the process of his parents' efforts to help him, his perception is not that my parents are helping me. The look in my parents' eyes, the expression—familiar, right? Is it very familiar? You see, the way they talk, he is saying from the inside out, Child, you are terrible. You really need your parents' help. Right? Many people, but some people didn't say it. For example, when I am helping this person, No, I will do it myself. I will do it myself. I will do it myself. This is normal. They are not thinking carefully about what they are doing because there is a strange mindset in their brain.

Obeying Spiritual Principles

So today, to change the status quo, Stephen Covey proposed a very important concept. This concept is that to change the status quo, we must first change ourselves. Do you understand? Among us, many people dream about this problem every night, thinking about waking up the next morning and returning to the original state, thinking about this path, doing this business, doing that business. But when they get up the next morning, they still take the same path. It's like that. Therefore, to change the status quo, we must first change our own view of the problem. Your own view of the problem is biased. Right?

We are all familiar with it. We take a look with our eyes, click, that's pretty good. But when we stand far away and look, oh, this line is drawn crookedly. When I was drawing it, I thought it was very straight. How is it crooked? The eyes are crooked. So it is very important for us to change our view of problems. This is what Stephen Covey has been saying for a long time. When you read further, he is still talking about this. Right?

So, you see, isn't it easy to read a book like this? Later, he talks about how many books on success in the past fifty years have been superficial. They are like aspirin and band-aids, treating the symptoms but not the root cause. Sometimes they get temporary results, but the problem is not solved. In other words, when we face a problem today, brothers and sisters, think about it.

The author finally realized that in the past, both he and his wife were subconsciously influenced by a wrong idea, which led them to take improper approaches to their son, creating a series of problems in their son. I see that many intellectuals do not educate their children well. Why? Because their purpose in educating their children is to save face. Because my own parents didn't have this face problem. So you see what he said about you—everything he said was selfish, right? Stephen Covey is the same. So maintaining a good image, fearing that the child will be embarrassing.

So many parents are like this. Even today, those I minister to who have very high degrees have problems in the family because of their parents' cruel and selfish motives. In fact, if we want to solve this problem, we must first change our motives for serving people. If our motives for serving people are not right, how can we serve them? How can we serve people when we have a pile of knowledge of good and evil in our hearts?

Today, I talked about the term knowledge of good and evil. Let's not digress today. It's still an internal problem. Right? It's still an internal question. So what is he arguing? Reading. Next, reading. How to read? Just read like this. What method did he change? In essence, he constantly conveys a concept: Child, you have no problems at all. Your parents don't need to protect you at all. Just do it. Do it.

When people transmit information from the inside out at the beginning, it works. The child gradually gained confidence. Do you understand? So, of course, we can't just deal with it so superficially. He needs a set of combination punches. Why? Because he still needs to adjust, right? This is the most important thing: people's inner perception of things has changed.

As for the story he tells, the situation that arose in the process of his pastoral care, and what happened to his child in the end, we don't know. But I know his son later wrote Eight Habits. His son thought eight habits were better than seven. Actually, that's not necessarily true, not necessarily true.

In Singapore, someone created a cell church. Then he summarized the cell church into four Ws: four Ws, English letters, W. The first W is welcome, the second W is worship, the third W is Word, and the fourth W is work. That's roughly the idea. Later, I met someone who said, I have eight Ws. Let's compare how many Ws we have. In fact, more is not necessarily better, more is not necessarily better.

So when everyone is reading, we should grab the key points while reading this book. Today, I can't project the screen, so I will describe it to everyone in words. Therefore, today, everyone must come out of some specious things. Why is it called from the inside out in dealing with our own bad habits? Why from the inside out? Very important. What is inside us determines what is outside us. Our inner wrong logical system, our wrong way of seeing things, will bring serious problems. Do you understand?

Whether we are serving people or serving ourselves, we must change ourselves from the inside out. For example, I often say that our pastors grow in pastoral care. In other words, when you are pastoring, it is not just about anything else; in the process of pastoring, you constantly adjust what is inside you.

Inner Cultivation, External Change

Constantly adjust what is inside you, and save yourself from the inside out, so that you can save others. What does that mean? He is solving his son's problem—his lack of confidence in playing baseball. In the process of solving his son's problem, he discovered that he had to solve his own problem. He has to solve his own problem. So today, brothers and sisters, when everyone is solving an external problem, they have to solve our internal problem. Isn't this the theme of this chapter?

As for the story he tells, two stories, three stories, four stories, they are useless, they are useless. When we are solving a problem, for example, when I am solving your problem, my motive is very important. Right? If my motive is not right, even the dogs on the street know. Don't say you know, even the dogs on the street will know. Why do dogs know? Because everything is transparent in the spiritual realm.

Therefore, in the ministry, whether we are solving external problems, solving our problems, solving pastoral problems, or solving our own problems, the key to everything lies in from the inside out. That is his theme, right? Why has our church come to be where it is today? No matter if the language I use sometimes has strength or if I use a more elegant word, which is to say, it has some sophistication, those who have not been pastored by me don't know, but those who have been pastored by me know. I have my own methods. I have my own methods. Why? Because he constantly wants to solve problems.

But here's the problem: how we say this matter is one thing. The essence inside us is more important than our words and actions. If we are pastoring and we are absolutely trustworthy, I ask you, the effect of your pastoring will definitely show up. Many things don't rely on skills, don't rely on disguise; they rely on our inner view of things. Let's put it this way: many people have received a lot of grace from my own pastoring. For example, if they don't have a sense of security inside, I am very clear, and I tell them, Don't worry. Don't worry, I will definitely hold you up. As long as I am still here, it probably shouldn't be a big problem. Right, not a big problem.

So today, we need to know that the things inside us need to be dealt with. Whether Stephen Covey is serving his son, whether we are serving those who are being pastored by us, or whether we are solving problems on ourselves, the first thing to solve is the thoughts in our heads—our mindset. What are we thinking? Let's challenge ourselves today. We have to challenge ourselves today. If the mindset inside us is demonic, we cannot overcome it. We cannot overcome it. So this chapter is about mindset. If you want to change your behavior, first solve your mindset. Do you understand now?

If you have an I can't do it, I'm terrible, I can't persist, I can't persist mindset inside; I can only persist for one day at most, then my logic is very simple: You can persist for one day, good. After this day ends, you can persist for one day, right? Good, now make a decision to persist for another day. You have persisted for another day, right? Then persist for another day. Every day, isn't ten days ten days? Then persist for one day. Isn't that great? I think this is a mindset.

When you read this book, you will find that our human minds make strange judgments about things. I once told a story, what story? I'll tell it in the first person. Our neighbor was a carpenter. They lost their axe. After they lost their axe, the axe was very important in the carpenter's era. Moreover, it was the carpenter's axe. The little boy next door went in and out, in and out. The way he saw it, he felt that this little boy stole it. Moreover, when this little boy spoke, how should I say it, it must be him. I often hear people among us or people I knew before say, My sixth sense is very accurate. If your sixth sense is accurate, then I have to tell you that your sixth sense is a sense from the devil.

So, everyone who bought the book, did you see that page? There is a very beautiful girl, a foreigner with curly hair, wearing a hat, like a girl harvesting wheat. After you finish looking at that picture, when you look at another picture, it looks like a girl no matter how you look at it. But when another person looks at it, it's an ugly old woman. Old woman like that. How can different people see different things when looking at the same picture? It is very interesting, because the things in our heads are different.

A few days ago, I sent my colleagues a visual thing. Did you guys see it? I just...

Thinking Transformation, Change Destiny

Let me share a bit. Some visual experiments have been done. Visual experiments, oh, this image is remarkable. Where did I find it? I saw it while scrolling through Douyin. This image is very interesting, very interesting. It's called Five Images That Trick Your Brain. One is called the Fraser spiral illusion. If you look closely, you might think it's spiraling inward, but upon closer inspection, it's just circles nested within circles. Each circle fools the eye. I was fooled at first glance. This thing is powerful.

So, find it yourself. There's also a gray-pink dot that keeps moving, a pink dot. When I stared at the cross in the center, the dot turned green. Amazing, isn't it? There's no green dot, but our vision tricks us. There's also a rotating dancer, and the checkerboard shadow illusion, like in a game of chess. After seeing it, I thought, My goodness. How often do our eyes see the truth? Let's answer this, brothers and sisters. How often do our eyes see the truth? How often is what we receive the truth? How often is what we hear the truth? How often is what we think in our minds the truth? Rarely, very rarely, pitifully rare. Mostly, it's an illusion.

So, this image, once you have this knowledge, you can read it quickly, right? More than forty pages, now we're at over fifty, right? Talking about the power of thinking transformation. Today, brothers and sisters, no matter how broken you are, if you transform your thinking, I tell you, you will become an extraordinary person. Really? Do you hear this? Really? I've been like this for so many years, don't fool me. But I like to speak with faith. I like to speak with faith. Often, after I speak, things come to pass. That’s divine, I know I am a man of God.

Some brothers and sisters know that I often speak with faith. I say, You will become an extraordinary person. They look at me wide-eyed. Are you saying that by faith? They think speaking by faith means I'm telling a lie. What do you mean, Are you saying that by faith? There's meaning in these words. I say, What I speak by faith will come to pass. Even if I cannot achieve it, my God will. Catch that? Powerful, isn't it? Most people can't catch it.

Once this thinking is transformed, when we look at an ugly painting, we see a beautiful girl. Once thinking is transformed, we know we can see the good side of things. Do you understand? That is seeing everything as good. This framework of mine is powerful. It's even more powerful than Stephen Covey's. Am I boasting again? There are some who says, Oh, the founder of Chinese Mingding Destiny.” They say, Amazing, not since Paul has there been another like him. I say, Maybe one every two days. I say, Two thousand years is too much, maybe one every five hundred years.

So today, brothers and sisters, sometimes, when I minister to them, I say, You need to know who is speaking to you. Haha. Who is speaking to you? So many emojis popping up. One every five hundred years, right? If you live long enough, a hundred years from now, you'll look back and say, Why didn't I seize the opportunity back then? Haha. Of course, that's boasting, absolutely boasting. But a question arises: Can we cleanse the garbage in our thinking as we read this book? Isn't your past stuff garbage? People's self-righteousness is powerful. Was I self-righteous just now? A little self-righteous, perhaps. I accept it. I am absolutely self-righteous in my faith. I am absolutely stubborn in my faith. I will absolutely hold fast to my faith.

What I do are impossible things made possible. Today, are we transforming our thinking to I can't, but God can?

Thinking Transformation, Live a Passionate Life

Someone sent a great emoji. Let me read it to you: You can eat anything, but you can't say anything carelessly. We've had this mindset since childhood: You can eat anything, but you can't say anything recklessly. But I tell you, speak words of faith! I can, I definitely can, I absolutely can! Especially when doing things I don't like. It's not that you say, It's okay, it's all good. Someone sent an emoji, Don't get caught up in... If I say something, I don't have opinions about you guys. I only have one expectation: be a person of faith like me. Be a person of faith.

The thinking within us must be transformed. Where is your future? In your faith. Where is your future? In your faith, in your heart, in your mouth. Believe in your heart, declare with your mouth, and God will accomplish it for you. God is looking for such people. This is thinking transformation, isn't it? Thinking transformation is powerful. All the developments in modern science are transformations of thinking.

Let me ask you, if someone offers to sell us an atomic bomb, would we still build one ourselves? See how powerful this thinking pattern is? It because they woulnd't sell it to us, we just brute forced made one. Great isnt it? It’s because they blocked us, so we developed faster. Isn't that amazing? Because the environment we live in is a bit tough, so our character is forged. Of course, some people don't have that strong of faith. If they were sold to Egypt, they wouldn't be Joseph; they would rot in prison, trying to work themselves out in the name what calling out, die completely.

So today, we need to transform these mindsets. Transform them. How transformation it? Convert them into action. Convert them into a positive light. I tell you, some people are picky. Why? Because they only see the bad. Is that a pain in the head? Some people see only the bad, so they have headaches? Some people only see the bad, so the are lost in their head? Some people only see the bad, so their legs hurt? Some people only see the bad, so their backs hurt? Some people see only the bad, so... so that's what they become? Right? That's what they are the end of the day? People look at them like dirt, and they see themselves as dirt. Isn't that a life of dirt? Even a dog's life is better than a life of dirt. Perhaps that's too much to say.

So today, we're transforming our mindset. I'm talking about... When I get excited, I talk about myself, forgetting about Stephen Covey. I forgot to mention, Stephen Covey said, Can you transform your thinking? For example, the person I ministered to last night was interesting. Look at their eyes, looking down on me. Look at this picture, transform your thinking. Why would people look up to me the way I am? Aren't you concerned about this at all? Why would people the way I am look up to me? I had a certain commitment. I brought a surge commitment. I will do it for your guys to see, that from now on I will change. If you look at what i'm doing wow, he’s got guts, a great commitment.

Once you have character, many problems resolve themselves, don't they? Why should others respect you? Sometimes I hear, No one in this family respects me. I think it's strange. Why should they respect you the way you are, always thinking about the old mom’s house? If you're always thinking about taking advantage of others, will they respect you? And you still demand respect. Isn't that painful? If people spit on my face, should I be angry? I am willing to do the little things, the nitty gritty for you when no other will.

One day, when you actually test me, you will find that what I say is true. If what I said is true, should we make a wager? A small wager, the money will go into my account, in the off chance that. Jokes aside. Once this thought shifts, how wonderful it is! Instant happiness!

So, let's reflect a bit. Are we passionate people? Do we have that passion within us? Do we have that positivity? Do we have that outlook that sees everything as good? Someone glares at me, and strength comes from that glare. Someone insults me, and strength comes from that insult. Someone spits on me, and strength comes from that spit. People like this, who is supposed to stand up to him when he takes over, who can stand up to him?

Persist with the first minute, Change Lifetime

It’s amazing. You become someone the world is not worthy of. Think. All these things are connected. What is the first habit. The is positive motive. The is the first habit. We are going to go over some of these things together. The second chapter. We are here to be different.

Let me just say, our believe is the most important. The perspective on things is the most important. You can like something, you can like something, You can be happy because of it; you are great at it. What I'm basically saying here is that, you have already better. You were already better than the previous day. Keep moving foward, keep moving foward.

I said that the logic is straightfoward. That I’m sure you can stick with the first minute. So you already started to stick with the first minute, that there is not an issue here. You have already started to stick with the first minute, there is not an issue that i’m aware of. Sticking more will be another hour. That you’ll stick to the first hour, but there is still more.

I said to see it one day ah. There are those that say there is nothing past one. This is a death sentence. Then on one day, oh, you are going to give up near the first day. That will start with this minute comparing to all of this far. Then for every minute there is a moment of the day.

There should be no disagreements the spiritual. Then do what is in line with the spirit. Understand the spiritual. Early on the days, I talked to myself, you’ll be crying over and over again. Those will be hard days. Taking the bag, going to work. From work to home without interacting with anyone. There were also cats who listen.

Looking at those speakers that were writing this, those would cripple my confidence. He would make 3,000 members under 3 long months. It was so hard to cope through this. These past couple of years, the cats remain the same. Putting my thoughts to other speakers that have great light shows and what not. The thoughts that are replaying on repeat and my focus goes to them. But I have to remain faithful in this case.

In tears, one might need to building this church with the glory of God. Days after day, many years in. The glory days will come. There will be perseverance through this all. What I said is great character. Or else I would the story to tell.

Through what is hard, shed the tears. What is happy, keep doing the work. All the lines, microphone and and all the equipment that can be used, I put it together. Make your own tables, it’s look beatiful. Forget the lights and other things that stand out. Looked what I have, I minister, service is my calling. So service, faith,

Remember do not argue the things of God. We are going to listen to what can be of God. You can still do what you want and do what is God can provide in this moment. We are going to talk about a story that is a lighthouse some moment up next.

Do What You Can Follow the Spirit Truth

If you were to see this lighthouse. I’m going to show that book to you. Going over nearly over 60 pages that I’ll say about it. Telling the ship to move. The ship said oh so what. The response “I am the light house!” This is to mean that despite what your going through remember to remain the true path not the end. Understand?

We should develop the respect. Never go against the rule. This road is to violate it. We are we. We will become more in the name what is called. We will be walking behind Jesus. Understood?

There is to have respect for the way you grew. Remember this saying. To turn around to find your truth. Someone drives. The reason why is that you'll be standing the middle that is in no one's way.

What your growth tells you what is what. To make make changes the in name the truth. We are more faithful in what we practice. I have hate that is going to people that have no sence and just be the way what who is. Remember Jesus is the way. I am not able to avoid all the things of temptation. It is not okay.

We the moment to transform in to a positive light. The conditions here can be bad, that is where the bad takes place, that is not an amount of faith we grew. God has your way throughout this all. Your reasons are than a little cup of soy sauce. Open your path with that gasoline.

What if the amount of work that you do, amount of book read, if you are to busy to do, you might as well be an gas tank if there are no reasons in sight. We remember to change. What your mind has been. You might see it in the habits. You might see it in the actions. I like great and have an unique experience of positive to offer to the side. Is it difficult? You have might the same.

Remember God still does not have any to go against him. Remember it still is the God that is with you.

Is this here with you today? Millions that worship God, millions that were lost. Okay. Before to exit this world, I am to tell you a grand tale. Two friends together.

Change Youself First Before the Others

These are two friends. Two friend can sell together. Someone is going to take thirty, someone is going to take the full of 70. What is with the game? The other should would have 70 and give thirty. That I will take forty while you will take 60 or the inverse. You have got to be kidding me. Can you tell anything. What are you to do. Oh can give you I should would take most, other less. It is better not to argue. I not agree. You guys it has a high chance of winning. Then get the money. What of losing.

He would be consumed. But I will take thirty. So what is what is what. There is not to tell you. What they tell you is that there are stock names that are taking the fall. Billions going in that millions disappear. It is here the plan is played out. You need to read and agree. No one needs to be that that dumb.

There is the family and faith. There will be a change from the inside out. Many want to want to be the other. There are so few want do so much for the family. One say to give to other so that could they will not look. There is a moment when no one care that it exist. Never give up to change the other!

To end this story. We are getting so smarter. Oh the things that do tell us, you have got to wait until someone get hurt in time.

Read what these great speakers is. I can preach and perform what they are able to do that, if they agree or not it's fine with me. I am able now to the place for anyone. This is to remember to never give up!

Even when service the remember what your doing. We there for service of you that you service yourself into the calling.

We have been overthink to many in the routine.

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大家好,今天我们要讲的是高效能人士的七个好习惯。我以后会简称为七个好习惯。提到七个好习惯,就是指史蒂芬·柯维所写的这本书。今天我们就来讲七个好习惯,从现在开始就不要讲那么长的名字了,给它起个小名。 大家都应该买了这本书,如果你是一个十几岁的孩子,开始读这本书,我告诉你,你很不错。其实,有些人在上学的时候就亏欠了自己。上小学、中学的时候就亏欠自己,那就更不用提上大学了,可能连大学也上不了。然后这一辈子就干了一件事,亏欠自己。千万不要以为人的路是别人替你决定的,就是你自己走。你没有这个,没有那个都没关系,但是必须要有这个。 由内而外全面造就自己。我想我们当中有绝大多数人都在这方面挣扎。但是我得把这事告诉你,如果你读这本书,一开始读这个第一章,由内而外造就自己。这一章上来就写了一段话,叫做品德成功论提醒人们,高效能的生活是有基本原则的。人们学会遵从这些原则,然后就会享受真正的成功和恒久的幸福。这是这一章的主题。如果你读完了这几句话,这一章讲的就是这么一回事,就是把人们遵循的这些基本原则融入到自己的品德当中去。 你会看见中学也好,小学也好,都叫做品格教育、品德教育、性格教育。那这个事儿其实就是这么回事儿。那你今天如果活得很糟糕,是什么原因?就是因为人们没有遵循这些原则。那你说我带着大家读这本书,我在干什么呢?我就是在做这件事,就是让大家能够被造就,由内而外,全面地造就自己。

昨天夜里我在服侍一对夫妻。做丈夫的还是挺有追求的,因为上中学的时候是学霸,上大学也还不错,后来做什么东西都很执着很追求。但是他娶的这个妻子呢,从小就不是这么活过来的。昨天我在做一些牧养,然后说着说着话,我们的这个姐妹,就透过和我面对面说话,看着她老公,你看那个眼神,就满脸的是瞧不起和不耐烦。 人为什么会看到一个正在帮助他成长的人很奇怪呢?那是因为一个人所说的话和他所了解的。那他跟我说了,他说,老师你每次跟我讲完了,你激励完了我,我里面的信心就起来了。我就很想下决心做一个卓越的人。我也很想卓越,他说的是真话。今天大家要确切知道,其实,到现在我还欠一个姐妹的电话,因为她里面装的差不多也是这玩意儿。 我想人的问题在哪儿?人的问题就在于人是不是从内到外把这东西给对付掉。其实所有人活出来的都是你里面的一种外在的反应。但我不想打击你的积极性。我想建造一下你的信心。一个人过去这些年,带着这种不良性格活到今天。

你什么时候都可以改变。你什么时候都可以改变。为什么人过去那些年,一直在那种状态下,从十多岁活到二十多,二十多活到三十多,三十多活到四十多,除了年龄增长,脾气也在增长,固执在增长,别的都没有增长,那就麻烦了,是不是?但你来到我们当中,我想你改变的机会是非常大的。我想把你里面的东西调整正确。这不就简单了吗?是不是? 在过去这些年我们服侍的过程当中,最常听说的就是忙碌这件事。你会发现我就是照着书上写的在讲。我很忙,很忙。然后呢,确实很忙。有时候呢,我自己也不清楚是否有价值,我希望生活有意义,能对世界有所贡献。昨天我服侍这个姐妹,成了我的典型案例。如果她在网上也听我分享的时候,千万别受伤,千万别受伤,我在夸你呢,我在夸你。因为你里面其实正在改变当中。 其实我们人呢,特别喜欢忙碌。你说你喜欢也好,不喜欢也好,我告诉大家,一天24小时你给他塞得满满的。两个小时刷抖音,两个小时看看这个,两个小时闲逛,一天也都那么过了。甚至有一些人还跟我说呢,他说我就想体验一下我这样会怎么样。不怎么样啊,不怎么样啊,没啥用啊。所以人很忙,你说不是很奇怪吗?然后忙了一大堆没有价值的事。 那我给大家起一个名词,这个名词大家记住叫跑龙套。有的人一辈子就跑了一辈子的龙套。这个跑龙套这个词很有意思。很多人就在跑龙套,所以就忙啊,一天24小时塞得满满的,但是不怎么样。

在我服侍的过程当中,经常遇到一些企业管理者,他们经常去上管理课程,然后也想尽办法去管理员工。但是就是感觉不到这些员工的忠诚,其实我也一样。但是我觉得我有一个毛病,就是什么呢?你说是个毛病也好,是个优点也好。我喜欢对付我自己,我喜欢对付我自己,所以这不由内而外吗? 所以说这个人经常说,如果有一天我生病在家,他们一定会在那里偷懒啊,闲聊啊,扯淡啊,是吧,不干活。这样的事儿很多。还有一些我服侍到的人,看着别人有所成就,获得某种认可,表面上挤出一个很勉强的微笑,然后也热烈祝贺。可是内心却难受得不得了。奇怪吗?人家整得挺好,难受啥? 在我服侍当中还有啥呢?个性比较强。在很多时候,如果他不站在领导的位置上,他就不太好配搭啊,不太好配搭。如果人家不同意他的想法,里面很难受。然后人家不采用的时候,就感到里面很不安。这个很困惑啊。我为人家建议到底应该用什么样的态度啊。 还有,就是孩子的问题。有的人,十多岁的孩子不听话,然后怎么弄,都很难弄啊。很难弄。所以说我想今天咱们说这个事儿,就是你一读这本书,我再教大家怎么读这本书啊。一读这本书的时候,一开头他就写了这些。有的人肥胖,他就开始节食。这是我今年第五次了,我知道自己的体重超标,也确实想改变,也读了很多资料,然后几周后就溃败了。看来我无法信守诺言。没有办法啊。

所以说这个作者透过这一章一开头,我教大家怎么读书啊。读的时候呢,你知道这件事在干啥呢?大家知道在干啥吗?这有点跟我讲道差不多是不是?在提出了一个很严峻的问题。是不是?在提出一个问题,提出了一个问题,然后解决这个问题,就是这本书要做的。这本书要做的。他其实早就把这个主题给你了,就是由内而外。 他在论述他在管理他的孩子上。管理他的孩子上。结果这个孩子啊,管理这个孩子的过程当中,他深深地学了一个功课。为啥呢?因为这个孩子啊,这个孩子,他打球跟我差不多啊。但是他打球是打棒球。人家球还没往外扔呢,他棒子就打出去了。等人家棒子还没转一圈,没转回来,人投球了。结果大家哄堂大笑。 然后呢,这个夫妻俩都是很厉害的人。斯蒂文·科威是个很厉害的人。他和他的老婆都很厉害。但是大家要知道,很厉害的父母在养孩子上常常犯错误。还不如我这个父母不厉害。因为我父母跟我说话那多好啊。孩子想怎么学就怎么学吧。我说我上大学以后我要考研究生。哎呀,别累坏了。上大学挺好啊。那你看有的家庭。

这家庭就不一样。但这个夫妻俩在这个孩子身上学了一个什么功课呢?就是很想啊,很想增加这个孩子的信心啊。只要他稍有进步,就夸奖他一番,然后孩子干得好啊,继续。尽管这样,在这个孩子里面,已经是根深蒂固。我永远也学不好,我根本就不喜欢棒球。那我教导大家怎么读功课呢?怎么读这个?其实这个作者也不过是透过一大堆的文字就像我讲道时的,得不得得不得得不得讲了二十几分钟。 我再提出一个问题,这个问题就是怎么解决人的问题。我想,这七个好习惯,真的可以帮助你。那这个孩子他永远学不好,然后这个父母啊,他们所有的努力突然无功,常常让这个孩子的自尊心受到很严重的伤害。然后这个人啊,他就意识到每个人的思维定势都是那么根深蒂固。记住啊,这个话叫做思维定势。什么叫思维定势?就是我思维的习惯,我看问题的习惯,我想问题的习惯。

其实我在读这个斯蒂文·科威这个书之前,我就知道思维定势这个事儿。为什么我在读这个书之前,是我很大岁数以后才读的,大家知道我从小生活的环境,那没有这个条件的,那是后来是做工以后,那就是拼命恶补才补出来的。这个思维定势就是人就这么思维的。你比如说,我们两个人看同样一件事儿,看到的东西是不一样的。所以说每个人在里面装的东西,然后他在看那个东西,那很有意思。 我给大家举个例子,有一天那墙上挂了一幅画框,然后在里面装了一个画。我说你看出什么问题了没有,两个人在那死静看,死静看。是不是挂歪了,是不是这个,是不是那个。眼睛看不见,我这是非常的诧异啊,也不用诧异,就里面有一种思维定势。后来我就发现他看不见,我说你看这个框是不是个瓢的,因为挂久了,那个上面已经成了一块圆弧了,他再一看,哦是。也就是说我们今天这个斯蒂芬·科威,他在写这本书的时候,他想突出一件事儿,就是我们里面的想法,我们里面的思维的方式,我们里面的想法,我们对事物的看法,这东西影响我们,非常的深远。

比如说我在帮助一个人,他就问你为什么不尊重我?最近我们当中也有一个姐妹在服侍另外一个姐妹。服侍另外一个姐妹的时候,她有她一整套的看法。她说你看我来到你们当中,我谁都不认识,我只认识你,我只认识我的班长,只认识我的小组长。那我服侍谁去啊?因为你看我在讲道的时候,我不鼓励大家去起来服侍嘛。我都不认识我服侍谁啊?能不能让我都认识一下啊?你说这脑袋,这脑袋,就他那个小样的,是吧,脑子里都装了一大堆的垃圾,他能服侍谁呀。这就是什么呢,能打酱油的不想打酱油。是不是啊,只能打酱油的那个年龄,你就只能打酱油,是不是。不对,我得服侍一下我的班长啊,服侍一下谁啊,他擦老远老远老远,扒杆子不摞不着,他所能够做的服侍就是,好好地被培训,好好地被培训。 其实他周围很多人,他可以不断地释放影响力,但是人里面有一些,根深蒂固的那种看法,非常要命。我比如说我在讲这个思维定势。思维定势。就是人对这个事物的看法,非常的奇怪,从小就养成了一个坏习惯。从小就养成坏习惯。你比如说这个斯蒂芬·科威的孩子,他从父母的这么努力帮助他的这个过程中,他的领受不是我父母在帮助我。我父母那眼神,那表情,熟悉吧,是不是很熟悉啊。你看你说那说话的方式,他就是说,他从里到外说,孩子你很烂,你很需要父母的帮忙,是不是,很多人,但是有的人没说,比如说我在帮这个,不我自己来,我自己来,我自己来,我自己来,这常人,他不是说,他不是说,想仔细动脑子想好这事,因为脑子里,有一个思维定势,非常的奇怪。

所以今天要改变现状,斯蒂芬·科威提出了一个非常重要的观念。这个观念是要改变现状,首先要改变我们自己,听明白了吗?我们当中很多人,是不是一说这个问题,每天夜里都做梦,想着第二天早上起来恢复原来的样子,每天夜里想这条路啊,做这个生意做那个生意啊。第二天早晨起来还是走原路,就那样。所以改变现状,先要改变我们自己对问题的看法。你自己对问题的看法,都是偏的呀。是不是啊? 咱们大家都熟悉。我们拿眼睛一看,咔,那挺好,是吧。等站远了一看,哎呀,这线画歪了。我在画的时候觉得可直了。怎么歪的?眼睛歪了。所以我们改变我们对问题的看法是非常重要的。这就是斯蒂芬·科威他讲了半天,你再往下读还是讲这事儿,是不是啊? 所以说你看啊,你读书这么读是不是很容易啊?后来他又讲,他就讲了很多在过去五十年来探讨这成功书的著作都很肤浅。都是那种阿司匹林创可贴,是吧?然后头疼医头,脚疼医脚,治标不治本,有时候暂时得到果效,但其实问题没有解决。也就是说今天我们面临一个问题的时候,弟兄姐妹琢磨一下啊。

这个作者他终于了解到过去他和他老婆在潜意识里受到一种错误观念的影响,才会对儿子采取那种不妥当的做法,在儿子里面创造出一系列的问题。我看见很多知识分子教育孩子教育不好。为啥?因为他们教育孩子的目的就是要保住自己的颜面啊。因为我自己的父母没有这个颜面的问题。所以你看他说他在你身上啊,整个说的所有的一切都是很自私的想法,是不是?这个斯蒂芬·科威也是一样。所以维持一个良好的形象,怕孩子丢人啊。 所以很多父母这样,直到今天我服侍的,有的甚至读到很高的学位的,都是在家庭里面受到很残酷的父母很自私的动机带来的问题。其实我们要想解决这问题。解决问题首先都改变我们服侍人的动机。我们服侍人的动机都不对的话怎么服侍啊?我们自己里面装着一坨的分别善恶,我们怎么服侍人呢? 今天我讲了一个分别善恶这个术语。今天咱们别跑题。还是里面的问题啊。是不是?还是里面的问题。所以说他在论述一个啥?读书。接下来读书。怎么读?就这么读。那他改变了一个什么办法呢?其实不断地传递一个观念。其实孩子你啥问题也没有。你父母根本不需要保护你。你就做吧。做吧。 这个一开始的时候,当人从里到外传递信息进去的时候,有效了。孩子渐渐有了信心,听明白了吗?所以我们当然不能够一味地这么表面化地处理。他需要一套组合拳。为什么呢?因为他还得调整啊,是不是?这就是最重要的人里面对事物的领受发生了改变。

至于他说这个故事,他说这个故事和我牧养的过程当中说,产生出来的这种状况后来他的孩子到底怎么样,我们都不知道啊。但是我知道他儿子后来写了一个八个好习惯啊。他儿子后来写了一个八个好习惯,他觉得八个比七个强啊。其实还真不一定啊,真的不一定啊。 在新加坡有一个人开创了一个叫做小组化教会。然后他就把这小组化教会总结成四个W,四个W,英文字母,W。第一个W是破冰,第二个W是敬拜,第三个W是神的话,第四个W是神的工作,大概就这个意思。后来我认识了一个人,他说我整了八个W,大家再比多少个W。其实,不是越多越好啊,不是越多越好。 所以大家在读的时候,那我们在读这个书的时候就抓重点。今天我没有办法投屏。那我就跟大家用语言叙述。所以今天大家一定要从一些似是而非的东西里头走出来。其实在我们对付我们自己身上坏习惯上,为什么叫做由内到外呢?由内到外呢?很重要。我们里面的东西决定了我们外边。我们里面那个错误的逻辑体系,错误的看事情的方法,会带来很严重的问题。听明白了吗? 不管是我们服侍人还是服侍我们自己。由内到外改变我们自己,比如说我常常说我们的牧者,我们的牧者在牧养当中成长。也就是说你在牧养根本不是别的,就是在牧养的过程当中,你不断地调整你自己的里面。

不断地调整你自己的里面,由内到外拯救自己,你才能够拯救别人。什么意思呢?他在解决他儿子的问题,他儿子的打棒球信心很脆弱,在解决他儿子的问题的过程当中,他发现其实他要解决他自己的问题啊。他要解决自己的问题。所以今天咱们弟兄姐妹每一个人在解决一个外面的问题的时候都要解决我们里面的问题。这不就是这一章的主题吗? 至于他讲这个故事、两个故事、三个故事、四个故事,没啥用啊,没啥用。那我们在解决一个问题,比如说我在解决你的问题,我里面的动机非常重要。是不是?我里面的动机如果不对,那路边的狗都知道。不要说你知道,路边的狗都会知道。那为啥狗知道呢?因为在灵界里头全是透明的。 所以说我们在服侍当中,在解决外面的问题也好,解决我们的问题,所牧养的问题也好,还是解决我们自己的问题也好,其实所有的关键都在于由内而外。这就是他的主题,是不是?那为什么,为什么这个,咱们教会走到今天啊。不管我用的语言有的时候是挺有这个力道啊。或者是用一个比较文雅的词,就是比较有味道啊。没有被我牧养的不知道,被我牧养的都知道啊,都知道。我有一套我自己的办法啊。我有一套我自己的办法。为啥呢?因为他不断地想解决问题。

但是问题在这,我们怎么说这事儿,这事儿是一回事儿。那我们里面的本质那个比言行更重要。如果我们在牧养,我们是一个绝对可以信任的。我问你,你的牧养的果效一定会出来。有很多东西不是靠着技巧,不是靠着伪装,是靠着我们里面对事物的看法。咱这么说啊。我自己牧养的这件事儿,很多人得着很多的恩典。你比如说他里头没有安全感,我很清楚,我跟他讲你不用担心。你不用担心,我一定会托住你。是不是,只要我还在,大概应该不是个大问题。是吧,不是个大问题。 所以说今天,今天咱们要知道我们里面的东西需要对付。不管是斯蒂文·科威他在服侍他的儿子,还是我们这些人在服侍我们被牧养的人,还是我们这些人解决我们自己身上的问题。最首先解决的就是我们脑子里的想法。就是思维定势。我们想的是啥?咱们今天就挑战一下。今天我们就得挑战。如果我们里面的思维定势是一个属魔鬼的,你不可能得胜的。你不可能得胜。所以这一章就讲的是思维定势。如果你要想行为改变,先解决定势。现在明白了吗? 你里面有一个我不行,我很烂,我不可能坚持,我不可能坚持啊,我坚持最多能坚持一天。那我的逻辑就很简单了。你能坚持一天,那好,这一天结束以后,你能坚持一天是吧?好,现在再做个决定,再坚持一天。那又坚持一天了吗?那再坚持一天。每一天,十天不是十个一天吗?那坚持一天,这不就挺好吗?我想这是思维定势。

我们人的头脑啊,你读这本书的时候你就会发现,人的头脑对事物的判断很奇怪。我曾经讲过一个故事,讲过一个故事啥呢?我就用第一人称来讲了。我们家的邻居是个木匠。他们家的斧头丢了。他们家斧头丢了以后,木匠那个年代斧头那很重要啊。而且那个木匠的板斧啊。隔壁那小男孩儿进进出出进进出出,他怎么看怎么觉着是这小男孩儿偷的,而且这小男孩儿说话的时候,哇怎么讲,肯定是他。我经常听见我们当中,或者之前我认识的人说的话,我的第六感觉很准的,你的第六感很准的话,那我可得告诉你啊,你那第六感,那是魔鬼的感啊。嗯,魔鬼的感。 所以说这个事儿啊,大家买的那本书,看到那一页了吗,有一个很漂亮的女孩儿,一个洋人卷头发,戴一个帽子,好像收麦穗的女孩儿。看完了那个图以后呢,再看另外一个图怎么看怎么像个女孩。但另外一个人一看,是个又丑又丑陋的老太婆啊。老太婆这样的。那这个人,不同人看同一幅画,怎么会看到不同的东西呢?怎么会看到不同的东西?这是非常有意思,就是因为我们的里面,脑袋里头装的东西不一样。 那前几天呢,我发给我的同工啊,一个视觉上,哎,我们这些人看没看啊,看没看?啊,视觉上那东西啊,我就。

稍微给大家说一下啊。有人做过一些视觉上的实验啊。视觉上的实验,哦,这个图厉害啊。我在哪上整来的呢?我在刷抖音的时候看到的。在刷抖音的时候看到的。那这个图啊,非常的有意思啊,非常有意思。它叫做五张令你大脑产生错觉的图片。五张令你大脑产生错觉的图片,一个叫做弗雷泽螺旋错觉。弗雷泽螺旋错觉。你仔细一看啊,以为是那个东西一直往里旋的,其实再仔细一看,其实都是一个圈一圈一圈套一圈,每个圈就被视觉骗了。我跟你讲我一看我都被骗了。我是被骗的啊。这玩意很厉害啊。 所以说大家去找一下,还有一个灰粉色的小点儿一直在动,粉色的点儿。后来我盯紧在中间那个十字花啊,那点儿变绿了。神奇吗?那点变绿了。哪有绿点没有绿点,但是我们的视觉会骗我们。还有一个旋转的舞者,还有棋盘的阴影错觉,西洋象棋的棋盘。哇,我看了以后我觉得我的天哪。有多少时候我们的眼睛看到的是事实?来,弟兄姐妹我们回答一下。有多少时候我们的眼睛看到的是事实?有多少时候我们领受的东西是事实?有多少时候我们自己听到的是事实?有多少时候我们脑子里想的是事实?很少啊,很少,很少,少得可怜。基本上都是错觉。听明白了吗?

然后他就讲这个图嘛,其实讲完了讲完了,如果你有这个知识的时候,你不就一下子就读完了吗?是吧?四十多页现在已经读到五十多页了,是吧?已经读到五十多页了,然后他讲着思维转换的力量。今天弟兄姐妹不管你有多烂,你把你里面的思维给我转换过来,我告诉你,你会成为一个了不起的人。真的没?大家有这种声音没?真的没?我已经这么多年了,别忽悠我。那我喜欢用信心说话,我喜欢用信心说话,那我喜欢用信心说话,很多时候我说完了他事成就,那是很神,我知道我是个神人嘛,是吧?那我是个神人。 然后有一些弟兄姐妹,他知道我常常用信心说话。然后我说你将来成为一个了不起的人。然后他看着我两眼瞪得溜圆。你是不是凭信心说的?你是不是?他以为我在凭信心瞎说。他以为我凭信心说的就是我凭信心说了一个谎话。什么叫你是不是用信心说的?你看这话,这话里有话啊。我说我凭信心说的必成就。我凭这信心说的必成就,就算是我成就不了我的神必成就。你看这话,厉害吧,厉害啊。一般的人逮不住,那他较劲较不过我啊。

这个思维一旦转换了,我们看着一幅很丑的画,看的是一个漂亮的女孩,思维一旦转换了,我们就知道我们,我们其实还可以看到,事物的好的一面。大家理解了吗?这就是看一切都是好的。我这套东西厉害啊。我这套东西比,斯蒂芬·康威那套东西还厉害的。你看又,凡尔赛了吧?有人说吗?有没有人说?又凡尔赛了。有的人就说,哇,创建华人民帝神学的创始人呢。他们说哎呀厉害啊,从保罗,自从保罗以来还没有一个呢,我说那得两天天出一个吧。我说那两千年不敢当,起码得五百年出一个吧。 所以今天咱们弟兄姐妹,有的时候,有的时候我牧养他的时候,我说你得知道跟你说话的是谁啊。哈哈。跟你说话的是谁?说话,哎呀,这么多表情包出来了啊。五百年出一个呀,是不是啊?如果你活得够久,是吧?一百年以后回头再看,哎呀,我当时怎么,怎么没把握好机会呢?哈哈哈哈。怎么没把握好机会呢?当然这是凡尔赛,这绝对是凡尔赛,自己瞎说。但是问题出来了,咱们思维转换一下。咱们读这个书的时候,咱们思维里面的垃圾能不能除掉?你过去那些东西是不是垃圾?人自以为是的东西厉害啊。人自以为是,刚才我自以为是了吗?刚才有点自以为是吗?大家讲我也挺自以为是的。我接受,我接受。我在信心上绝对自以为是。我在信心上绝对自以为是。我在信心上绝对是倔强。我在信心上绝对会持守。是不是啊?大家慢慢琢磨。慢慢琢磨。 那我做的事儿都是不可能的事儿给做成了。我们今天是否把我们的思维转换成,我不行,但是神可以。

哎呀,有人有个表情包挺好,我念给大家听啊。死可以乱吃,话不能乱讲啊。从小就带着这种思维定势,死可以吃,话不能瞎说。但是我告诉你,信心的话多说呀,我可以,我绝对可以,我肯定可以。我做东西尤其是我不喜欢干的事儿。不是说你说我没关系,挺好。大家发了个表情包,千万别卷着那个啥。我说完了以后我对你会有意见。我对大家没有意见。我对大家只有一个期盼,像我一样做一个有信心的人。做一个有信心的人。 我们里面的那种思维必须转换。你的未来在哪里?在你的信心的里头。你的未来在哪里?在你信心的里头,就在你心里,就在你口里。你口里相信,口里宣告,神必为你成就。神正在寻找这样的人。这是思维模式转换嘛,是不是啊?所以思维模式转换那厉害啊。今天所有的现代科学的发展全是思维转换。 我问你啊,我问你如果有人卖给咱们原子弹,咱还会造原子弹吗?你看这思维模式厉害吧?就是因为人家不卖你,我们愣给做了一个出来。厉害吧?就是因为人家封锁我们,所以我们发展的特别快。厉害了,是不是?就因为我们活的这个环境还是有点小艰难,所以我们的性格会被锤炼,是吧?性格会被锤炼。当然了,有的人信心没有那么强。他如果被卖到埃及,他不是约瑟,他就把牢底坐穿,努力做到他们叫什么来的,死透透。

所以今天咱们这些思维要转换哪?要转换。怎么转换?转换成积极的。转换成积极的。我跟你讲,有人挑剔,为什么挑剔?看到的都是不好的,所以头晕吗?有人挑剔,看到的都是不好的,所以头疼吗?有人看到的不好的,所以思维吗?有人看到的是不好的,所以腿疼吗?有人看到的是不好的,所以腰疼吗?有人看到的这也不好,那也不好,所以……所以就变成那样了吗?是吧?就那样了吗?是吧?人家看他像狗屎,自己也看自己像狗屎。你说这一辈子不是狗屎人生吗?是不是?那连狗生都不如狗屎生。哎呀,这话说的有点过分。 所以今天咱们思维定势转换,我在讲的是,其实……一讲兴奋的光讲我的,忘讲斯蒂文·科威的。我忘讲了斯蒂文·科威说﹗你的思维能不能转换一下。你比如说我昨天夜里服侍的,夜里服侍的,可有意思。你看那眼神儿,看不起我呀。你看这画,思维模式转换一下。我这个样儿,人家凭什么看得起我?你就不计较这个了吗?我这个样儿,人家凭什么看得起我?我回家,我……我啥来的啊?我含下一条心,我冒出了劲儿。我一定要做给你们看,今天你们看不起我没关系,但是我从今以后我就是要改变。刘远一看,哇,背地里竖个大拇指,这小子挺有性格啊,挺有性格。是不是挺有性格啊? 你一旦有性格了,那很多问题不需要解决了吗?那凭什么尊重你啊?有时候我就听说,你看,在咱家没有人尊重我。我就觉得奇怪了,人家凭什么尊重你这个样儿呢?脑子里想的就是老妈的房子,你说这家弟兄姐妹能尊重你吗?脑子里想的就是占人家便宜,你说人家能尊重你啊?还有个小要求,要求人家尊重你。你说能不痛苦吗?就像我这个样子,我跟你讲,你说我一句说我一句,瞪我一眼就瞪我一眼;吐我一口吐沫就吐我一口吐沫;那个吐沫心崩在我脸上,我插不插吧,是吧?我,我不计较这个。我不计较这个。

有一天你可能真拿我来试一把的时候,你会发现,哎呀,他说的是真的呀。如果我说的是真的,要不要咱打个赌啊。安安地地打个赌,然后把钱放到我账号里头去。如果赌输的话。对不对,开玩笑。这个,这个,这个想法一改变,你说多好啊,立刻幸福了啊,立刻幸福感十足。 那我们今天开始琢磨一下啊,琢磨一下。我们是不是一个充满热情的人?是不是?我们里面是不是有那种热情?我们里面是不是有那种积极?我们是不是有那种正面?我们里面是不是有那种看什么东西都是好的?是吧?人家瞪我一眼,瞪出力量来了。人家骂我一眼,骂出力量来了。人家吐我一口,吐出力量来了。是不是啊?你说这种人,这种人,你说这种人,你说谁能把他怎么样?谁也不能把他怎么样。谁也不能把他怎么样。

就厉害了。你就成了这世上不配有的人。然后你想想看啊。我就说这事儿啊。他讲的其实都跟前面后面这些东西都搭在一起。第一个好习惯是啥?积极主动。是不是啊?第一个好习惯不是积极主动吗?下一课咱们把七个好习惯一起捋一遍。第二章很短。这不是我们就啊。我们就不一样了,是不是? 所以我想啊,我们里面的信念是最重要的。我们里面那个人,我们的对事物的认知是最重要的。我跟你讲啊﹐你如果天天做事儿﹐我得喜欢这个﹐我喜欢这个﹐我喜欢这个﹐哇,你都厉害了你,你老厉害了。听明白了吗?那我是个有出息的,我是个有出息的,我肯定有出息的,我肯定已经﹐我已经开始﹐我已经比昨天更好一点了﹐我已经比昨天条件好一点了﹐我比前天好很多了。再坚持一下,再坚持一下。 我说道理是不是很简单啊?我说你肯定能坚持一分钟。那能啊,坚持一分钟能啊。大家觉得这话有意思吗?我说你肯定能坚持一分钟。那没问题,坚持一分钟。我说你已经坚持了一分钟,那再坚持一分钟有问题没有?那没问题啊,那再坚持。一会儿一个小时了,不是吗?那你能坚持一个小时了,不是啊?那就再坚持一个小时吧。能坚持一天啊。有的人就想法说,我从来没有坚持过任何东西超过一天。你看这一下子给自己给钉了,判了一个死刑。所以到一天的时候,哎呀,眼看到一天了,赶紧放弃啊。是吧,那我能坚持一分钟比一天,那差老远了是不是?那一分钟。那每一天不都是一分钟一分钟搭起来的吗?

所以说这些,咱们啊要别跟,别跟这个属灵的原则较劲啊。别跟属灵的原则较劲,顺从属灵的原则。听明白了吗?顺从这属灵的原则,我就不相信我整不了。我告诉大家啊,早些年间的时候﹐我把心里话跟大家说一说啊。有的时候说着说着都会流眼泪。辛苦啊,很辛苦的。我告诉你啊,早晨提起包来去上班。上班,一个人上班,一个人下班。一个人上班,一个人下班,空空荡荡。讲道,那时候还有几只小猫听我讲道。哎哟,心里头难受。 一读人家,哎呀,张文俊牧师有好多门徒,他好多门徒,写的文可打击我信心。他说他一干三个月以后,教会就成了三千人。哎呀我的天哪,我跟吃了一个死克朗似的。哎呀那个难受。我怎么整这一年过去了小猫俩三只。两年过去小猫三四只,三年过去了小猫四五只,就按这速度进来的还不如私去的多。我跟你讲啊,哎呀,收拾收拾里面的信息。一听说人家建教会,哎呦,那鼓,那鼓好啊,你看那鼓唇摔的。他就说,我这脑子里有个疼痛。我一想就把我心坎儿给摔了。你看咱那骨子大得,看起来就不给劲儿。人家的舞台灯光,你看那底下的人,每个人举起手来。你看人家那个,但是在我里面有信心。在我里面有信心。是吧,你做你的。我,我……哈哈,What? 含着眼泪告诉自己,一定要建造一个充满神荣耀的教会。坚持了一天又一天,坚持了一年又一年,坚持了不知道在前面还有多少年。翻转的日子来到的时候,得胜的日子来到的时候,一连坚持了诸多年啊。你说这是不是,很有性格啊,很有性格嘛是不是啊。要不然怎么有故事讲给大家听呢?有故事嘛。我就这么坚持过来。难受的时候流点泪,是吧?开心,一难受我就干活,我干活。所以那个什么,那个叫死体教会的时候,那每一根线﹐每一个麦克风,每一台电脑,都是我装的。桌子是我订的,什么东西都我整的,整的可漂亮。看着,干完了。忘了人家那鼓﹐也忘了人家那舞台的灯光。光看着自己的好了,光看着自己的好了。服侍,服侍,是吧?越服侍。越有信心啊。

记住不要跟属灵的原则较劲。我们输就输在跟属灵的原则较劲上。我们顺从,顺从属灵的原则。我说你这些人是顺从这信息的原则。今天我告诉你,你做不到,但神绝对可以在你身上做到。这就讲了一个故事啊。他在随后讲了一个故事,讲了一个灯塔的故事。这灯塔的故事讲啥知道吗?

如果你看到这个灯塔的故事啊,在这个,如果你找到那本书啊。我给大家看看啊,找到那本书的话,这转眼就读到60多页了,那本书的60多页。他说一艘战舰,给前方有一个灯啊,闪一闪躲开。然后对方闪一闪躲开。战舰说:“我是战舰。”对方说:“我是灯塔。”听明白了吗?你战舰怎么的?战舰你要往灯塔上撞你试试啊。就完蛋了,别往上撞啊,别往上撞。 所以说我们今天要开始养成一个习惯。别去违背属灵的原则。今天你说走过来的路,基本上就是违背属灵原则的结果。违背属灵原则的结果,当我们不行的时候我们承认自己不行。但是我们也得承认,我们一定会成长,一步一个脚印。一步一个脚印总能够走到耶稣那里。听明白了吗? 所以我想今天不要做那种人,较劲啊。我就是这样的性格啊,躲开啊,人家说你躲开,我不躲啊,我非要往你身上撞啊。这不我小时候听像是吗?听像是较劲啊,喝点酒躺在大街上。人家说车来了。我就躺在大道中间,车来跟人较劲。然后呢,什么车?自行车,我就躺在这儿。车来了,什么车,摩托车,我就躺在这儿。什么车,小汽车,我就躺在这儿。你说谁嫌没事跟他较劲,是吧,没事跟他较劲。车来了,什么车,救火的,抬起屁股就走了。因为救火车撞死人,撞死人活该啊,是不是啊,你拦着救火车,是吧,你非得跟人较劲干啥。就是这样的样子啊,这样的样子。

所以说在我们的成长的过程当中必须追寻一个内在改变的原则。内在改变的原则啊。我们里面的东西改变了。我们里面东西改变成一个信心的原则的时候,很多事情变了。我常常做我不喜欢做的事儿,包括,我特别痛苦,就是牧养愚蠢的人特别的痛苦。后来我改了。这对我是恩典啊。我说神我是个无用的仆人,这都是我应该做的。我应该做的。你改的不挺好吗是不是啊,我是个无用的仆人,这都是我应该做的。你跟谁较劲呢?我不想做啊,我不做啊。没用啊,没用。 所以说今天咱们开始,开始不断地调整我们里边。我们里面如果有识别善恶,这个条件,那个条件,这个都不行,那个不行。有千万个理由败坏自己,就没有一点信心自己成长。所以解决问题就在自己里面。就在自己里面。哎呀,跟我讲那个理啊。我说哎呀,你的理由比那个酱油还多呀。是不是啊。简直是理由站的,你干脆开个理由站多好啊。人家开汽油站,你开理由站的。你啊。 所以说我们今天要开始﹐不管你上了多少课﹐不管你读了多少书,不管你多忙碌,如果你里面没改变,完蛋。你不过是个理由站。所以我们今天开始带着一个新的思想水平,带着新的一个思维模式,这个思维模式就是我们的七个好习惯。这个思维模式就是七个好习惯,大家能理解吗?全看你对事物如何看啊。我对事物看法,那是出了奇的,神奇一般的正面积极。你说难受不难受?难受。遇到事他能不难受?但难受完了以后,接下来没有人,没有人。可以跟神交的过境,因为神与我同在。

所以说今天咱们这一章不就读完了吗?是不是?读完了。听进去了没有?听进去了啊。还有千万个理由,千万个理由,啊,人家说千万个理由敬拜神﹐但千万个理由败坏自己﹐那哪行?好。我结束之前给大家讲一个故事。哎呀,这两个好朋友合伙做生意。两个好朋友合伙做生意啊。合伙做生意呢,争论哪,争论来,争论去,争论不休啊。我应该拿三十,你拿七十。然后另外一个说,不,我应该拿七十,你拿三十。另外一个说,不,我拿四十,你拿六十。听明白了吗?合伙做生意吗?你拿,不行,你拿六十,我拿四十。然后另外一个说,不,我拿七十,你拿三十。哎呀,我一看他一看,我说你争啥呢你啊?傻不拉几的,争啥呢?干啥呢?然后哥俩啊。你看啊,他我们俩啊就我说我说我占70%股份,他占30%,他非要40%,我要占60%。我不同意啊,不同意。我说你们俩光想着赚钱了是不是啊?光想着赚钱了是吧?光想着赚钱然后分钱是不是啊?那如果赔了呢?哎呀我天哪,这一讲赔了呢?

赛利亚,被魔鬼挟制了。想了想,我还是拿三十,问题解决了。所以你说这人哪,这脑袋光想着赚钱了是不是啊,没想着赔钱。所以说哎呀那脑子它不是有问题吗。咱得是思维模式得改呀。大家知道不,这两天股市发生了什么事儿?很多大牌的股票接近腰斩。那是如果一百亿投进去的话,咱不用说十个亿投进去的话,腰斩三个亿五个亿没了啊。就这样。光想着赚钱了,没想着赔钱哪。咱得明白这游戏规则。那得明白,是不是?那人十别三恶,自己不亏欠自己吗?是不是?人愚蠢,不是自己把自己整得不行吗?整得难受吗? 所以今天咱们弟兄姐妹重新收拾一下。这个从里往外改,不要改变别人。很多人想改变别人。我见到的想改变别人的人是最多的。想改变自己的很少看到。很少看到想改变自己。你不能用这眼神看我,那咋的你给我做整形啊你要,是不是,你要把我眼睛整一整啊,所以看到你的时候眼球躲开是吗,你说这是毛病,人家怎么看就怎么看呗。不行啊,是吧?能理解吗?这故事。就做了一个结束。我们脑袋要变聪明啊。脑袋里头想法不对,那不是情等着吃亏吗? 所以说这本书第一章咱们就读完了,读完了,是吧?下个礼拜呢,下个礼拜我给大家讲,好像我讲的比他讲的好,比他写的好,以为是我讲的。好像大家不太同意,没关系啊。大家不太同意,没关系。我喜欢法尔赛,我不太需要同意啊。那是吧,我讲完了我也挺享受的。但是问题是在哪儿呢?问题就是咱得改变自己。改变自己,不要永远想着去改变别人。

就算是我们服侍别人,记住啊,我们当中的牧者,我们当中的同工,就算是我们服侍别人,不是因为那个人需要你服侍,是因为你需要服侍,你在服侍当中成长。多好的借口啊!激励我们的这些同工,拼命地服侍,多好的借口啊!你说我这四项工作做的不错吧?我就是这么干的,我不是忽悠他,我是自己也这么干。我自己就这么干。好,开心。 我们今天就常常掉到一个固定的思维模式里﹐如果思维模式不断的调整﹐调整来调整去,调整来调整去﹐你会成为一个了不起的人﹐因为你心里都如何思量﹐你人一生就会怎样﹐好吧,就告诉自己﹐天天早晨起来告诉自己﹐我是个了不起的人﹐我是个有信心的人。我是个有命定的人。就算是我不行,神也会为我成就。好,愿神祝福大家。弟兄姐妹再见。哎,别忘了啊,别忘了啊,回去读第二章啊。啊,我就怕大家忘了啊,得提个醒啊,提个醒。读第二章。
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